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So I know we are supposed to wait for God to show us our soulmate and all, but I feel like He already showed me mine, but because of my insecurity and pride I lost him. I met him 2 years ago in high school; it was senior year and he was pretty crazy about me. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend or a relationship but he was relentless. So I finally gave in a gave it a try, and right away we hit it off. I don't do "recreational dating", I'd never been with anyone before him, but I will only consider someone if I can see a future with them forever, why else waste my time? So anyway we were together for a year and a half- all of senior year and into our first year of college- we broke up just 6 weeks ago.
I've been really heartbroken and this whole process has been really difficult for me, but I've come to consider it a blessing because I've renewed my relationship with God and used this time to strengthen my faith and myself as an individual. There were many reasons for the break up, but most of it was my fault- which is also a blessing because its something in my control that I can change.
My boyfriend isn't saved, but he does go to church and has attended many youth groups with his friends. Its interesting because his morals and values line up perfectly with the word of God. I think he's just a little confused on what to believe because his family's not religious. He doesn't drink or smoke or swear. He doesn't believe in premarital sex and doesn't go along with the whole "recreational dating" thing either. He has alot of ambition and has told me many times he really wants to get married to the woman of his dreams and have a family- that's one of his biggest goals, and after being together a year and a half that became our dream.
So anyway I really love him, and I feel so guilty because I was too proud to ever show that and I pushed him away, and now I want him back. When we broke up it was a mutual agreement and he said he could see us getting back together, so I'm thinking this is just a break. Again, it has been a blessing because I've been able to take a step back and realize what it was that I was doing so wrong, and I've found strength in God and learned the meaning of true love. I've been praying and praying for God to heal our relationship, and I'm almost positive He will. Its getting kind of hard though because I miss him so much, and it feels like it's been forever already. I'm hoping God will bring him to me, but at the same time maybe God wants me to go to him. I'm not sure what to do? I've been praying and praying and I haven't got an answer yet, so I'm just waiting.
Anyway I was hoping I could get some outside perspectives and thoughts on the situation. I've read through the Bible and done my research. There's not really anything in the Bible about "dating" but that's where I think you just have to use your wisdom of God's word.
Thanks
I've been really heartbroken and this whole process has been really difficult for me, but I've come to consider it a blessing because I've renewed my relationship with God and used this time to strengthen my faith and myself as an individual. There were many reasons for the break up, but most of it was my fault- which is also a blessing because its something in my control that I can change.
My boyfriend isn't saved, but he does go to church and has attended many youth groups with his friends. Its interesting because his morals and values line up perfectly with the word of God. I think he's just a little confused on what to believe because his family's not religious. He doesn't drink or smoke or swear. He doesn't believe in premarital sex and doesn't go along with the whole "recreational dating" thing either. He has alot of ambition and has told me many times he really wants to get married to the woman of his dreams and have a family- that's one of his biggest goals, and after being together a year and a half that became our dream.
So anyway I really love him, and I feel so guilty because I was too proud to ever show that and I pushed him away, and now I want him back. When we broke up it was a mutual agreement and he said he could see us getting back together, so I'm thinking this is just a break. Again, it has been a blessing because I've been able to take a step back and realize what it was that I was doing so wrong, and I've found strength in God and learned the meaning of true love. I've been praying and praying for God to heal our relationship, and I'm almost positive He will. Its getting kind of hard though because I miss him so much, and it feels like it's been forever already. I'm hoping God will bring him to me, but at the same time maybe God wants me to go to him. I'm not sure what to do? I've been praying and praying and I haven't got an answer yet, so I'm just waiting.
Anyway I was hoping I could get some outside perspectives and thoughts on the situation. I've read through the Bible and done my research. There's not really anything in the Bible about "dating" but that's where I think you just have to use your wisdom of God's word.
Thanks
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