JehovahDaughter
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I'm not sure where to post this, but I suppose prayers would be nice as well as some advice. I recently started med school and before hand, I expected that forming strong friendship bonds might be hard, due to my faith, however I did not think it would be this...lonely.
My parents would simply tell me "we sent you to study, not to make friends" if I discussed this with them, so I don't and that is fair enough, but it would be nice to take a break from studying and have someone to discuss with, someone to talk to, go out with and etc.
Since starting med school, although it's only been a couple of weeks, it's seeming more and more difficult to be friends with anyone. Most of the people in my year seem to have formed instant friendships. I guess it is because they go out quite a lot. I've only been out twice with other people. First time was with a group of girls from my year to buy household materials and secondly was book shopping with a girl from my year. I mean these people are nice and all but i'm not their friend, I know this because it's blatantly obvious.
I was thinking maybe I should go out with them more often, but most of their outings are at night to bars and out clubbing. I do not believe that there is anything necessarily wrong with being in a club or bar, but I also don't think it's the kind of place a child of God should be in; in addition to this I do not drink at all and i've noticed people react quite oddly to me when I say that I do not drink. I heard three muslim guys say the same thing, but the thing with this muslim guys is that they stick together, so even if other people don't want to be around them because of their beliefs, they have each other. There are so called Christians here who look at me like I am from mars because of the moral standards that I try to uphold. I'm not trying to force my beliefs down anyone's throat, as a matter of fact I have not even directly told anyone I am a Christian, I just tell them things about myself(when they ask) that leads them to that conclusion. (For example, someone might ask me "what's your favourite drink?" My reply "Strawberry smoothie" They ask "I meant alcoholic beverage" Me: "I don't drink alcohol"...)
I suppose my question is, how do I survive 6 years of medical school with no true human friends? It's only been a few weeks and it's really hard and quite lonely, it's obviously going to get harder and i'm guessing lonelier. I know the holy spirit is a friend that is always there, but it would nice to have a human being that one can talk to and so on. I've kind of given up hope of forming any real friendships now, because it seems like everyone has amalgamated into their little groups and i'm on the outs.
My parents would simply tell me "we sent you to study, not to make friends" if I discussed this with them, so I don't and that is fair enough, but it would be nice to take a break from studying and have someone to discuss with, someone to talk to, go out with and etc.
Since starting med school, although it's only been a couple of weeks, it's seeming more and more difficult to be friends with anyone. Most of the people in my year seem to have formed instant friendships. I guess it is because they go out quite a lot. I've only been out twice with other people. First time was with a group of girls from my year to buy household materials and secondly was book shopping with a girl from my year. I mean these people are nice and all but i'm not their friend, I know this because it's blatantly obvious.
I was thinking maybe I should go out with them more often, but most of their outings are at night to bars and out clubbing. I do not believe that there is anything necessarily wrong with being in a club or bar, but I also don't think it's the kind of place a child of God should be in; in addition to this I do not drink at all and i've noticed people react quite oddly to me when I say that I do not drink. I heard three muslim guys say the same thing, but the thing with this muslim guys is that they stick together, so even if other people don't want to be around them because of their beliefs, they have each other. There are so called Christians here who look at me like I am from mars because of the moral standards that I try to uphold. I'm not trying to force my beliefs down anyone's throat, as a matter of fact I have not even directly told anyone I am a Christian, I just tell them things about myself(when they ask) that leads them to that conclusion. (For example, someone might ask me "what's your favourite drink?" My reply "Strawberry smoothie" They ask "I meant alcoholic beverage" Me: "I don't drink alcohol"...)
I suppose my question is, how do I survive 6 years of medical school with no true human friends? It's only been a few weeks and it's really hard and quite lonely, it's obviously going to get harder and i'm guessing lonelier. I know the holy spirit is a friend that is always there, but it would nice to have a human being that one can talk to and so on. I've kind of given up hope of forming any real friendships now, because it seems like everyone has amalgamated into their little groups and i'm on the outs.
