I have been married to a believer for the past 4 years. He is currently addicted to drugs and he states he wants to have a beer in the evening when he gets off from work. I have tried everything I know to ask him to get help. I have tried encourgement, arguing, threats none doing. He keeps saying and promising changes nothing happens but everyday I live with lies, deceit and uncertainties. Verbal abusive when I don't agree to the things he says. We have many bills but he only helps with one. The rest of the money is wasted. I am tired and I want out. I feel strongly that I know I can't want him to change he has to want and I don't see that happening.
Can someone tell me if leaving him is wrong. I don't think so. I feel like God wouldn't want me to stay with someone who knows to do right and continues to do wrong on an almost daily basis.
Thank you for sharing and for your honesty. You mentioned that your husband is a believer. When he wants to drink a beer in the evening, is that what you mean by him being addicted to drugs? He only wants to help you pay one bill out of many payables? He gets verbally abusive when you both are in disagreement?
This saddens me. But what really saddens me is that you feel God would not want you to stay with someone who does not stay on course on a daily basis.
However, not once have you mentioned Jesus Christ, or our Father in your testimony.
Your marriage has serious issues but not to the point of separation or divorce. With God nothing is impossible. While one partner in the marriage is slumping the other is used by God to continue as the light, the witness, being Christ like. You need to seek God's lead in cultivating your husband and bringing him back to the man God wants him to be in your marriage. You need to seek God to sustain you during these times. But not alone. Think about this.
There are many scriptures about marriage and God did not intend marriage to be open to separation or divorce because of irreconcilable differences, except extreme adultry. God gave you and your husband an incredible gift, your marriage! If he will not fight for saving your marriage, then you must fight for your marriage, sister.
Have you sought your pastor, priest, your sisters in Christ, Christian marriage counselor? Your husband may be in denial and refuse to seek counsel at this time so it is important to share with the spiritual leaders whom you can lean on and they will pray corporately with you. Prayer is powerful!!
Many of us here at Talk Jesus are not specialized in marriage counseling but we will pray for you as well, LivingforHim.
Please read and meditate on Hebrews 11:6, And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek Him.
And Lamentations 3:22-23, Because of the Lord's great love we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness.
We love you, LivingforHim. As you continue to seek God, your spiritual leaders for intercessory prayer, then get out of God's way and let Him begin the healing in your marriage. It will take time and perserverance, and steadfast faith and trust, however, we all are with you now.
Your servant in Christ Jesus.