Word for Today / Overcoming your shyness

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Overcoming your shyness

‘A man who has friends must himself be friendly.’ Proverbs 18:24 NKJV

There are no shortcuts to overcoming shyness; you’re going to have to work at becoming comfortable being with people. But you can do it. Here are some sure-fire strategies that will help you make friends:

1) You can’t deny the fact that you’re shy, but the more you keep talking about it, the more you reinforce its control over you. ‘Wise words satisfy like a good meal; the right words bring satisfaction. The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences’ (Proverbs 18:20-21 NLT). Why own something so damaging to your goals and relationships? ‘God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind’ (2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV). Fear is a spirit, and you must learn to reject it! The fact that you have named yourself ‘shy’ is no reason to shy away from chances to overcome it. Avoidance just reinforces your fear.

2) Engage in an activity you really enjoy so that you’ll have something to chat about with passion and enthusiasm.

3) Try not to let signs and feelings of nervousness overwhelm you. Grin. It’s contagious, and it’s vital to appearing approachable.

4) Ask people to talk about their favourite subject – themselves. Then really listen and reply to their answers instead of worrying about what you will ask next.

Remember, you may be able to sway what people think about you, but you cannot control it – so stop thinking about their assessment or endorsement of you. Meditate on Philippians 4:6-9, and ‘the God of peace will be with you’ (Philippians 4:9 NKJV).

The Word for Today is authored by Bob and Debby Gass and published under licence from UCB International Copyright © 2022

 

[Twistie]

Overcoming your shyness

‘A man who has friends must himself be friendly.’ Proverbs 18:24 NKJV

There are no shortcuts to overcoming shyness; you’re going to have to work at becoming comfortable being with people. But you can do it. Here are some sure-fire strategies that will help you make friends:

1) You can’t deny the fact that you’re shy, but the more you keep talking about it, the more you reinforce its control over you. ‘Wise words satisfy like a good meal; the right words bring satisfaction. The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences’ (Proverbs 18:20-21 NLT). Why own something so damaging to your goals and relationships? ‘God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind’ (2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV). Fear is a spirit, and you must learn to reject it! The fact that you have named yourself ‘shy’ is no reason to shy away from chances to overcome it. Avoidance just reinforces your fear.

2) Engage in an activity you really enjoy so that you’ll have something to chat about with passion and enthusiasm.

3) Try not to let signs and feelings of nervousness overwhelm you. Grin. It’s contagious, and it’s vital to appearing approachable.

4) Ask people to talk about their favourite subject – themselves. Then really listen and reply to their answers instead of worrying about what you will ask next.

Remember, you may be able to sway what people think about you, but you cannot control it – so stop thinking about their assessment or endorsement of you. Meditate on Philippians 4:6-9, and ‘the God of peace will be with you’ (Philippians 4:9 NKJV).

The Word for Today is authored by Bob and Debby Gass and published under licence from UCB International Copyright © 2022

I don't agree with this we r all made different what one considers shy I see as a watcher.. I've always steered clear from peep I'm very particular who I will b around I don't do crowds I'm 55 neva been to a concert.. I don't do movie theater I don't do any kind of gathering really at all except when I'm on the streets have church with the people that happen to b around..

They use to say oh she a shy child oh she is withdrawn oh she she she.. I carried that label around like there was something wrong with me.. n there is not not all are social butterflies not all need the attention of people..

If one don't walk that walk in what people proclaim is shyness then they have no clue what they r talking about frfr

Because just because we don't associate with everyone I find it messed up we r labeled I've been labeled many things..

We r more selective more cautious we r more aware of the people that r surrounding us. It's like a feeling I get overpowered by n it's what is inside others like their anger their sadness their joy their hurt.. I can sense when someone around me is out to do harm.. unless one has it within them they wont understand.. but many rather label instead of talking n listening about it

Put me in a place where we can sit n sup with YH each other ya may wanna put a piece of tape ova my mouth lol


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