What does the Bible say about self-hatred?"

[blessed07]

what does the bible say about self hatred

 

[Ezra Allen]

what does the bible say about self hatred

For the past couple weeks I have been thinking hard about something my wife's therapist said. "To Love others you must first truely Love yourself."

I thought long and hard on this as it seemed very important to me to understand. If I say I Love God and Jesus but don't Love myself do I really Love God and Jesus?

How many people go through their days loving someone but really hating themselves? How can they give out grapes when they think of themselves as thistle? Can freash clean drinking water come from a jug filled with salt water?

My wife and I have been married for 18 years during which she has hated herself a great portion of the time. Being with someone who hates themselves hasn't been easy. Lot's of depression on her part and lot's of stress on my part of trying to hold things together on her part.

Before I started going to church and reading my Bible I would make things worst because most times I would blunder things up while trying to make them better. She would sometimes have joy for a moment but it fades and the self hatred comes back.

I realized suddenly while studying from the Bible the question "To Love others you must first truely Love yourself." that I don't love myself. So in the next couple weeks I'm going to start going to therapy, hopefully if I can bring myself to taking that step. Someone who doesn't Love themself usually procrastinates making themselves better.

Anyways what I have learned so far (these are the verses I felt made a statement about LOVE) is listed below. Someone else may get something different from each one I have stopped assuming I am correct when I realized I am broken.

First remember: Satan loves to attack us and he is a master sharp shooter sniper.

1 Peter 5:8 NIV Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

Depression is one of his tools and judging by the pill commercials on TV he is doing a good job at using it.

Matthew 7:15-20 NIV Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves. (16) By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? (17) Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. (18) A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. (19) Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. (20) Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them.

If I don't love my self and show love to my fellow Christians at church then I am the wolf. The Great thing is Jesus can turn Wolves into Lambs. Sometimes Sheep don't realize they are Wolf. Don't worry God will get to the end of it at the End of It.

Matthew 12:33 NIV Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit.

Matthew 12:35-36 NIV The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him. (36) But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.

Matthew 13:15 NIV For this people's heart has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, and they have closed their eyes. Otherwise they might see with their eyes, hear with their ears, understand with their hearts and turn, and I would heal them.'

Matthew 15:8 NIV 'These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.

Matthew 15:19 NIV For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.

Matthew 19:19 NIV honor your father and mother,' and 'love your neighbor as yourself.' "

Matthew 22:37-39 NIV Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' (38) This is the first and greatest commandment. (39) And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'

Matthew 23:25-26 NIV Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. (26) Blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and dish, and then the outside also will be clean.

How can we live in Love when the inside is filled with hate. We need to learn to Love the Inside to Live in Love on the outside.

Mark 4:16-17 NIV Others, like seed sown on rocky places, hear the word and at once receive it with joy. (17) But since they have no root, they last only a short time. When trouble or persecution comes because of the word, they quickly fall away.

When we hate ourselves we can experience joy for a moment but it comes crashing down to doubt and hate because we have to build our roots in our own hearts.

Thats about as far as I have gotten on my read through while meditating on the question. I have a few other verses that I have stumbled upon that I feel fit the question.


Proverbs 15:32 NIV He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding.

1 Corinthians 13:1-8 NIV (1) If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. (2) If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. (3) If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. (4) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. (5) It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. (6) Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. (7) It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (8) Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

Philippians 2:2 NIV then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose.

1 John 5:3 NIV This is love for God: to obey his commands. And his commands are not burdensome,

 

[spirit1st]

If GOD has washed all our sins away! We have no right to bring them up again! what HE sees is the important thing!
Besides if Born -again? We are NEW CREATURES . Still living in old dying sin filled bodies , For HIS glory and honor!
So we do our best to keep them clean and pure as we can for HIM!

The question becomes ? HIS will or or will! Our failures or HIS victory!

The past is gone! Forget the evil of it !
We cannot change it . Now we live for HIS glory and Honor doing the best we can with what we now have!

We going to be tempted and tried and might even fail from time to time?
He understands as long as we are making an effort?

We live in bodies that want to do wrong at times? we are attacked by demons who put bad thoughts in our minds! the world hates us ! and even at times, our brothers and sisters in the LORD might go against us!

He understands!

