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What are the Biblical Guidelines for Dating?

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What are the Biblical Guidelines for Dating?

The Bible does not specifically address the issue of dating, but the Bible does provide us with many guidelines and principles, which should most certainly be considered and applied to dating and dating activities.


WHO SHOULD I DATE?

The Bible does command, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers…”
(2 Corinthians 6:14)
“Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.”
(1 Corinthians 15:33)
Christian Dating Guide Lines

It is my opinion that Christians should never enter into a serious dating relationship with anyone who does not trust in Christ as Savior and who does not desire to study God's Word. Many Christians will start a dating relationship with a non-believer not realizing its potential consequences. Often Christians will like someone enough to convince themselves that it’s not wrong and that it’s only a “short term” relationship. Unfortunately this “short term” relationship often turns into a more serious relationship but can not progress to marriage because of 2 Corinthians 6:14. However, once a person is emotionally attached to such an extent they will often forget 2 Corinthians and rationalize the marriage by ether hoping to convert their spouse or by thinking love is enough to get them through. And from there such a person will experience many problems involving an unequally yoked family. SO WHY EVEN RISK SUCH A PREDICTABLE SITUATION. And don’t forget the complications that might arise when your boyfriend has different values about sex, drugs, and a handful of life’s issues. And don’t say “but this guy is different”, or “It won’t get serious” because its been said before…only to have the same outcome. So my suggestion: Just don’t go there! Stick to being equally yoked. Many have led very troubled lives, and even lost the faith, because they failed to heed this counsel from God's Word,
So take it to heart!

Sexual Boundries

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own.”
(1 Corinthians 6:18-19)

The Bible makes very clear that sexual activity is reserved for the marriage union. The Bible also says: "Put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lusts thereof" (Romans 13:14). Since all are inclined to have sinful thoughts and desires, those who date ought not attempt to incite such desires by their dress or activities; and great care needs to be taken to avoid places and activities which provide opportunity for our flesh to fulfill its lusts and desires. A good question to consider before any dating activity is whether or not you can in this glorify Christ and do His will.
 
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HI!
i strongly agree with everything that you brought out.
its also base on my personal experience why i say so...
i grew up in a Christian family and it really helps me alot to get through in all my past relationship. my first boyfriend was my classmate and close friend in college, he is not a Christian..since it's a first relationship, i thought everything works for good but i was wrong. maybe we were both young then and all that we want was companion..since we were classmate, we were together all the time-morning in class and evening to study.
but when the time came that we almost done that thing-sex..i heard my self saying "No!". it's not because i dont love him, coz i really do but because of my self dignity, my family and my God... teachings from the Bible when i was a kid, really brought me where i am now... after that, i pass into two other relationships-both Christians where in its an against all odds relationship. but still for me, God is a God of order! if he is Gods reward for me, everything will fall into place...

Revelation 22, says:
12:"Behold, I come quickly. My reward is with me, to repay to each man according to his work.
13: I am the Alpha and the Omega, the First and the Last, the Beginning and the End.
14: Blessed are those who do his commandments, that they may have the right to the tree of life, and may enter in by the gates into the city.
15: Outside are the dogs, the sorcerers, the sexually immoral, the murderers, the idolaters, and everyone who loves and practices falsehood.
16: I, Jesus, have sent my angel to testify these things to you for the assemblies. I am the root and the offspring of David; the Bright and Morning Star."
17: The Spirit and the bride say, "Come!" He who hears, let him say, "Come!" He who is thirsty, let him come. He who desires, let him take the water of life freely.
18: I testify to everyone who hears the words of the prophecy of this book, if anyone adds to them, may God add to him the plagues which are written in this book.
19: If anyone takes away from the words of the book of this prophecy, may God take away his part from the tree of life, and out of the holy city, which are written in this book.
20: He who testifies these things says, "Yes, I come quickly." Amen! Yes, come, Lord Jesus.
21: The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with all the saints. Amen.

God bless!
 
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Eve

Thank you for posting this I will show it to my daughter. One of my first boyfriends was Catholic. At the time I thought I was beautiful and 'all that'. I had not had the same up bringing and made fun of him. I was completely shocked when he dumped me. He told me he couldn't date someone who was not a Christian.

He made the right decision. If he had stayed with me, I would have led him down a despicable road, one fraught with heartache and pain.

I now know what it is like from his point of view because I am now married to a disbeliever. "I was saved after I was married". It is a very isolating experience. I want to share all of my life with my husband but he is distant from me. A very lonely experience that I would not wish on anyone.
 
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Yes if two people have God in there lives and they love each other then it is ok and if ya are not inside any rules with each other then that is wrong but if ya are then you are fine.
Rules are there to keep you safe
 
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wow...thanks for sharing these thoughts with us....
man that really makes me think....i mean i personaly dont have anything against
christians dating non.christians....i mean we are all just people and non-belivers can make the same mistakes as a christian.....but yeah i might wanne think about that more...i dont know !!!!
but yeah i really think what you posted is really good...!!!!

god bless
kara
 
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Eve, God bless you for staying in a marriage with a non-believer, because by your Faith, the Bible says he will be saved. :love: Can I get an Amen, brothers?

Perhaps he will come to know Jesus; my mother married a man who SAID he was a believer, then said he wasn't really, and just said so to marry her. (This happens to an awful lot of women.) She could have left but she didn't. She stayed. It took her 20 years, but one day, he stood up in Church when the Pastor asked if anybody wanted to turn over his life to Christ. My mother just sat there and cried tears of joy. :love:

I got to witness this, in the choir. It was impossible to sing, because I was choked with tears myself. So.. my dear... God bless your patience and I will pray that the Holy Spirit softens his heart! :love:

In Christ,
CaliFlower :rose:
 
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All Those Things Are Important But Remenbeer One Thing Evev In Church We Have To Take Care, There All Kind Of People In World And Even In Church, So We Can Not Forget That Also Im The Church, We Have Problems, On God Knows People Heart That's Why We Have To Take Care, First To Love Some One We Have To See If He Or She Really Loves God, If He Did Not Love Jesus, He Won't Really Loves You He Will Make You Become Sad, Trust Only In Jesus That Put Your Trust In Man That's What Bible Says.
 
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I will pray for you and your husband.

I will pray for you and your husband:boy: . Very sad and very good witness to the truth sister.:girl: May God in his wisdom and understanding bring your husband to the realization of the truth. With GOD, nothing is impossible.


Eve said:
Thank you for posting this I will show it to my daughter. One of my first boyfriends was Catholic. At the time I thought I was beautiful and 'all that'. I had not had the same up bringing and made fun of him. I was completely shocked when he dumped me. He told me he couldn't date someone who was not a Christian.

He made the right decision. If he had stayed with me, I would have led him down a despicable road, one fraught with heartache and pain.

I now know what it is like from his point of view because I am now married to a disbeliever. "I was saved after I was married". It is a very isolating experience. I want to share all of my life with my husband but he is distant from me. A very lonely experience that I would not wish on anyone.
 
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I agree. Sometimes it hurts to no that but...its good to..be um..informed to such a thing to be away from the risk of bigger consiquences

God Bless

Janelle
 

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