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Dear Married brothers and sisters in Christ,
It can be be easier said than done when we are ministered, "We must always communicate in our marriages." Think of a time when you experienced a communication breakdown with your spouse.
Those of you that had an opportunity to read last month's thread on Marriage Spirituality, Discipline Of Prayer..God hears our prayers. Why not our challenges to converse in marriage? He can break down walls and create an opening for dialogue, however, it is a delicate process. Here are some steps. Please think about how these areas may aid you and your spouse in developing the joys of discipline in communicational growth;
Developing Soul Intimacy, a stronger bonding and friendship within your marriage to each other.
Developing couple conversation is not merely knowing what to say but knowing how to listen.
Each day we must make the decision to build intimacy with our spouse.
It is important to know and overcome the obstacles to soul intimacy.
Four Levels of Intimacy in marriage
Functional - Discuss the areas of stability in your marriage
Receptive - Ready or willing to receive favorably, open and responsive to ideas, impressions, or suggestions.
Reciprocal - Mutually shared, felt, respected, or shown by both sides.
Knitted - To form, to join closely, unite securely.
Equipping by Listening
Please read and meditate on James 1:19-20, "My dear brothers (and sisters), take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires."
Create an equipping environment. When you folks spend time in conversation, spend it in a quiet area not in front of the 46" television or your entertainment center with Bose speakers. Lol!
Equip your spouse's unique spirituality. Please support her desired ministries to serve God. Allow her to be led by God's calling of her gifts and talents in the church. If there are struggles with this lay this at His feet, be still, and allow for God's direction.
Equip your spouse's priesthood. He is being built up to be a Godly servant in his home and in the church. If there are struggles with this lay this at His feet, be still, and allow for God's direction.
Suggestions for putting it into practice your conversation.
1. Talk about your first experiences of warmth of God's love in your life.
2. Share how each of you now experience closeness with God.
3. Discuss what you are presently doing to open up your life to God.
4. Consider what you sense God is saying to you and your spouse now.
5. Share some of the pictures (images) you have of God.
6. Apart from your marriage relationship, consider the most important relationships in your life and then talk about your spiritual desires for these people.
7. Talk about what you most often feel guilty of.
8. Discuss your current level of contentment with life, with the marriage, with the family, with church, with work, etc.
9. Share with your spouse the meaning of your life.
10. Discuss with each other your dreams for (and concerns of) the future.
Many of you folks are celebrating a long and fruitful marriage! Please share your testimony that may be an encouragement to the rest of us.
Your brother in Christ Jesus.
It can be be easier said than done when we are ministered, "We must always communicate in our marriages." Think of a time when you experienced a communication breakdown with your spouse.
Those of you that had an opportunity to read last month's thread on Marriage Spirituality, Discipline Of Prayer..God hears our prayers. Why not our challenges to converse in marriage? He can break down walls and create an opening for dialogue, however, it is a delicate process. Here are some steps. Please think about how these areas may aid you and your spouse in developing the joys of discipline in communicational growth;
Developing Soul Intimacy, a stronger bonding and friendship within your marriage to each other.
Developing couple conversation is not merely knowing what to say but knowing how to listen.
Each day we must make the decision to build intimacy with our spouse.
It is important to know and overcome the obstacles to soul intimacy.
Four Levels of Intimacy in marriage
Functional - Discuss the areas of stability in your marriage
Receptive - Ready or willing to receive favorably, open and responsive to ideas, impressions, or suggestions.
Reciprocal - Mutually shared, felt, respected, or shown by both sides.
Knitted - To form, to join closely, unite securely.
Equipping by Listening
Please read and meditate on James 1:19-20, "My dear brothers (and sisters), take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires."
Create an equipping environment. When you folks spend time in conversation, spend it in a quiet area not in front of the 46" television or your entertainment center with Bose speakers. Lol!
Equip your spouse's unique spirituality. Please support her desired ministries to serve God. Allow her to be led by God's calling of her gifts and talents in the church. If there are struggles with this lay this at His feet, be still, and allow for God's direction.
Equip your spouse's priesthood. He is being built up to be a Godly servant in his home and in the church. If there are struggles with this lay this at His feet, be still, and allow for God's direction.
Suggestions for putting it into practice your conversation.
1. Talk about your first experiences of warmth of God's love in your life.
2. Share how each of you now experience closeness with God.
3. Discuss what you are presently doing to open up your life to God.
4. Consider what you sense God is saying to you and your spouse now.
5. Share some of the pictures (images) you have of God.
6. Apart from your marriage relationship, consider the most important relationships in your life and then talk about your spiritual desires for these people.
7. Talk about what you most often feel guilty of.
8. Discuss your current level of contentment with life, with the marriage, with the family, with church, with work, etc.
9. Share with your spouse the meaning of your life.
10. Discuss with each other your dreams for (and concerns of) the future.
Many of you folks are celebrating a long and fruitful marriage! Please share your testimony that may be an encouragement to the rest of us.
Your brother in Christ Jesus.
