Question needs A Christian Answer

[Maureen]

Faith4Bride
Best thing, gets us nowhere to keep on tramping over the same issues and getting nowhere, going around in circles.

All not very Christian, don't believe our Saviour would want this, we must be united in Him.

The question is settled now in my heart, I know what Jesus would have me do, and that is nothing. Nothing to the solicitor, I know that now, and that is what I will be doing, nothing on him.

thank you for joining in.
enjoy the forum.

 

[Maureen]

God never asks us to assume responsibility for others, only ourselves. That needs to be our focus.
it is taken from UCB online

Just came across this today and thought it was very relevant, not meaning to drag up anything, just wanted to share it.

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[Shutterbug]

Good morning Maureen;

I suppose the core of this whole issue is the wee oversight of your Solicitor, compounded by the fact that you folks aren't the benefactors that you were once led to believe. Do I have that right?

While it's none of my (our) business and you won't hurt my feelings if you tell me to go pound sand, but could you give us a wee update? I know that four weeks isn't a long period of time, but I'm curious to know how you and your husband are coping with contrasting backgrounds.

While reading through some of this thread, the scenario which kept running through my head was that of the Israelites after being freed from Egypt. There was some concern that they were being led out into the desert and left to perish without witness. I think that Moses must have had an Irish mother because he had no intention of retreat, although that would be a double whammy in your case as I presume both you and your husband had Irish mothers! And, the Jews were known for their stubbornness. My experience is what works for us in one situation can work against us in another. While we occasionally like to think that we're Masters of our own destiny, a violin is called a fiddle only because of what music the player chooses. And, we can be played without even knowing it.

Anyway Lass, my only suggestion would be to pray for understanding, peace, and a sense of humour. If nothing else, your husband will appreciate and respect it. It's kind of like reminding yourself when surrounded by alligators, your initial objective is to drain the swamp.

Cheers,
John

 

[Maureen]

Update John.


I presume both you and your husband had Irish mothers
only one, me, husband is English, so therefore he has an English one.

I have wrote to 3 of the cousins who's addresses I have and am just about to send another one of today, by the solicitors request I have put a page in, saying if they do not intend on contesting Mr Turkington's will would they sign and date it, I also enclosed a 4 page letter expaining all happenings up to and after Uncle Sydneys death, to give them a picture of what happened in his life, as they really know nothing about him.

2 went to Australia, the other one to Scotland, to date I have not received any replies and it concerns me not.

To be honest, I never think about it, I know the Lord will deal with it in His way and His time, and it will come together when He says so.
My husband knows now I am not suing the solicitor for his mistake, we all make them, he is only human, what do I want to gain by doing that, his money? no, it is my Uncle's gift I was to be given not the solicitor's money.
'Fight evil with good'

Romans 12 v 21Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good
I'm not saying that what the solicitor did was evil, it was a 'mistake' but it has had a bad outcome.
Jeremiah 42 v 6
Whether it be good, or whether it be evil, we will obey the voice of the LORD our God, to whom we send thee; that it may be well with us, when we obey the voice of the LORD our God.

My son is living in my Uncle's house now, has been before this all happened.
I just pray that he can get to keep that wee house, weither no money ever changes hands or not, he is acting 'housekeeper' making sure it is kept safe and warm, and he also gets a home which he desperatly needed to escape to.

I hope this has been a little of an update, I do believe this will go on for a very long time, but that means my son lives there while we wait, that alone is my gift from God.

Thank you for your interest, John it's really nice to know someone else is.
Lordbless you.

 

[Maureen]

Shutterbug
I'm not sure if your still interested, or anyone else for that matter on just what is taking place regards my Uncle's gift he willed to me that has gone all pear shaped?

for anyone who is though;-
today I had another meeting with the solicitor, not to hear more good news, getting used to it now, anyway, 2 cousins one lives in England the other in Australia, wrote letters of complaint, mostly about me, now what I've ever done to them, I fail to remember.
what I do remember doing though, is helping to take care of their Mother, as they couldn't and I again was the only member of the family who was able to, she was in hospital and had to be found a Nursing Care home asap, which we scoured the country to find one suitable, weren't just going to put her in anything.
Poor love, was only in it 3 weeks when she died, a Christian lady, so she too went to be with her family in heaven praise God, we had to arrange her funeral, and clear out her house, I did not mind as she was my Aunt and I loved her.
All her son had to do from England was show up at the funeral collect her bank book, say his thank yous and leave, her daughter never came.

they were very grateful at the time for what I did for their Mother, as they didn't live here.

People forget though, and when money is mentioned they get all greedy and sense goes out the window.
they want share of Uncle Sydneys home, I have known the Lord's hand upon me though through all of this, in fact the solicitor said today you must be annoyed, to which I honestly said no I wasn't I'm annoyed for Uncle Sydney who didn't want it to be this way but for myself, no I'm not.

I wrote them both a letter when I came home, I just said that I wasn't casting up but merely reminding them how grateful they were when I did what i could for their Mother, and I praised the Lord Jesus that I was His now, as the letter I was writing would have certainily took an entirely differant tone had I not been.

I see Jesus through all of this, Praise His Holy Name, and it shows my husband also the trust I have in Him, before his very eyes.
He had said he'd loved to send them their share and put a note to say I hope it doesn't bring you any happiness' I told him, no I couldnt do that. He could, he's not saved, but he can't because it's not his place, it's up to me to decide, Uncle was wise he knew I'd be honest when all was said and done, but again that's the Lord, I cannot take any credit nor want to.
All the Glory belongs to Jesus,
it is His leading of me, that I shows Him in all of this, and that is my total aim to Glorify His Holy Name.

Such a peace, and a calm, and without worry or care over any of it, He has given me all of this.
It's as if it's not even happening.
That's Jesus.