Matthew 10:37-39 NKJV
37 He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. 38 And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. 39 He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.
Matthew 16:24-27 NKJV
24 Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me. 25 For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it. 26 For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul? 27 For the Son of Man will come in the glory of His Father with His angels, and then He will reward each according to his works.
As we can read in those scriptures brother, when we take our cross and follow Jesus, we are denying ourselves, our needs, our wants and our dreams and aspirations and we are giving it all to God. Then, we become His servant and we carry our cross, because one day we will be rewarded for carying it.
It is not exactly in the same manner as when Jesus was crucified, because He died for the sins of the World. When we bear our cross and carry it in Jesus name, we are living for Jesus and doing His will. This should be done in all aspects of our lives. Jesus should always be the center, most important part of our lives, even our family is nothing, Jesus should be everything.
I hope you understand. The Holy Spirit helps us indeed, by comforting us.
2 Corinthians 1:3-5
3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 5 For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also abounds through Christ.