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'A man who has friends must himself be friendly ...' Proverbs 18:24
Trust is a massive issue in friendships. How awful is it if you tell a friend something secret, and the next thing you know, people are sniggering behind your back because your mate 'just let it slip, sorry'. Or what about when a mate says they'll meet you in town at 11, then leave you standing outside Topshop for an hour because they 'made other plans and forgot, sorry'. Or when you ask you best bud round to play on the Xbox, and he says he can't 'cos he's got to stay in and help his mum - but then your sister sees him in town with a bunch of the cool guys from school, and he says he 'got his days mixed up - and didn't think you'd want to go anyway'.
When people are like that, you stop trusting them, and the friendship won't be the same again. So watch it if you're thinking about lying to a mate, or saying one thing and doing another. You might think it's just a little fib - but friendships are built on trust, not fibs.
Trust is like a mirror - when it's shattered it can be pieced back together again, but the cracks usually show, and you may well cut yourself and end up hurt when you're gluing it back together. The reflection is never quite the same either - it's distorted, and imperfect. So place value on your friends, trust them, and make sure they can trust you
written by Bob Gass
'A man who has friends must himself be friendly ...' Proverbs 18:24
Trust is a massive issue in friendships. How awful is it if you tell a friend something secret, and the next thing you know, people are sniggering behind your back because your mate 'just let it slip, sorry'. Or what about when a mate says they'll meet you in town at 11, then leave you standing outside Topshop for an hour because they 'made other plans and forgot, sorry'. Or when you ask you best bud round to play on the Xbox, and he says he can't 'cos he's got to stay in and help his mum - but then your sister sees him in town with a bunch of the cool guys from school, and he says he 'got his days mixed up - and didn't think you'd want to go anyway'.
When people are like that, you stop trusting them, and the friendship won't be the same again. So watch it if you're thinking about lying to a mate, or saying one thing and doing another. You might think it's just a little fib - but friendships are built on trust, not fibs.
Trust is like a mirror - when it's shattered it can be pieced back together again, but the cracks usually show, and you may well cut yourself and end up hurt when you're gluing it back together. The reflection is never quite the same either - it's distorted, and imperfect. So place value on your friends, trust them, and make sure they can trust you
written by Bob Gass
God Bless
