@Jessca95
Greetings,
may i encourage
you and your boyfriend in a little of my own experience?
Some years ago when one of my little ones was being lovingly incubated in his mother's womb, growing and doing the pre-birth stuff, a sudden change took place where he was no longer able to be carried safely, both for him and his mother. The decision was made to cut him out, as they do, and he was over 8 weeks premature.
As a dad, that was not something i fancied, much less did his mother like it. He was put in care in the hospital system and me being me found that difficult. Again it was very hard on his mother...
very hard. She was in a different ward and room and all and had to get to her baby, still recovering from torn and sewn up innards, and as small as he was, he had to be fed with tubes and the like.
I don't think us men would handle it very well.
I was at that time a long way away looking after our other young children, in a semi-rural type town, an hour from the city where mother and baby were, with no licence to drive car, bike, bus or truck, and relying heavily on support from others in a community we were new to. I got talking to a neighbour and she got telling me about her nephew who was also delivered very early and how small he was. She went on to say that he was now a burly farmer. That was comforting but still did not make it much easier for me and certainly didn't unite my son with his mother. It took weeks before my wife and our child were able to be together and she didn't leave him alone at the hospital... a trying time for her, adding to this, being separated from her other children she loves dearly. There were all sorts of other discomforts and inconveniences as she waited the day that our son was given the all clear.
BUT.. I want to reassure you that NOW... he is a strong and healthy, rough and tumble character and full of beans.... alive and living. So while what you are facing seems difficult, try to look forward and be encouraged that
it won't be long and it will all be behind you as you busy yourself with your child and children and watch them grow grow grow! Please pass this story on, as simple as it is, to your boyfriend and let him know that a fellow dad has been through it and while it was not my cup of tea, the son I now have with me (with us) is as much a beautiful child as any other and while it is not the best scenario, it passes.. the thing to remember is to keep a cool head, a loving heart and a grateful way....
And my personal message to your boyfriend from a man, as in man-to-man, is... be kind and tenderhearted to your partner, the mother of your child... she is going through all this too.
Now is the time to love.
Bless you both in Jesus name ....><>
