Question needs A Christian Answer

[Maureen]

Hoping this wont' be too long.
I'm in a sort of battle at present, it's not a spiritual one,
it's a legal one, and I need some Christian wisdom applied.

I was left an inheritance from my Uncle who recently died,
his house, he only named it to go to me, it was his wishes,
not mine, we were very close, he had no immediate family,
so he named me as his next of kin and carer.

okay, the will he left has now become, null and void, since
the solicitor dealing with it made a big mistake, they were his
own words, he let my husband sign it as the witness, and
he has now said this is not legal.

Therefore there was as is now happens another will, made
a long time ago, which Uncle Sydney had forgotten about.
It names others, neices and newphews, etc.
one of the other neices has contested the will he left me,
and this is how this came about.

I had told my husband (unsaved) all along that if it is God's
will we will do this and that with the money from the house,
only if it's God's will for me, I never banked on it, but I do
think he did.

He now wants me to go to our own solicitor and sue this
solicitor for his big mistake.
I don't know if this is Biblically sound to do, I have heard
that Christians shouldn't be taking anyone to court, I don't
know if this is sound either.

What do you think, I know Chad is very wise with his words and
knowledge of the Bible, but I would be pleased to hear from
you all on this matter.
Husband wants me to go tomorrow, to say this was my future
to which I told him it wasn't my future, it's all in God's will and
that's how I aim to look at it.
Needless to say he was very annoyed at me, but I'd rather
annoy him than offend Jesus.

Thank you for any help given, and biblical advice regards it.

 

[Maureen]

No one got any advice for me yet?

When husband said again say it's your future that's been destroyed,
the Lord gave me the proper answer,
I replied, 'it's so not, my future is in God's hands and being with you'
so he couldn't be annoyed at that, and he wasn't.

Our appt. is for tomorrow with this other solicitor, I will just tell
him what the Lord Jesus laid on my heart to say above, and
see what he has to say in reply.

Jesus will undertake I know He will.
He always comes through when we totally depend on Him
and no-one else.

 

[rizen1]

Praise God...
Sometimes when there is silence God will give you an answer.

 

[Maureen]

Thank you for your reply and confirmation.

But tell, is it lawful for a Christian to be doing this and sueing the other
solicitor?
That's the bit I'm not clear on, and I do thank Jesus for His intervention
on the rest.

 

[pebosworth]

As far as I recall we shouldn't take other believers to court, not non-believers? Am I wrong? I can't remember where that verse is so I can't even back it up, sorry. Will look into it. Maybe someone knows where it is?

Personally I would go to court. The governing authorities was put in place by God for a reason, and I think that reason would be justice. (Romans 13:1: "...the authorities that exist have been established by God." and 1 Peter 2:14: "or to governors, who are sent by him to punish those who do wrong and to commend those wo do right.") I don't think there is anything wrong for standing up for your rights or defending yourself, we just mustn't fight "evil with evil or insult with insult" (1 Peter 3:8,9) and I don't think that is what you will be doing by taking this matter further.

 

[Maureen]

oh thank you and I do know the scripture your refering to.

I do also think it is right what your saying, we shouldn't take 'brothers
and sisters in Christ to court' but this has distroyed what my Uncles
last remaining requests were.
Now, and I can assure you it's not the money aspect of it, but it
will be divided to people who never gave him a second thought,
never went to even visit with him in hospital, or even phoned to
ask about him, I think myself that is so not right, and I know his mind
and he would be absolutly gutted to know this would happen this
way.
If only my son gets to stay living in his house, without even any money
exchanging hands that would please me greatly.

Thank you again for your help, I know the Lord leads us, and I
praise and thank Him.

 

[pebosworth]

I do also think it is right what your saying, we shouldn't take 'brothers
and sisters in Christ to court' but this has distroyed what my Uncles
last remaining requests were.

