Interestingly tonight the family that split up in my church, the wife came with her two daughters. She didnt stay for the meal but to say hello and wish happy birthday to another church member. She is the adulterous one, I know this because her parents told me. And also the friend in church who was a close neighbour to the former couple. It was announced in church by the husband they were separated and they both left our church after, he went to another church and she didnt go back to any church. The other couple which split and was the adulterous husband with the wife they both left. I wasnt really around when all this happened but I knew that those three except the innocent husband were taken off the membership list of the church. Not everyone knows in the church what happened of course. But even so people still pray they will reconcile because of their four children. The children were happy to come to church and join in with the others for games and i told them they were missed, the youngest had grown up fast and nearly as tall as her mother. I had a chat with the wife/mother..but it was just small talk she and I have never many deep conversations with her about God. I dont know how God is working in her but since shes good friends with a few of the members (but still unrepentant and living in sin) shes drawn back to church. She could have visited the church member at home or rang her but she didnt. So I think there is hope. She didnt come with her new bf on her arm. I dont think that bf was ever welcome back if he showed his face in church because that adukterous couple totally pretneded they were christians and then the husband goes and commits adultery stealing the wife of his supposed best mate. They were on the worship team and everything but...The guy said something regarding Mary mother of Jesus that was very unchristian and made me question was he a believer or not. They were as some people politely put it 'gender diverse' the wife turns out lesbian and the husband a cross dresser. But they hid it. Anyway..the whole thing was weird and crazy and its not my place to judge and i havent been asked to help to sort out anything between them. But you see I was at their wedding, i was and still am their neighbour they were married in the sight of God and their children are raised christians. So I always hope and pray that God will work in their marriage even though at the moment they are seperated and the wife unrepentant. Her parents Im sure are praying too. They love their son in law who did not do anything wrong..it was all very sad and a shock to the congregation. To me they were quite opposite personalities though and I think marriage scan be more difficult when you dont have likeminded temperments. He quiet , introvert and she's loud and extrovert. But i still feel odd cos I cant just ask her hows her husband..i suppose I can but it would be awkward since what do you say when a couple is separated? Do you say..are you back together yet did you ditch the bf? just come out with it?! I mean whats the worse she can do, lie to me and pretend? I have seen couples I know actually split up yet pretend they are still together, and they didnt know I knew. Yea crazy.