This is very true. I've been on dating sites for two years now, having learned about scammers the hard way, although I lost nothing because I believe God protected me and still does. But when you read enough profiles, then you begin to wonder how those calling themselves Christian can stomach what they allow. Because it's so contrary to God. It's because there's a new kind of Christianity, a really laid back one where anything goes and God's okay with it. So if you get "too spiritual" by telling them you won't do sex outside of marriage? Well, you won't hear from them again. Many even ENJOY telling you right up front that you'd better be affectionate and love to kiss. So, what have I done? I've taken to witnessing about the love of God, which seems to defeat their purpose for being on the site (so they say). They're busy liking your photo, but could (most often) care less about reading your story (profile, it's called). So, yes, extreme caution is advised. I will never again make the mistake of responding to someone's personal email, because that's the first clue that you will be in for it. The scammers are EVERYWHERE just waiting, lurking...and, believe me, they take pictures of nice looking guys (identity theft) and do a write up that makes you believe they've really been captured by you, and you've just GOT to respond. Then, generally, it's one week of wondrously romantic conversations and the bomb is dropped. They've got an urgent situation and you, of course, must send money quickly to help. Or, maybe they know some child that needs help, or someone is dying. The one that almost scammed me, considered himself financially successful, ready to bring in a large account. That's when he ended up in Togo, Africa, without his traveler's tickets and I was, of course, the ONLY one he could rely on to get him a hotel room! After all, I was now supposed to be so MADLY in love and he promised me the sun, the moon, and the stars. Yes...it all starts like that when you get out of the safety net of the dating site. So, live and learn. There are also locals who are honest, but they've become hardened by worrying about"gold diggers", "players", "drama" and "baggage." Oh, and they also get angry if your picture is not recent, though, believe me, it doesn't matter HOW unprofessional and scruffy THEY are. But YOU'RE expected to be near perfect! It can be brutal, trust me. You'd better have your wits about you and be prepared to give an answer for the God you serve. Then be prepared to be overlooked, rejected, chewed out, turned in! And, also watch your account, because the dating site won't tell you, that unless you don't keep an eye on your next monthly payment, it will come out automatically! Well, I guess that should give you some things to think about regarding dating sites. They CAN work. I've had two dates. But I also learned what I shared earlier...that though they say they're not like other guys looking for sex? They are...Christian, or not. It will be a real test for you. But tell them about Jesus? And it will also be the loneliest, ADDICTING thing you've ever experienced.
