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Speak No Evil

Discussion in 'Ethics & Morality' started by rizen1, Jul 9, 2007.

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  1. #1 rizen1, Jul 9, 2007
    Last edited: Jul 9, 2007
    Speak No Evil
    Why gossip is bad for your soul.
    By Lori Palatnik with Bob Burg

    A nineteenth-century folktale tells about a man who went about town slandering the town's wise man. One day, he went to the wise man's home and asked for forgiveness. The wise man, realizing that this man had not internalized the gravity of his transgressions, told him that he would forgive him on one condition: that he go home, take a feather pillow from his house, cut it up, and scatter the feathers to the wind. After he had done so, he should then return to the wise man's house.

    Though puzzled by this strange request, the man was happy to be let off with so easy a penance. He quickly cut up the pillow, scattered the feathers, and returned to the house.
    "Am I now forgiven?" he asked.

    "Just one more thing," the wise man said. "Go now and gather up all the feathers."

    "But that's impossible. The wind has already scattered them."

    "Precisely," he answered. "And though you may truly wish to correct the evil you have done, it is as impossible to repair the damage done by your words as it is to recover the feathers. Your words are out there in the marketplace, spreading hate, even as we speak."

    How interesting it is that we, as human beings, so quick to believe the bad that others say about someone, so accepting of the "news" contained in print and television tabloids, and so ready to assume the worst regarding another's actions, actually allow ourselves to believe that the evil we spread about someone won't really matter. Incredible that we can't seem to immediately and resolutely accept the fact that the gossip we speak can--and often does--significant damage to that person.

    Bob's friend, Paul Myers, says, "Gossip is like a fired bullet. Once you hear the sound, you can't take it back." That is what the man in the above story found out in a very disappointing, shameful moment of self-discovery. And it isn't just what we say about someone to others, but what we say to that person directly as well. We've all been told that "Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never harm me." We also know that is totally untrue. While a body will typically recover from a physical injury, the harm caused by direct insults can sometimes last a lifetime, and tear the self-esteem right out of a person.

    On the other hand, kind, encouraging words can build a person's self-esteem, help him or her to grow and give them the impetus they need to do great, significant things with their lives. The choice regarding how we speak about or to someone is ours. It's called "free will."




    Leviticus 19:16 – “Do not go about spreading slander among your people. Do not do anything that endangers your neighbor’s life. I am the Lord.” (NIV)

    Proverbs 11:13 – “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.” (NIV)

    Romans 1:29 – “They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips.” (NIV)

    1 Timothy 5:13 – “Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying things they ought not to.” (NIV)

    Matthew 7:1 – “Do not judge, or you too will be judged.” (NIV)

    Proverbs 18:8 – “The words of gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts.” (NIV)
     
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  2. Greetings,

    I was reminded recently that all must give account one day.
    The topic here is nothing to take lightly.

    O that we would allow the Spirit to search our hearts and that we may honestly face the truth and realise our need before God for a Saviour, to be found only in the Son, and that we might turn while we can and sin no more.

    Matthew 12:33-37
    Either make the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit corrupt: for the tree is known by his fruit. O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.
    A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things. But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.


    Matthew 7:22-23
    Many will say to Me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from Me, ye that work iniquity.

    Luke 6:43-49
    For a good tree bringeth not forth corrupt fruit; neither doth a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.

    For every tree is known by his own fruit. For of thorns men do not gather figs, nor of a bramble bush gather they grapes.

    A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.

    And why call ye Me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say? Whosoever cometh to Me, and heareth My sayings, and doeth them, I will shew you to whom he is like:
    He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock. 49But he that heareth, and doeth not, is like a man that without a foundation built an house upon the earth; against which the stream did beat vehemently, and immediately it fell; and the ruin of that house was great.


    Bless you ....><>
     
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  3. This is very good! Another way a person speaks evil.....Anything you speak that contradicts what God says.....Will you speak a truth? Or will you speak THE truth?....You catch the flu...You speak truth..."I've got the flu" Or you speak the truth..."By Jesus stripes I was healed. Total health is mine now." You wind up with too much month at the end of the money...You start to cry. "I'm going broke! The truth is "Everything my father has is mine! All I have to do is ask in belief" You are driving down an icy road and a sharp gust of wind pushes you into a skid...."Oh I'm gonna die!" Or the truth...Read all of Psalm 91. It belongs to you right now! To speak anything that contradicts Gods word is evil speaking
     
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  4. This reminds me of something someone told me several years ago.
    She said... Words are like nails sometimes. We can pull the nails back out... but the holes remain.
    We can fill in the holes, but the discolored spots remain.

    It takes two sides to repair this. One side needs to ask for forgiveness...
    but the other side is just as responsible... to ... give... forgiveness.
     
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  5. Well done @rizen1

    Below is a link on the subject that our Brother Chad added last year also contributes on the subject of gossip & slander.

    Gossip and Slander

    Not a subject to be taken lightly. For the affects to others & self are innumerable and unknowable to determine.

    Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29

    Thanks for sharing.
    YBIC
    C4E
    <><
     
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  6. Gossip is actually a boring activity and if a person is going to speak on a topic or person they should at least speak on what is true instead of harmful and false.
     
  7. I am guilty of this idle speaking, and I think a ton of us Christians, so thank you for reminding, it works subtly so beware.

    James 3:10
     
  8. Here is another way many of us Christians speak evil on a regular basis. Speaking profanities is speaking contrary to Gods Word. Speaking truth, I'm sick is still a profanity because God said that we ARE healed.
    Going into a skid when you're driving and someone screams "Oh. We're all gonna die!" What does God say "
    Psalm 91:9-12 (CJB)
    9 For you have made Adonai, the Most High,
    who is my refuge, your dwelling-place.
    10 No disaster will happen to you,
    no calamity will come near your tent;
    11 for he will order his angels to care for you
    and guard you wherever you go.
    12 They will carry you in their hands,
    so that you won’t trip on a stone.

    Which one is right to speak for a Christian?
    Humility is simply agreeing with God's Word.

    OMGoodness! I've been speaking a lot of profanity lately. Wash my mouth out with soap!
     
  9. Gossiping can and does include things that are true. While it may be worse to tell lies about people, to unnecessarily spread true but hurtful things about others should also be avoided.

    "And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise." Luke 6:31

    "Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves." Phil 2:3
     
  10. I think if its going to edify someone, and its needed, then you may need to speak out or up about someone or a topic.

    But everyone ought to know or discern when to speak and when to be silent.

    Did Jesus ever slander anyone? No, but he did speak out and warn about peoples behaviours ie pharisees, saducees. He did warn his disciples someone would betray him but never mentioned the name of who it was even though He knew who it was!

    How about the adulterers and the women caught in adultery. Jesus had a way of handling that as well.
     
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