I'm not sure what you mean. Are you saying that the people you want to sue are believers? or that your uncle requested for you not to take anyone to court?

The reason we are not suppose to take believers to court is because God wants us to go through a certain procedure first. We should first confront them, then if they don't listen take someone with you and go confront them again, if they still don't listen then take them to the leaders in the church and so on... We shouldn't have conflict with believers, we should try and sort it out before it gets to court, but I think even then if they won't listen we are entitled to take it to court (as a last resort). I wish I could find where I read that. Like I said, going to court isn't wrong because the courts were put there by God to make sure justice is done. Of course, we should try and first settle it out of court somehow, but if this is impossible, then by all means, go to court. My opinion only, but I can't see it being wrong.

 

[lshrimp]

leave it to God

Hi there, i only hope this can help.

The only advice and scripture i can offer you in this time is about forgivness. Whether or not the solicitor did this knowingly or not, it is not up to us to seek revenge.

If your husband and/or you have feelings of bitterness, anger or a grudge towards this man. Then you will need to forgive him.

However since your Husband is not walking with christ at this very point, you can only tell him where you stand and choose not you go ahead with the lawsuit (if that is your choice) and leave the rest to God.

If you may be holding a grudge against him.

Mark 12:25 "But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your father in heaven will forgive your sins, too." NLT


Forgiveness

Romans 12:19
"Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the scriptures say, I will take revenge; I will pay them back. says the lord" NLT

Matthew 6:14 & 15 (KJV)
"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: but if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."

Luke 17:4
"Even if he wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, forgive him." - NLT

Im sure we will all pray for you in this time, and for your husband.

Godbless, your brother in christ
LS

 

[stephen]

You need to press ahead and claim what you believe is rightfully yours.

People will take it from you if they possibly can. If you feel you have a righteous case, and from what you say, to me it would seem to be so, go ahead, speak up for your reward for caring for this man

 

[Maureen]

You guys and girls are so great.
Thank you all my family in Jesus.

Pebosworth
No my Uncle never stated anything other than he wanted me to
have his house, bank acc. and his car, you talk about 'Seek ye
first the Kingdom of God and all these other things will be added
unto you'
He gave me his car about 4 months ago, when he wasn't allowed
to drive anymore, I then became his driver.
He made me joint acc. holder around the same time, he said if any
thing ever happened him I would have it.
These 2 gifts cannot be taken from me, Praise God, he is so good to me.
The person talked about being sued is the solicitor Victor, the person
who done the dirty digging into my husband not being legal to sign
the will is a Christian, and couldn't come directly to me, he went to
a cousin who's not named on Uncle's will even, and got her to do the
deed. He holds an old will, which he thought was now valid, because
Uncles gift to me isn't, but that's all it is, my gift, that is now cancelled
because of my husbands signature, the will itself stands valid and those
who were mentioned on it, the house is being contested by a cousin,
who wants share of it, who never even phoned when he was so ill
or came to his funeral, that's hurtful.

We did go to the solicitor today, now this is our own solicitor, Jerry
from years back, the one I got to cover my Uncles will, Victor
was a new oneto us, as we needed someone asap, and our sol. is renoun to be slow, good but slow.

We asked Jerry what to do, and left the decision in his hands,
he said without hesitation he'd sue the other solicitor, he made
the blunder, now he knows Victor very well, and said he's a
real gentleman, and that he would phone him with regards to this.

I just received a letter today when we got home from Victor
for me to come and sign some forms, he named them but you
might as well call them Brown Cow, for all the sence the jargon
makes to me.
How do I face him when he knows Jerry is sueing on my behalf?
oh dear not nice, but was what Jerry said should be done.

okay I hope I've cleared up what I made unclear.
Thank you all for much needed imput.

