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Getting through family breakup
'When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned' ISAIAH 43:2
You may be in the middle of your parents' splitting up, and nothing feels worse than being stuck in the middle. It may feel like you're being torn in half. So, can you really 'walk through this fire' without being burned? The Bible says yes, but first you must:
1) Forgive yourself and your parents. Realise it's not your fault. You're not responsible for your parents' relationship, but it's easy to blame yourself. If you do feel responsible, read Isaiah 43:25. God forgives and forgets, and He'll give you the grace to forgive yourself, too. Forgiveness is the one power you always have over anybody who hurts you. So keep on forgiving your parents no matter what; every day. Only by forgiving will you be able to move on.
2) Take your time and stick with God. Don't expect it to all be sorted instantly. You've been hurt, and it will take time to heal. You may be on an emotional roller coaster, flitting between wanting them back together, and wanting them to suffer. Healthy people make healthy choices, so spend time reading God's Word, praying, asking advice, and letting God love you. '...your God is gracious and compassionate. He will not turn his face from you if you return to him' (2 Chronicles 30:9 NIV). It won't be easy, but realising God hasn't turned His back on you will help you through this.
written by Bob Gass
'When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned' ISAIAH 43:2
You may be in the middle of your parents' splitting up, and nothing feels worse than being stuck in the middle. It may feel like you're being torn in half. So, can you really 'walk through this fire' without being burned? The Bible says yes, but first you must:
1) Forgive yourself and your parents. Realise it's not your fault. You're not responsible for your parents' relationship, but it's easy to blame yourself. If you do feel responsible, read Isaiah 43:25. God forgives and forgets, and He'll give you the grace to forgive yourself, too. Forgiveness is the one power you always have over anybody who hurts you. So keep on forgiving your parents no matter what; every day. Only by forgiving will you be able to move on.
2) Take your time and stick with God. Don't expect it to all be sorted instantly. You've been hurt, and it will take time to heal. You may be on an emotional roller coaster, flitting between wanting them back together, and wanting them to suffer. Healthy people make healthy choices, so spend time reading God's Word, praying, asking advice, and letting God love you. '...your God is gracious and compassionate. He will not turn his face from you if you return to him' (2 Chronicles 30:9 NIV). It won't be easy, but realising God hasn't turned His back on you will help you through this.
written by Bob Gass