We are in a serious battle here, not only for ourselves , but our families and others!
We are a example to many people here on earth, many are watching how we handle things ?
Even failing at times? We can reveal HIS love and mercy and repent 1

Not easy to say we are sorry!
Not easy to be humble at times,some count it a weakness! I do not !
I fear nothing on earth1 I do not even fear my LORD JESUS!
I serve Him out of LOVE !Because I will obey HIM always out of LOVE and if I cannot? I would ask HIM to help me !

I do not love who i used to be! and i look forward to my New Body!
still i am going to TRY to control this one while trapped in it!
It not perfect , it has its problems?

We are only here a moment in time! We are Just passing though.We need Him daily in our lives1 We want to be a blessing ,while here !We never will get this great chance again. To serve Him and others in Faith and LOVE!
It is really a big ,big deal for us Now!


1Pe 1:12 Unto whom it was revealed, that not unto themselves, but unto us they did minister the things, which are now reported unto you by them that have preached the gospel unto you with the Holy Ghost sent down from heaven; which things the angels desire to look into.


Rev 12:11 And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death.

Eph 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

We hate the weakness of it!

satan wants us to hate our selves! Not GODS will.But He does expect us to use it for GOOD and Not evil ! We just do the best we can and count that enough!


Rom 7:15 For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I.
Rom 7:16 If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that it is good.
Rom 7:17 Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.
Rom 7:18 For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not.
Rom 7:19 For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.
Rom 7:20 Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.
Rom 7:21 I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.
Rom 7:22 For I delight in the law of God after the inward man:
Rom 7:23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.
Rom 7:24 O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death?
Rom 7:25 I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin.


Paul understood ? How hard it was to fully control his flesh all the time!

satan wants us looking back to our failures! God wants us looking ahead to the victory He has given us though JESUS CHRIST!

The Question is? Which will we do?

 

[Hekuran]

Ezra Allen, Not to disagree with your wife's therapist, but to give it a Biblical spin...

The Bible does not teach us that our first object of love is ourselves; it instructs us to love God above all else. I would want to say that we cannot offer love if we are unable to receive love. The most important thing is not that I generate love for myself, but that I receive God's love.

Good for you, going to see a therapist. May 2011 be a year in which you receive and offer love as never before.

 

[Giggles4God]

I don't think God would want us to hate ourselves. We are His creation, BUT we are to love others and especially God before ourselves.

 

[MelodyC]

MT 22:37 Jesus replied: " `Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: `Love your neighbor as yourself.' 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments."

We are to love ourselves as well as loving others.

Note it says "love your neighbour as yourself".

Here is the great revelation:- In order to love OTHERS you have to have love for yourself.

Love yourself and you can love others. If you hate yourself you don't have the capcity to love others.

Now how do I accept myself and start loving myself? You need to see yourself the way God does.

1JN 4:19 We love because he first loved us.

God loved us so we can know love. So we can love ourselves and also love others.

How valuable are you? God loved you even as you were being formed in your mother's womb. God was the one involved in your very creation. You are the way you are because God made you that way. God doesn't make mistakes. (God does give us weaknesses so we will seek Him to be our strength.) He planned your days ahead of time, the Lord loves you so much he is was involved in every day of your life.

PS 139:13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother's womb.

PS 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.

PS 139:15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place.
When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,

PS 139:16 your eyes saw my unformed body.
All the days ordained for me
were written in your book
before one of them came to be.

You are so valuable to the Lord His Son died for you.

You need to see that you are not worthless but someone God made and He has plans for you. God loves you.

I hope you can start to love yourself because Christ died for us so we can be washed clean and made new. You are a new creation, let your old self die off and start allowing the Holy Spirit to make you a New Creation in Christ.

If you have only recently become a Saved Believer the process of your old self dying and being made new takes some time so be patient. First step is to see yourself as God does.

 

[Ezra Allen]

Wow glory to God his Love is so amazing. We are all blessed. I have been in therapy now for 2 years. My wife for little over 3. She didn't start on the road to recovery from her depression until after she started reading her bible. In just 3 months I have watched her turn from someone who was full of doubt, afraid of the world and hating herself so much into a beautiful flower that glorifies God each morning with her smile of joy in Christ Jesus. One of my sisters in Christ posted this on her facebook page from a book she been reading. I hope I included the requirements to get past the regulations on posting.



TAKE YOUR SELF-ESTIMATE FROM GOD

Develop the picture of your worth and value from God, not from the false reflections that come out of your past.