In regard to members of my family and distant one's who are
Christian, who delved deep into trying to reep havoc for me
over my Uncles gift to me.
here are 2 scriptures that I got about it:-
Job 4 v 8
Even as I have seen, they that plow iniquity,
and sow wickedness, reap the same.
Jeremaih 8 v 10
Therefore will I give their wives unto others, and their fields to them that shall inherit them: for every one from the least even unto the greatest is given to covetousness, from the prophet even unto the priest every one dealeth falsely.

I have written 3 letters to the 2 who are in the thick of it,
not cheeky letters, I wouldn't dare, but I had to ask for each
£100 pound cheque to be returned to me, as I paid them out
of my money, as there was 7 of them, to get as Uncle stated.
Now they will have to wait till the sale of his home, to recieve
them back again.


Oh I so don't have a grudge against this solicitor, he really didn't know
but also he should have he deals with the law, you can't be frivilous
when these matters arise, as they do.

I so feel for the man, but does that mean that I say it's okay, your
mistake in what my Uncle wanted to give me is fine, it doesn't bother
me that the family are dragging my name in muck now, so long as my
Jesus love me, all can do or think what they want of me it's not hurting
me.
Praise His Holy Name, and that He ones me.

 

[pebosworth]

Hi there, i only hope this can help.

The only advice and scripture i can offer you in this time is about forgivness. Whether or not the solicitor did this knowingly or not, it is not up to us to seek revenge.

If your husband and/or you have feelings of bitterness, anger or a grudge towards this man. Then you will need to forgive him.

However since your Husband is not walking with christ at this very point, you can only tell him where you stand and choose not you go ahead with the lawsuit (if that is your choice) and leave the rest to God.

If you may be holding a grudge against him.

Mark 12:25 "But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your father in heaven will forgive your sins, too." NLT


Forgiveness

Romans 12:19
"Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the scriptures say, I will take revenge; I will pay them back. says the lord" NLT

Matthew 6:14 & 15 (KJV)
"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: but if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."

Luke 17:4
"Even if he wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, forgive him." - NLT

Im sure we will all pray for you in this time, and for your husband.

Godbless, your brother in christ
LS

I don't think the issue is unforgiveness or revenge. I don't believe that is what she is feeling. She is asking if it is right to claim what is rightfully hers by taking this man to court. I don't see any wrong in doing that because after all the governing authorities were established by God for us for this very purpose - to see that justice is done.

Am I wrong Maureen? I would say take it further. God will close whatever doors he doesn't want you to enter. At least you brought it before Him first before you did anything! Good on you.

 

[Maureen]

Spot on Pebosworth
it aint about forgiving anyone, no-one has done any wrong or harm
against me.

The solicitor said as soon as I walked into his office, I made a big mistake.
okay, so because of his big mistake, I don't get what my Uncle
willed and it was tore apart by family members, some who live in Austrailia,
New Zealand, and the rest in England who haven't saw him for upty ump
years or didn't want to bother with him at all.
To be fair the cousin in Austrailia, said it was only but right that he would have
given it to me, as I was special to him, from I was little, she didnt even
expect anything nor want it.
But the cousin who does lives here who is now contesting
his will, she never cared about him, never contacted him, or phoned
he used to call every Friday to see her, he stopped about a year ago
she never even bothered to ring him to ask if he was okay.

Neither did she attend his funeral, or even visit in hospital.

It is so annoying when this happens that I know my Uncle so well
he knew what he was doing, he knew no-one else cared wether
he lived or died, poor man.

So all this now is shared with those kind of people, would my Uncle
Sydney be pleased, he'd be fumming to put it mildly.
He always believed in who ever did what was right regards
spending was good in his eyes.
He wouldn't even give my husband money, as he used to now and
then give me a gift, why, because he knew my husband would drink
it, and he disapproved, even though he loved him dearly,
and the feelings were mutual.

I don't have anyone to forgive or to forgive anyone, and I thank Jesus
for that, yes I did pray much about all this, and the Lord knows it's
in his hands, and His will be done.
I never laid down any plans, my husband did, but not me, I always
told him when he came up with ideas, yes Evan if it's God's will for us.
He see's the bigger picture, He knows what is good for us and what
isn't.

