Thanks for this Sue.
I agree with what you say about the lake of fire. It is not called lake of fire because it is a pleasant place.
As for weeping and gnashing of teeth we know this is from a type of separation anxiety Luke 13:28.
Rich man, is a valid reference. If there is fire in Hades, there will definitely be fire in ''the lake of fire''.
I want you to now move on two steps further and agree with the following.
1. God does not repay evil with evil as He is not evil 1 John 1:5. He has no evil in Him whatsoever. As such, all thoughts of cruel torture in the ''lake of fire'' need to be removed. Being burnt alive as we know it, is cruel torture.
2. None of these verses you quoted point to cruel torture. They point to the reality of a state away from God. Darkness is a place with no light. A place of evil as John 3:19 links evil with darkness. Fire is not a metaphor but it is not fire as we know it. If it was the rich man would be asking for truck loads of water and would not be able to hold a conversation.
It is important that we teach hell be a terrible place. It is more important that we not taint God has having a dark side with regards to His punishment of the wicked in hell.
Dante's inferno and many un-scriptural books espouse that God is cruel, evil and vindictive. Basically, they espouse that God would punish the wicked as the devil would his enemy. IE, they imply God is a devil. As Christians who know scripture, we cannot support any un-scriptural depiction of hell. Even if it is seemingly logical to infer burn with fire = burn with fire.
God is light with no darkness in Him at all 1 John 1:5.
God would NEVER repay evil with evil. Fact.
Luke 13:28 -- 'separation anxiety' -- well -- that Could be one way of describing the reason For the "wailing and gnashing of teeth" -- to be thrown out of the presence of God. You're suggesting that this one reference To that is being misapplied. So that there Won't be that reaction to waking up in hell?! Well -- there Are those who apply it To being in hell for a reason. Probably due to a better understanding of that passage.
You've landed on the point that being in a scenario that burning in a lake of fire and brimstone would be cruel torture. Scripture / God's Word tells us that That environment is Only Meant for three 'people' ie satan, the beast and the false prophet. Everyone else has been given The way to be in New Jerusalem in God's presence in the perfect environment that He's preparing for us in the future. So -- if you consider that environment to be cruel torture - fine. those three people deserve it. And , actually, we All deserve that existence for eternity -- because we are All sinners and fall short of the glory of God. The penalty for sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ the Lord.
So -- all a person Needs to do is accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior and 'we' will become a son/ daughter of God through the blood of Jesus Chris.
The scenario of the rich man and Lazarus -- YOU figure that he isn't Really in that bad a situation Simply because he's not asking for a Lot more water. He IS asking for Mercy for that bit of water on his tongue Probably because he knows he doesn't even Deserve That much. And he Will be feeling That way for Ever.
And if he hadn't been having That conversation -- we would not have that information In Scripture. God IS letting 'us' know how bad it will be in hell while the sinner is waiting For the lake of fire and brimstone.
God is BOTH loving And His punishment is Perfect. And we Need to be Very appreciative of His Mercy.
I've never read Dante's inferno -- I've Heard about it. God Does punish the wicked -- they Are evil. The only enemy that satan has is God And That is because satan / Lucifer was Not satisfied with how God created him. He was created as God's right-hand man -- but That wasn't good enough for Lucifer -- he wanted Everything. He wanted to be God, himself. He had a rebellious attitude and got a lot of other angels to be on his side -- his rebellious nature got him and his followers thrown out of heaven. He's been the greatest liar / deceiver in this world.
That which 'we' need to accept is the Scriptural reality of what hell now is for the dead non-believers and how horrible the Future lake of fire and brimstone Will be and that it Will last for eternity.
And, you're right -- the fire we read about in God's Word is Not like the fire we know of Now. Fire Now has to have fuel to continue burning -- it will eventually burn itself out. Not so in eternity -- eternal fire is exactly That -- eternal -- never going out. And in a fire 'here' a person dies of smoke inhalation before they feel the actual fire. In eternity -- whatever we end up breathing Will hurt our lungs and eyes. And That will last for eternity, too.
We all have the personal choice to make.
Those who Don't accept God's Way to be Out -- will find themselves In. We have Plenty of warning -- it's Our decision to acknowledge and accept our condition and God's remedy For it.
We have God's light in this world -- in hell -- there will be No light -- God's Absence. Total darkness -- maybe we Will be able to hear everything happening around us. But we won't be able to See anything.