When Christians mean well, But....

[lonely_soul]

I thought, seeing as many of you don't read my blogs, that I best post it for once, with all the risks that go with that, lol.

Anyway:

You know, just playing arcade game, which did not go well, just as well, as did not save and found myself having to log back in again, happens often with this firefox's internet explorer version browser, something hit me.

No names, but I get sick and tired, well, perhaps a bit strong, but I get down more, when so called Christians, well, they are Christians, that's the best of it, go on and on and on in the chat room, that you must do this and that, if you are weak in faith or struggling in the slightest area.

What hit me was relationship and more on that in a moment.

These Christians mean well and want to help, but there is something in us, felsh no doubt from Adam's time, that does not like to be told what to do.
From the young teenager, again no names, but I know I'm thinking of, to the middle age guy, who struggles with say being obedient anyway, and says the slightest honest thing, like I'm not that good today, oh why, and there off.

You need to do this and only God can, and this and that.
I reply, yeah sure, easy eh, flick a switch and I'm cool again.
I'm not a robot, not that easy, I can't just be reprogrammed you know, if only in some ways.

No God gave us free will.

So what hit me then.

Well we are told, not religion, right, by those smart enough to be awake in the first place. That, it is about having a relationship with God.

Now I know the reply I'll get, well if you gonna compare it to a human one, love one, and you want to please them because you love them, you'll obey them.

Really, even if your partner asks you to do something inappropriate.

Now thing is, and this is it.

Sure, if we love them, we want to please them, but for that relationship to work you have to what, spend time with them.
I know now your going duh even more.

But we can not spend time with God, some of us a real physical people and need to grow by actually seeing and hearing Him.
Lucky those disciples then, hmm, maybe.

But sometimes and I'm not saying God is like this, our partner upsets us, or we get down for some reason and they can not help you no matter what.

The releationship gets put on hold.
Maybe the other way around, her father dies she was very close to and she gets upset and down, depressed and goes through hell on earth.

No good me saying oh pull yourself together and be like you were before, else our relationship is over, that would be crazy, love and support and compassion I should be giving her, and if she does not want to cry on my shoulder and accept cuddles and hugs, give her space.

But no, we as Christians, seem to do this.

Remind her, it's gone on long enough, pull yourself together, I'm gonna read you scriptures now that remind you, you should be doing your part you know.
How dare you talk to me like that, you need God, you need to be, and this and that.

What she needs is understanding, or he, what they need is TLC.
Then, maybe just maybe, not always, not always that simple, she might finally come up to you, hug you and say thanks, what for, being understanding, I know it's not been easy for you these last few weeks and if I have not told you, your amazing.

Often rightly or wrongly and it's wrong more like, we look to others to see God.
And that is a huge mistake time after time, because of their flaws we'll be let down, hurt and so on.

This then makes us think, charming, and we think and treat God as if He has or is doing this to us.
If you reject me, then clearly God does.
If you insult me, something wrong with me, though I defend myself at the time.

I don't want to be a robot, satan says if I do God I'll be a Robot, so please don't preach at me, I need to do this and do that.
You make me want to do the opposite now, make me want to leave, or stay and argue.

So it goes on.
NO, NO, NO.
give them a (((((((((((((hug))))))))))))).

TLC, compassion, even if you don't feel like it, and feel false, I feel false praying, but God can still hear and often still acts, regardless our feelings, dismiss them, and do what is right anyway.

Hope that helps some of you, many blessings, Lee.

 

[Strypes]

sometimes all you really need is someone to listen.

 

[lonely_soul]

Wow, thak you so so much.

But after tonight, enemy again no doubt, same old story this might be my last post.

You'd think I'd learn by now.

Confess to one another the Bible says, and when I do, Growl and insults and one is made to feel so degraded, well, just sickening.

I am ashamed to be a Christian, time for a new name again, because no longer can I assoiate myself with them, when they treat others the way some treat me and talk to me, you know.

I came here expecting to see a having a go at me reply, and prepared as usual to delete it.

I've already deleted some of my blog.

Run away, live and die some, so you come back, try and fit in, in trying to fit in, so the enemy can not accuse you of anything you be open, but moment your open your jumped upon.

It's always the same, lose lose situation.

When ever I try and more, attacks come.

Why, I'm not important, sure my web site is, reaches out, tells the truth, but big deal, surely that's not it, if so cool.
Because I don't want to be a leader, family man.

Why can't everyone just accept, hello, I'm different without the well intention you need to do this and do that and be like this and be like that and the Bible says this and the Bible says that, like they are so perfect and I'm so not.

No offense I so don't need reminding of that a hug though would be nice, or am I so contaminated you dare not come near me.

Then Christians wonder why they win no one to Christ very often, with our self righteous attitude.

My point is proved, not because I'm big headed, you replied and agreed, because like me, you've been there.

So many have, and because they saw the light and got out of the tunnel they:

1: Forget what it was like being there, only rough memory, feeling gone, no joy again, most of the time anyway.
2: They feel so good now, they make you feel worse, because though they mean well, and because they have come through it, pull yourself together man, you can do it, no excuses.

I recall a book I have The Handbook For Spiritual Warfare Dr Ed Murphy.
It's very good, and he knows his stuff.

But on depression he talks also about the time it happened to him and so called friends said it's the enemy and so on, and he concludes later it was not.

With Job it was the enemy, but again the friends were not helpful.

That is how I find Christians coming across to me, don't hug you and make you feel better and accepted and normal, they do a Job on you, and you feel worse, hate yourself more, well what you are, not myself.

But thank you anyway, means such a lot to me, that least the odd one and it's always the odd one, like Shy, that sees and understands me and I adore them so much.

Others I can forgive, but hard forgetting because it happens over and over and over again.

No wonder most Christians don't confess and hide and carry on in sin and guilt, because with christian friends like that, who needs enemies you know.

 

[Strypes]

people will let you down. It is inevitible. I do not wish to "preach" to you but I would like to share a scripture that has helped me in times when "christians" let me down.

Psalm 118:4 Let all who worship him say, "His love is eternal." 5 In my distress I called to the Lord; he answered me and set me free. 6 The Lord is with me, I will not be afraid; what can anyone do to me? 7 It is the Lord who helps me, and I will see my enemies defeated. 8 It is better to trust in the Lord than to depend on people. 9 It is better to trust in the Lord than to depend on human leaders.

Look to Jesus not to men.