Godbehonored
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So no, just like God’s idolatrous people who went after idols and got themselves hurt (serves them right), those men who choose bad women are the same. Neither of those groups deserve ANY empathy. Their pain is well deserved.
Women who want to be holy, don’t marry men who choose bad women
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Godbehonored
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If you men say you can’t help but choose bad women because of abc reasons, then it’s no different from saying I’m better than all of you. Or you are saying that because of my wounds I should be just like you men, choosing bad men and living promiscuous.
You should be ashamed if you are an Ahab kind of man and you tolerate evil Jezebel women. God had a very poor evaluation of Ahab, he was an evil man in God’s eyes. You suffer as an Ahab because of your evil. Suck it up and stop whining like big babies about how unfair it is to be hurt by bad women. You deserved it.
You should be ashamed if you are an Ahab kind of man and you tolerate evil Jezebel women. God had a very poor evaluation of Ahab, he was an evil man in God’s eyes. You suffer as an Ahab because of your evil. Suck it up and stop whining like big babies about how unfair it is to be hurt by bad women. You deserved it.
Godbehonored
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Do you know what made me change my conclusion?
It’s this current man. Even after knowing that the Jezebel had ill will against me and hated me without cause, he STILL chose her because he thinks she’s doing all those bad things because she likes him. So essentially he tolerated Jezebel’s evil instead of standing against evil and defending the innocent. Says a LOT about what kind of bs he is, LMAO.
So why should men like Ahab get ANY empathy from me? Even God gives His unrepentant people over to suffering for betraying Him, men like him should suffer and SUCK IT UP. Men who behave like Ahab are EVIL just like the real Ahab was evil. They deserve NOTHING but suffering and pain. If this man ever comes back to his senses and comes back to me, ALL he will ever get is a slap in the face, nothing more. Even if he does become a godly man and love me I’m never gonna reciprocate, that’s what he deserves. Fair and square.
Godbehonored
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It’s not enough that men would choose Jezebels, they will go on to tolerate Jezebels’ evil and stand with Jezebels against women whom Jezebels hurt. This is a brand new flavor of disgusting.
MedicBravo
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Men who want to marry holy women don't let their looks and crocodile tears affect you.
Avoid women who play games. The more makeup she has, the longer her fake fingernails, more jewelry = higher maintenance and no intention of working once she has you hooked.
Ladies, avoid "bad boys" as the few who look but are not, are not as numerous as you think. Image is everything.
Avoid women who play games. The more makeup she has, the longer her fake fingernails, more jewelry = higher maintenance and no intention of working once she has you hooked.
Ladies, avoid "bad boys" as the few who look but are not, are not as numerous as you think. Image is everything.
Christina2000
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This is sound advice, in general. I would add, take time to get to know a potential partner's character before committing. Looks really are superficial.
MedicBravo
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You can't negate looks. You can't separate personality/personal merit from their appearance.
You could find a man attractive and then his personality/attitude is 100% a-hole 24/7.
On the flip side, I could meet or know a woman who I get along with really well and I'm not attracted to her.
No one can tell much about a person from a picture.
You could find a man attractive and then his personality/attitude is 100% a-hole 24/7.
On the flip side, I could meet or know a woman who I get along with really well and I'm not attracted to her.
No one can tell much about a person from a picture.
Christina2000
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No substitute for getting to know a person properly. Of course love can grow,attraction can grow. Love at first sight is I believe rare and often unreliable.
Feelings and emotions are very unstable things. It is personal qualities, steadfastness, reliability and such things that really matter. See how a person acts in a crisis or under real pressure and you get a good idea if you want to be with them for a lifetime.
As I get old, I marvel that any relationship works at all! We seek and fail to find perfection. Yet if you grow together, the bond strengthens and becomes more valuable with time and tests.
Only God is totally reliable.
MedicBravo
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Every relationship is a risk.
Attraction is subjective. Any good relationship especially a marriage has to have compromise and a neutral ground of sorts. No secrets.
If you truly love the other and self you want to and them to make the best decisions for their health.
I'd have no problem taking care of a future Mrs. if something happened. Working in Medicine helps you see people from a different perspective.
We are not simple creatures. There's no manual for relationships.
Twistie
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A relationship consists of not only Love both must have a good set of morals n standards n live by them one must b ready to commit to forsaken all others for the other
One must b able to blind one's wants n do what the other needs people say 50 50 but it's not true some days all I have is 20 percent can barely stand barely move with out every muscle screaming n nerves burning n hubby takes up the load n it's vise versa
What I have learned in my lifetime so far anywho
Twistie
Twistie
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Well ain't you a merciful one lol
Jesus_is_LORD
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Great advice, I agree.
