my husband left the me and the kids about five weeks ago, we have 2 and 1 on the way and i have 2 from a previous marriage, we recently started to communicate after a month of not. he took the first step and came to see the children and from there we agreed to work our marriage out. but i dont know if he said that just to keep the peace between us because i feel like he wants to have the best of both worlds. he comes to watch the kids on his days off 2 days out of the week and i go to work. then wednesday thru sunday we arent on the list of things he has to deal with.He has even told me this week that he didnt want to talk to me. And he would call me or text me when he wanted to talk. I felt so hurt I couldnt even pray to God i just cried and cried. the nite before we spent so much time together it was great, i dont understand! Now as far as him and i we have been intimate because we missed each other, and i didnt feel bad beacuse to me it wasnt just sex it was spending time with my husband in a way i had the right to. I have know Jesus as my savior for a very long time and he has not know Jesus intimately or does he acknowledge much of my beliefs. and i feel like when he leaves to go back to his mothers house where he stays he turns into the man that would rather be single and have no worries, he dosnt want to talk to me or text or even come over for dinner and spend time with his family. and thats where i feel used and not loved. but when hes here its such a different character, hes great! My question is am i doing damage to my heart and marriage by having sex with him or am i strenghting our chances of healing the marriage. What does God think or say about us being separted and still having sex? I think i should stop the intimate time when he comes over on those 2 days, because i cry the next day, so much because i want my husband home and i miss him! Can someone help me? i have prayed and asked God continuesly to help my heart to stop hurting and please make me stop crying, i cant stop crying, God has told me he is carrying me and he will continue to.