Michelle7413
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- Oct 22, 2012
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Hello, im Michelle. You see, I have a fiance and he has a 5 yr old boy. We only have one income. Xavior, the 5 year old, was getting caught up in worldly things that kept getting him into trouble. So the local Church we attend runs a Private Christian Academy. We dont have $5,000 to send Xavior to the school so the Church offered me a deal. To work as a teacher in exchange for Xaviors enrollment. I spend everyday, 8 hours a week to he can be surrounded by good people and a good school, instead of getting a job with an income to buy a few things for myself. I dont get appreciated for my work from anyone. I play the "mommy" role and im never thanked for it.I do a lot for my fiance and Xavior more then I do for me or my own family.
Anyway, theres been complications with the three of us. Anytime Xavior steals or lies or anything, I get 0 back-up from my fiance. I have to take charge and discipline him (timeout, no tv, not toys, etc) Not only does my fiance not support discipline, but he feels sorry for Xavior. As if he doesnt deserve to not have tv that night for stealing. I feel ALL alone in this triangle. Me and my fiance are suppose to be a team, a whole. So if HIS child is being disrespectful to me, that means hes disrespecting his Dad as well, and vise versa. We are suppose to be getting married in 8 months and I just dont know if this is for me. Being more of a parent to someone elses child. And recieves disrespect EVERY day from the two of them. My fiance is wonderful to me when its just us doing something like a date. But anytime its the three of us, its a mess. I realize that its a package deal. I just dont know if I should stay and pray things will work out, or leave and pray that I can be someplace else and be appreciated. PLEASE pray for me.
Anyway, theres been complications with the three of us. Anytime Xavior steals or lies or anything, I get 0 back-up from my fiance. I have to take charge and discipline him (timeout, no tv, not toys, etc) Not only does my fiance not support discipline, but he feels sorry for Xavior. As if he doesnt deserve to not have tv that night for stealing. I feel ALL alone in this triangle. Me and my fiance are suppose to be a team, a whole. So if HIS child is being disrespectful to me, that means hes disrespecting his Dad as well, and vise versa. We are suppose to be getting married in 8 months and I just dont know if this is for me. Being more of a parent to someone elses child. And recieves disrespect EVERY day from the two of them. My fiance is wonderful to me when its just us doing something like a date. But anytime its the three of us, its a mess. I realize that its a package deal. I just dont know if I should stay and pray things will work out, or leave and pray that I can be someplace else and be appreciated. PLEASE pray for me.