The healing of low self-esteem really hinges on a choice you must make:

Will you listen to Satan as he employs all the lies, the distortions, the put-downs, and the hurts of your past to keep you bound by unhealthy, unchristian feelings and concepts about yourself?

Or will you receive your self-esteem from God and His Word? Here are some very important questions to ask yourself.

1. What right have you to belittle or despise someone whom God loves so deeply? Don’t say, “Well, I know God loves me, but I just can’t stand myself.” That’s a travesty of faith, an insult to God and His love. It is the expression of a subtly hidden resentment against your Creator. When you despise His creation, you are really saying that you don’t like the design or care much for the Designer. You are calling unclean what God calls clean. You are failing to realize how much God loves you and how much you mean to Him.

2. What right have you to belittle or despise someone whom God has honored so highly? “Consider the incredible love that the Father has shown us in allowing us to be called ‘children of God’” (1 John 3:1 PH). And that’s not just what we’re called. It’s what we are. “Here and now, my dear friends, we are God’s children” (v. 2 PH). Do you think that when you consider God’s son or daughter worthless or inferior, He is pleased by your so-called humility?

3. What right have you to belittle or despise someone whom God values so highly? How much does God value you? “In human experience it is a rare thing for one man to give his life for another, even if the latter be a good man . . . Yet the proof of God’s amazing love is this: that it was while we were sinners that Christ died for us. . . . We may hold our heads high in the light of God’s love” (Rom. 5:7–8, 11 PH). God has declared your value. You are someone whom God values so highly as to give the life of His own dear Son to redeem you.

4. What right have you to belittle or despise someone whom God has provided for so fully? “How much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things . . .” (Matt. 7:11). “God shall supply all your need” (Phil. 4:19). This doesn’t sound as if He wants you to be self-loathing or to feel inadequate.

5. What right have you to belittle or despise someone whom God has planned for so carefully? Praise be to God . . . for giving us through Christ every spiritual benefit. . . . Consider what he has done—before the foundation of the world he chose us to be, in Christ, his children, holy and blameless in his sight. He planned, in his love, that we should be adopted as his own children. (Eph. 1:3–5 PH)

6. What right have you to belittle or despise someone in whom God delights? The apostle Paul said that we are “accepted in the beloved” (Eph. 1:6). Do you remember the Father’s words at the baptism of Jesus? “This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased” (Matt. 3:17). Paul gives us a daring thought: We are “in Christ.” He used this phrase some ninety times. You are in Christ, therefore you are in the Beloved. God looks at you in Christ and says to you, “You are My beloved son, you are My beloved daughter, in whom I am well pleased.” From where will you get your idea of yourself? From distortions of your childhood? From past hurts and false ideas that have been programmed into you? Or will you say, “No, I will not listen to those lies from the past any longer. I will not listen to Satan, the liar, the confuser, the blinder, who twists and distorts. I am going to listen to God’s opinion of me, and let Him reprogram me until His loving estimate of me becomes a part of my life, right down to my innermost feelings.”

Seamands, David A. (2010-11-01). Healing for Damaged Emotions (pp. 73-74). David C Cook. Kindle Edition.

I love you all even if you don't.
Chad keep up the good work bringing Glory to God

 

[will]

what does the bible say about self hatred

Before we can either hate or love ourselves, don't we have to *know* ourselves first?

The best thing we can do for ourselves is to accept who we are in Christ. That we are His once we believe what He has done for us, and nothing can separate us from Him.

This works for both ends of the spectrum:

- For people who used to love themselves too much, now they have the Lord to focus on, slowly releasing the bondage of sin that often traps us in the worship of "self".

- For people who used to hate themselves, now they also have the Lord to focus on, slowly regaining the confidence that they are someone of worth in the Lord's eyes, that the Creator of the world who became flesh in order to die for us is loving and kind, and is able to carry us through any difficulties through the power of His Holy Spirit.

 

[Coconut]

Actually, at the risk of sounding simple...

What God teaches us is to forget about our self.

 

[Maureen]

Hello to everyone

I do hope I am remembered its been a very long time since I was last here, thought I would pop in again. I know this is in wrong place but I couldn't get into the 'hello' posts, sorry.

 

[Eric E Stahl]

what does the bible say about self hatred

We are commanded to love ourselves as our neighbors.

 

[ruchika francis]

I claim it . Amen