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I don’t want to carry this burden anymore, all the hatred and fury, but there is one person that I simply cannot forgive. And I know being a Christian I should forgive, even pray for those. But I just can’t. What do I do? Thank you
What do you do? You forgive that someone. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It's a choice. You cancel that debt that you feel they owe you. If you do not forgive them, YOU carry the burden and they don't know and probably don't care...You forgive for you. Not for them. On the other hand, If you don't forgive them, you block God from forgiving you.I don’t want to carry this burden anymore, all the hatred and fury, but there is one person that I simply cannot forgive. And I know being a Christian I should forgive, even pray for those. But I just can’t. What do I do? Thank you
Amen and its also Obedience unto the Father and His Ways.Forgiveness is not a feeling. It's a choice.
Great post. I don't think that we should expect to immediately come to a place where we no longer feel hurt, or even feel anger at times. But during those times of hurt where do we go? We can go to God instead of dwelling in our hurt and allowing the anger to overcome us. Choose, again and again, to forgive and let go.Sometimes other people hurt us so badly, and the wounds run so deep that forgiveness has to be a process rather than an event - it's not something that can be dealt with in one go.
From your opening post, it seems that you want to be able to forgive, but find that you don't have the strength.
Some suggestions from my experience - I hope they are helpful to you in some way
- + Be completely honest and open about the situation before God. Tell him the whole extent of the pain and hurt you are carrying. Don't spare any details.
- + Refuse to be owned by the bad things that have happened. When memories of how you've been wronged return, remind yourself that you are committed to living in God's grace and a spirit of forgiveness rather than dwelling in the things that have damaged you
- + Ask God to transform your mind and to give you the grace to forgive. If the burden is too great, ask him to shoulder it for you
- + Talk to trusted Christians and ask them to help you pray for forgiveness
- + Be patient and kind to yourself
- + Know that grace is always costly. And priceless
- + Remember the man who said to Jesus: "Lord, I believe! help my unbelief". How about "Lord, I forgive! Help my unforgiveness"?
- + Don't expect freedom from your burdens to come all at once.
Know that if you hold on to unforgiveness, it will eventually consume you. Better to pass all that to the love and grace of God. It is possible to pray for God to bless a person who has hurt you, even if it is an act of will and obedience rather than a spontaneous thing.
I don’t want to carry this burden anymore, all the hatred and fury, but there is one person that I simply cannot forgive. And I know being a Christian I should forgive, even pray for those. But I just can’t. What do I do? Thank you
Of course. Forgiving does not mean all the hurt is gone immediately...Healing cannot come, though, until one forgives. Again....I know by experience.Great post. I don't think that we should expect to immediately come to a place where we no longer feel hurt, or even feel anger at times. But during those times of hurt where do we go? We can go to God instead of dwelling in our hurt and allowing the anger to overcome us. Choose, again and again, to forgive and let go.
I don’t want to carry this burden anymore, all the hatred and fury, but there is one person that I simply cannot forgive. And I know being a Christian I should forgive, even pray for those. But I just can’t. What do I do? Thank you
I don’t want to carry this burden anymore, all the hatred and fury, but there is one person that I simply cannot forgive. And I know being a Christian I should forgive, even pray for those. But I just can’t. What do I do? Thank you
I don’t want to carry this burden anymore, all the hatred and fury, but there is one person that I simply cannot forgive. And I know being a Christian I should forgive, even pray for those. But I just can’t. What do I do? Thank you
Lots of great responses and wisdom here. Remember that the Christian walk is impossible apart from the Holy Spirit helping us through life’s trials and difficulties. Our model is Jesus and look at the Cross for what He did for you, personally.
While dying on the Cross...
“Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” And they divided up his clothes by casting lots.” Luke 23:34
I don’t want to carry this burden anymore, all the hatred and fury, but there is one person that I simply cannot forgive. And I know being a Christian I should forgive, even pray for those. But I just can’t. What do I do? Thank you
Preach on! AMEN.The more I go through this daily... The Holy Spirit is teaching me to forgive by faith. Meaning say to the Lord.. I want and am willing to obey Your Word and ways, so I need Your help to truly forgive this person. And His Love and grace for you will help you do the rest. You make the first step to say I forgive them by faith and the Lord will help you reach the goal of total peace and forgiveness towards this person.
Renew your mind to the Scriptures about the Father's Love for you. And the fact that He placed His Love within you (Romans 5:5 says poured out into you heart) when you were first born again. As you make the choice to renew your mind with the Word... Romans 12:2 says that The Word will transform you by changing your thinking (ampc) on o what He desires. Phil 2:13 ampc says that He has (is) given you the power and desire to do what pleases Him... Its not your strength, but His working in you.
Find your peace and tell Him your willing to be willing to be obedient... He will help you with the rest. Trust Him to lead and guide you to green pastures and still waters.
Always remember and trust in God's justice. He will take care of the wrong done to you. Forgiveness gets the poison out of you and cuts the ties that you have to this person right now. It let's or begins to cultivate Love within you, and you'll notice healing (emotionally and physically) begin to manifest also.
Another thing to realize is that the enemy will try to keep bringing you thoughts about the wrong committed to you. So this means that you will at some point need to begin to slap those down.. Refuse to think them. Remind yourself you have forgiven this person by faith, and have cast the care of the wrong over into His (God's) hands to judge and justly deal with.
None of what your dealing with can be done in your own strength. But as you take the first step His power will give you the strength to carry it out. Ask for God's help and be willing to submit to His will. It has taken you a while to get to where you are, and only by taking your thoughts captive and making them obedient to God's Word (meaning find out what God's Word says and then conform your thinking to it) and being willing to be obedient... Can you get through this. Take it one moment or step at a time and in no time you will be past this.
Will keep you in our prayers
Blessings
Ask God to help you, once you commit to forgive he will rise up in you. It took a long long time for me to really forgive the man partially responsible for my daughter's death. A long time. Even though he died too.
Corrie Ten Boom forgave a cruel Nazi death camp guard face to face. Several of her family, her father, sister and nephew died at th e hands of their captors.
No matter what their sin or offense you must forgive. Satan will speak as your own thoughts saying "I can't forgive this person".
If you don't forgive then neither will you be forgiven. Pity for the person will actually replace anger after your heart is right. Unforgivness will set you away from fellowship with God and there's nothing worse than that.
I don’t want to carry this burden anymore, all the hatred and fury, but there is one person that I simply cannot forgive. And I know being a Christian I should forgive, even pray for those. But I just can’t. What do I do? Thank you