A small point that should be no surprise to the Christian community but to the world it is a major stumbling block.
Many people commit their bodies before they have committed their hearts through vows. Meaning, the world
is comfortable with having sex before marriage and as a result it is very difficult for one to see clearly once
those boundaries are crossed. I would never court a lady if I don't see her as marriage material. And there
is much need for accountability. It is important to make sure one is not
spending time together alone with other eyes of accountability can't protect you
from your own fleshly desires.
I think if people kept things non-sexual in the touching before getting to know someone
and after, it would be much easier to end a relationship or derail the trajectory of a romantic relationship if one has
not begun those sexual and sensual habits of touching which we know is reserved for marriage.
Many will call Christians prunes and they will say we don't know how to have fun, but the truth is that probably
over 90% of people engage in sex or sexual touching before marriage in their regular "dating" habits. This just
adds a whole other layer of spiritual connections which makes it very difficult to pull away from.
So once again, I agree totally with you @Christina2000
"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge."
Hebrews 13:4
MedicBravo
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It's not about physical limitations.A relationship consists of not only Love both must have a good set of morals n standards n live by them one must b ready to commit to forsaken all others for the other
One must b able to blind one's wants n do what the other needs people say 50 50 but it's not true some days all I have is 20 percent can barely stand barely move with out every muscle screaming n nerves burning n hubby takes up the load n it's vise versa
What I have learned in my lifetime so far anywho
My ex-wife got into a bad car wreck while I was deployed. Emergency leave and I go home, get her from the hospital and spend 3 weeks taking care of her. By that time she's good enough to do more on her own and I have to go back.
You don't know true love and a relationship until a person can't do much and you have to bath, help them go to the restroom, fix all their meals, do laundry a different way b/c she has this "thing" about it, and take her places in a wheel chair.
It's not 50/50. Not 20/80. It's at minimum 100/100. Sometimes it's 180/20 b/c he/she is unable for some reason. It might be 20(You) and him/her 180 for some reason. When vows in front of God are taken seriously, you can learn real quick what is required.
Twistie
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We learn to b less selfish n more selfless every day
Twistie
Dear Brother and Sister,
Kinda true the 100/100 or any other percentage you want to give to the serving.
I had to do everything for her that was physically needed for the past 4 years, until my wife's passing the end of this July, while I held her hand.
Yet, there was so much more that she had given me, that all the while I had to that 100 percent, she was still giving me the additional 1000% and more I couldn't even begin to touch or grasp fully.
A smile, grin, growl, look, laugh or groan because of something I had said or done. The million little things that go uncounted and taken for granted in a relationship that goes up and down like a rollercoaster over the years.
While she could still talk earlier this year, she said I deserved another woman! The unselfishness and love in that little statement was overwhelming! As if I could leave her if it were
even possible for anyone else!!! God picked rightly when he placed us together, even while we didn't know it at the time ourselves.
There was a movie that we both watched a number of times over the years that is called Marriage Retreat. I would suggest you watch it if you haven't. Well worth it, and clean entertainment too.
Anyway, in one part the counselor drew on one of the wives' hands what appeared to be a triangle. She was at a loss at its significance and how it related to her marriage which was in trouble. As he said something like "you'll know when you figure this out". A little cheat here on this part of the movie. The meaning was that both her and her husband were at one corner which was the furthest from each other and from God, while God was at the top. As each one of them drew closer to God at the top, they in turn were drawing closer to each other. Great imagery, but even better point to take when married. Don't forget to keep God in front of your marriage, and when you do, because we do have a tendency to fall away, then reorient yourselves to going back to getting closer to God in your relationship, and your marriage will grow brightly in His loving Grace, and the Love for each other shines ever brightly. Till one of you or both go Home!
So, no matter how much you know or don't know about the other, allow God to be the keeper of one's marriage, and seek His advice/guidance before you seek a friend, or family, or even a counselor! He will answer and guide you in the way you each need to walk, even if it goes against the grain, or seems to make little sense at the time! He is Gracious and Loving and wants the best for those He made one in this covenant called Marriage.
With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC
Nick
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Twistie
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Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
N I know my hubby very well we was beasties for five yrs before he proposed mind u not dating beasties I was not well he come over spend nights weekends we watch movies n just talk n talk n talk
I've seen to much to blindly go Into a relationship let alone a marriage lol
He's had had a love affair with YH since a child n as did I
Funny his mamma started him in revelations
My godfather had me in Jubilees n I was drawn to Genesis
N actually we have no close friends his childhood friend lives in NJ we r in OK we pretty much live a solitude life we don't drive as of yet but YH has been revealing much n the miracle of marriage is one I can not even explain I just Love the Way YH moves
Well hope ya have a good night
Twistie