Brother Chad,I have been in prayer much for you on this.,I received this,you can judge this to see if you believe this is true for you! Did you ever eat a frosted cake of some kind. What is left of the cake after the frosting is gone,is the real cake. Following Jesus after ones salvation, can be compared as much the same way. We first are so glad,but then we find out what is required from us.
After the frosting is gone from the cake,we now really get tested in our like or dislike for what we now have. What looked so good,may be even better after we take the frosting off of it.WHY? because we enter the heart of what eyes loved to look at.
But to decide on partaking of this,can be the problem,what if? What if this, what if that? I of course have never married,but have seen many couples who after a few years,all seem to go through a great struggle. Many come to find out who is more important? themselves, or there helpmate?
True the helpmate may have the same problem,but we being the man must endure.Which means we have to be the example even though, she may be hard headed at times. We cannot be.For if we are,then how can our helpmate ever learn? Love is not just a word,it means hardship.long suffering, and many times of enduring. It takes a great deal of work!
Work which you have labored on these many years.For your labor first got her to the point of becoming your wife my brother. She became your wife,because she saw something in you, you did not see. She saw how really good the cake is in you! Even if you yourself never did.
Anger and words,words we can never take back,even though we wish we could.Who among us have not failed in this test! We all have! From your view,you may see her as being selfish,uncaring,even mean. The hard part to realize through all this,is that, that is what we created for ourself,we look as men for a mirror image of ourselves.
And sometimes when we get this,we are not very happy with the result.So now, it may be time to sit back a bit and consider just what we did create? What purpose? And for how long? Some women look for an excuse to be bad.Just like children do. harsh words spoken stop this for the moment,but never in the long term,they like children are looking for a steady example they themselves can follow.
They are looking for the way. They follow us until they do not think we are following the right way.Then they stop,then we get mad,and say what are you doing!! come on!! I know the way! But they also know something we forgot,we may have stumbled along the way.
They may be in great need of reassurance that you do know the way. I am not saying you are at all in this way! I am saying many couples are. I am just giving my thoughts in love to what MAY be the condition. When you have a child,they act as there parents do,they may not always speak, but they watch, close,so does our helpmate.
Christmas to me is not the end of a year,but rather the beginning of a New Year! The birth of Jesus can also give birth to greater hope for all of us! Perhaps a needed vacation,just the two of you is needed. Going back to a time when you so cared for each other,that no matter what was around either of you,it did not matter,you were both so happy just to be with each other!
When Jesus looks at us,we may not be in to good of shape,but Jesus does not look, at our present,he looks in faith to a time when we were on target with him!(Psalm 25:6-13) Just something to consider brother Chad! You sure know the Lord yourself! My prayers are always with the both of you!!