Why are we sad when someone dies?

[On the Path]

Here is a question posed to me that I though we all could put our heads together on and come up with an answer.


I know, it hurts, you are sad, you miss the loved one. I miss my sister who died a year ago. I wish I had more time to spend with her.

So WHY does it hurt so bad when you know that the person served God all his life, loved Jesus, was saved?

Why does it hurt?
Are we programed to pitch a fit, to cry and carry on?
Is it really glorifying God when we act like this is the worst thing that could possibly happen?

On the other hand, if we smiled and laughed, someone would be sure to say that you were in denial.

 

[Faithful Son]

This is a really interesting question, I felt two words come into mind after reading your post, the first was heart and the second was sorrow.

This is what God showed me.

Proverbs 13:12
12 Hope deferred makes the heart sick,
but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.

When a person dies, we should have hope and longing to see them again.
God restores our hearts after a while, He heals all wounds.

Proverbs 15:13
13 A happy heart makes the face cheerful,
but heartache crushes the spirit.

Have you also noticed that we have such intense pain, such loss, we either resent God, ask questions, why did you take them Lord? Or we grieve tremendously, I believe when we start to question God this way, He gives us intense sorrow, but it's for the better.

2 Corinthians 7:10-11
10Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. 11See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done.

God always heals our wounds, there is no way else we could be healed. I don't think a person, any human being is programmed as you say, I think we have a nature, a likeness to our Lord, we should rejoice in that fact, whatever emotions we experience through our life, we should ask God to see us through.

God bless
Much love
teraside

All scripture posted is from the New International Version

 

[MAJ52653]

When Jesus' friend Lazarus died, what was His response? The shortest verse in the Bible. "Jesus wept." Note that in the Greek it does not mean that a tear came in the corner of one eye, to be quickly brushed away and forgotten. No. It means Jesus cried loudly with great emotion. All the witnesses to it agreed. "Wow! See how much He loved him!" If even Jesus Himself, knowing that He was going to raise Lazarus in just a few minutes, could weep and wail at the awful horror of the unnaturalness of death, why can't you? Are Christians supposed to be better at controling their emotions thatn God Himself? I don't think so.

 

[rlowe]

Agree.

If somebody you love gets moved up to a higher position in work, you celebrate, even if means you won't get to see them for a while.

So why not celebrate when someone's spirit gets moved up to a higher position. You won't get to see them for a while probably, but you will eventually (if you don't rebuke God & His decision, instead continually be obedient to Him).

We also need to be glad for them, that they can have no pain, hunger, thirst, injury, depression, fear, etc..

They will be staying in the best place possible.

We may hurt because we miss them &/or regret the missed opportunities with them, but if both are in Christ, it is NOT an eternal seperation. Praise God!

 

[Tonyb]

Hi All,

Dealing with someone's death can be very difficulty indeed, especially if the person was very close to you and it was an untimely death. The death of a child or a partner in the prime of life.

Heaven is a wonderful place and there's no way we compete with life in heaven, so we can comfort our selves with such knowledge. But the grief could be quite intense if your wife, husband or child died young. In such circumstances you might have anger to deal with as well as the grief.

If you can offer a sacrifice of praise and say, “The Lord gives and the Lord takes away, Blessed be the Name of the Lord.” You are on the right track, but there is a time to grieve. It is however possible for Christian people to have grief in their emotions and Holy Spirit joy in their spirit at the same time. The more you give yourself to the Lord and praise, worship and fellowship with Him, the better equipped you will be to deal with the traumas of life:

Tonyb

 

[stephen]

Here is a question posed to me that I though we all could put our heads together on and come up with an answer.


I know, it hurts, you are sad, you miss the loved one. I miss my sister who died a year ago. I wish I had more time to spend with her.

So WHY does it hurt so bad when you know that the person served God all his life, loved Jesus, was saved?

Why does it hurt?
Are we programed to pitch a fit, to cry and carry on?
Is it really glorifying God when we act like this is the worst thing that could possibly happen?

On the other hand, if we smiled and laughed, someone would be sure to say that you were in denial.

I would say, that God made us with this ability, this characteristic, to know sorrow. It was also a part of the nature of Jesus. "Jesus wept"

We should never be ashamed when we cry. We see more than enough of the opposite. No, lets shed a tear, lets share the burden, may we be like the Master, ..........minister to those who are cast down

 

[WingedGrace]

MAJ said it perfectly, as well as Tony.
Tony, what you said comforted me with something I've been dealing with lately...that gave me a message I've been waiting for: I will be able tohandle anything better the closer I get to my God. You are so right!
Also, I've just experience a loss...my supervisor passed last week. Very unexpected, wasn't even sick. So...he was probably the closest person to ever die in my life. I wasn't close to my grandparents. It was bittersweet, being comforted to know he is with the Lord, but still feeling sad and dealing with the shock & loss.

 

[MAJ52653]

Humans cry

We do have to remember that we are human beings made in the image of God. God has feelings, look at the many verses where He feels sorry He created the human race, (pre-flood) or gets angry at the Jews for monkeying around with idols and that sort of thing. I already quoted about Jesus crying loudly. We are not Hindus, Buddhists or other impersonalists. They do everything possible to destroy all emotions. Like the verse says, "Be angry, and sin not." As long as your emotion doesn't go so overboard you do sinful things, like your grief goes on forever so you ignore and deprive the rest of your still living family, go ahead. Enjoy your misery.

 

[mounty]

We are so senstive and although we know that person is now in the arms of God ,we still miss them.
I still miss family members who have passed, i miss being able to hug them and feel them hug me back, i miss laughing with them, i miss hearing their voice, i miss begin able to just pick on the phone and know they will answer
Its hard to adjust to no longer having someone who was very much a part of your life beside you phyiscally
But thats ok it takes time to adjust to death
I have been praying alot about this as from a young age i have always had a great fear of losing my parents,
God is helping me understand this is just the begining and our true home is with him
God Bless

 

[Tonyb]

Enjoy your misery.

That was a strange thing to say? I can assure you there is nothing enjoyable about grief. Admittedly there are depths of grief with differing pain levels. But one of the the things about emotional pain – such as grief - is, it can not only effects the mind and the emotions but also the brain and the rest of physical body throwing everything out of sync. That's why it is good thing to have a on going spiritual life, from glory to glory, so that you can draw on the supernatural comfort of God. Without this supernatural help there is worldly grief, which is death. Very, very unpleasant.

blessings,
Tonyb

 

[mounty]

yes i agree tony without God in our lives death is a very unpleasent thing to have to face
I will always remember losing my grandmother and at that time i was not saved ,and that was the most painfull experience i have ever had ,it was tormenting
I do not think there is anything enjoyable about misery