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Wait on GOD or Pursue?

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Wait on GOD or Pursue?

  • Pursue a believer

    Votes: 7 29.2%
  • Wait on GOD

    Votes: 14 58.3%
  • Not Sure

    Votes: 3 12.5%

  • Total voters
    24
Active Member
Waiting on God would also encompass pursuing a believer. Just as waiting on God for water would also encompass drinking from a fresh water source. Abraham and Isaac both waited for God and also pursued wives for their sons.
 
New Member
I'll start " with God anything is possible". I was divorced from a non christian wife after 20 yrs, I became a christian during the marriage. I will say that the circumstances that brought about the divorce was of God, not by my hand. Now, I put it in the Lord's hand for a mate. I met some friends at a restaurant and saw my soon to be wife (never saw her before). The Holy Spirit in me let me know she was God's choice for me and we were to be married.. I hadn't talked to her yet and it was a month later till we talked.. Yes, she was a thrice divorced christian and 6 months later we are married. The Blessings of our marriage is amazing.
 
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I'll start " with God anything is possible". I was divorced from a non christian wife after 20 yrs, I became a christian during the marriage. I will say that the circumstances that brought about the divorce was of God, not by my hand. Now, I put it in the Lord's hand for a mate. I met some friends at a restaurant and saw my soon to be wife (never saw her before). The Holy Spirit in me let me know she was God's choice for me and we were to be married.. I hadn't talked to her yet and it was a month later till we talked.. Yes, she was a thrice divorced christian and 6 months later we are married. The Blessings of our marriage is amazing.
That's interesting. May I ask regarding this:

The Holy Spirit in me let me know she was God's choice for me and we were to be married
How exactly did you know it was from the Holy Spirit at that time?
 
New Member
That's interesting. May I ask regarding this:



How exactly did you know it was from the Holy Spirit at that time?
I am a Christian saved by Grace, that is, I'm born again, therefore, the Holy Spirit lives in me. Its an indescribable feeling, yet all knowing what will happen, not how it will happen, knowing its completely God's plan.
 
Loyal Member
@Chad,
Question:
What do you think is the right choice as for finding a spouse?

1. Wait on GOD
2. Pursue an equally yoked believer?

Option 1
Asking GOD for a spouse and faithfully waiting and trusting Him

Mark 11:24
Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive [them], and ye shall have [them].

Philippians 4:19
And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.

Option 2
Pursue someone who's a genuine believer and of course, still trusting Him

Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

1 Corinthians 7:8-9
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Most do not know what it means to love another person righteously in Godly love, so they "MUST" learn to be "CONTENT" and alone first. They must learn this above how they "FEEL" emotionally about desiring to marry someone. If they cannot control themselves, it's wisdom to wait and be certain God is leading them. Option #1 is God's perfect will. Option #2 is an option for the believer in the flesh naively looking for problems.

1 Corinthians 7:8
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.

1 Corinthians 7:28
But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

This can cause a believer to desire more of the world when trying to please their mate in the fleshly livings of life. It can also cause them to go backwards away from Christ because of the troubles the wrong mate can bring.

1 Corinthians 7:32
But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
1 Corinthians 7:33
But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:34
There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
 
Active Member
Interesting topic. Looks like it this thread is about 4 years old but worthy of reviving!

I don't claim to be an expert on this topic at all :wink: and I voted "Wait on God" but I think it is a combination. I think a Christian who is single needs to mix with and fellowship with other believers in order to find a spouse and maybe, their Christian friends will know another single Christian friend... and so on.:smile:

Just thinking out loud. I know some who think that God will work it out and find them a partner, and send one to them if they just stay at home.. but that doesn't always work out!

Does God have the perfect one for everyone and will He make your paths cross? Maybe so but the Bible also says "Marry whomsoever you will, in the Lord."

Side note - my wife and I met at a mission. The moment she saw me she had a thought flash in her mind "That is the one you are going to marry." She brushed it aside and sort of forgot about it. I didn't start "noticing" her till a month or two later. Very close quarters in the mission and we tried to keep it platonic until the mission term was over. :grin:
 
Loyal Member
I was 22 and a confirmed bachelor, looking forward to life as a US Navy sailor. At boot camp I let it be known I would see the world and not marry until I was at least 40. A Christian who read his little Bible nightly there told me I ought to be real and just wait for God to arrange such things. Well, I was running as far from God as I might, though not disbelieving in Jesus. I just didn't know him personally yet. I finally got a week of leave, so went home thinking I might die over Vietnam. While there that week I met my sister's friend, went on a date reluctantly. I was 'struck dumb' from that meeting, then cut my trip off suddenly and returned to base. Whew! Escaped.

My next trip home a month later before being arranged to fly aerial reconnaissance over the Vietnam conflict, my mother asked me to let her invite Jan over for lunch. "No, please, Mom, I want to do things, go places. I'm afraid I might get attached to her." So she came over, and deep inside me I knew "This is your wife." I returned to training, having that "voice" in me 24/7 for a week, then one night called her, proposed marriage. I took 3 more days leave to go home, marry, and spend our honeymoon on the road back to California. We did that in 1967, our first home literally on Ventura Beach in an abandoned lifesaver building, living off base.

At the time I was still being trained to fly over and around the war zone, taking high altitude photos. My wife began praying for a better future, so believed for a promotion into another field. Soon I was promoted to ATN3 in an electronic shop at Pt. Mugu, CA. I stayed stateside all along, while all my buddies who went to Vietnam perished in their spy planes. She again prayed for promotion, so made ATN2 and sent to Norfolk, VA., keeping helicopter and jet electronics working. What a great help-mate I found!

We have remained together happily married since then, 51 years and counting. The Lord picks well.
 
Loyal Member
@Chad,


Most do not know what it means to love another person righteously in Godly love, so they "MUST" learn to be "CONTENT" and alone first. They must learn this above how they "FEEL" emotionally about desiring to marry someone. If they cannot control themselves, it's wisdom to wait and be certain God is leading them. Option #1 is God's perfect will. Option #2 is an option for the believer in the flesh naively looking for problems.

1 Corinthians 7:8
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.

1 Corinthians 7:28
But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

This can cause a believer to desire more of the world when trying to please their mate in the fleshly livings of life. It can also cause them to go backwards away from Christ because of the troubles the wrong mate can bring.

1 Corinthians 7:32
But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
1 Corinthians 7:33
But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:34
There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
I failed at verse 32,33, but my wife lived verse 34. I just "thought" I was running away from God, but was running right back to where He had my wife to be waiting. :laughing:
 
The pursue the believer part of the question seems to imply a lack of faith. But, if you prayed for a boat to come save you from a flood and one showed up you would get in it. You wouldn't just say you needed to wait. There is an action that implies faith and there is an action that doesn't. But, when we pray we are to anticipate that God is going to answer and that things will change.
 

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