What else can I say.
It is in the hands of the solicitors, but it's in the nail peirced hands of
Jesus long before they got it.

 

[trulyblezzed]

From Gotquestions.org

Question: "What does the Bible say about lawsuits / suing?"

Answer: 1 Corinthians 6:1-8 definitely instructs believers to not go to court against one another. To demonstrate that Christians are not capable of forgiving each other and reconcile their own differences is to demonstrate spiritual defeat. Why would someone want to become a Christian if Christians have just as many problems and are just as incapable of solving them? However, there are likely some instances when a lawsuit might be the proper course of action. If the Biblical pattern for reconciliation has been followed (Matthew 18:15-17) and the offending party is still in the wrong, in some instances, a lawsuit might be the proper thing to do. This should only be done after much prayer for wisdom (James 1:5) and consultation with spiritual leadership.

1 Corinthians 6:4 states "If you then have judgments concerning things pertaining to this life, do you appoint those who are least esteemed by the church to judge?" The whole context of 1 Corinthians 6:1-6 is dealing with disputes in the church, but Paul does reference the court system when he says judgments concerning things pertaining to this life. Paul means that in matters of this life that are outside the church, that is why the court system exists. Paul is saying that church problems should not be taken to the court system, but should be judged within the church.

Acts chapter 21 starting with verse 26 talks about Paul being arrested and wrongfully accused of something he did not do. Then the Romans took him and in Chapter 22 starting with verse 24 we read, "The commander brought Paul inside and ordered him lashed with whips to make him confess his crime. He wanted to find out why the crowd had become so furious. As they tied Paul down to lash him, Paul said to the officer standing there, "Is it legal for you to whip a Roman citizen who hasn't even been tried?" Paul used the Roman law and his citizenship to protect himself. There is nothing wrong with using the court system as long as it is done with a right motive and a pure heart.

1 Corinthians 6:7 declares, "Actually, then, it is already a defeat for you, that you have lawsuits with one another. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be defrauded?" The thing Paul is concerned with here is the testimony of the believer. It would be far better for us to be taken advantage of, or even abused, than it would be for us to push a person even further away from Christ by taking them to court. What is more important, a legal battle, or the battle for a person’s eternal soul?

In summary, should Christians take each other to court over church matters? Absolutely not! Should Christians take each other to court over civil matters? If it can in any way be avoided, no. Should Christians take non-Christians to court over civil matters? Again, if it can be avoided, no. However, in some instances, such as the protection of our own rights (as in the example of the Apostle Paul), it may be appropriate to pursue a legal defense.

 

[Maureen]

the offending party is still in the wrong

the offending party in this case trulyblezzed is the solicitor,
he's the one made the big mistake as he called it.
Our long time solicitor is the one who said 'sue him' that's
what he would do in my shoes, I did not ask for it to be done.
This is what he said to me, we asked if it were you what
would be your action?

Him being a solicitor himself, and knowing the law, and even
knowing very well the solicitor that made the big mistake,
still said 'sue'.
Surely this scripture is speaking about brother sueing brother
fellow Christians, which it isn't about.
church problems should not be taken to the court system,
it is not a church problem,

I'm still very unsure about all of this, wether it's what I want to
do or not, can I really say in my heart I want to sue this solicitor
for his big mistake, I don't know, I don't want to sue anyone.

My husband will go ape with me I know for sure if I say I'm not
especially after our own solicitor saying we should do it.

I have to face him this Friday, he will know by then as our
solicitor will have phoned him to tell him, how do I look this
man in the face, do I tell him my husbands attitude about it,
it's like being piggy in middle.
If I don't do it, I have one very angry husband, if I do, will I
be able to live with me.
More importantly, what will it be in the eyes of my Lord,
if my husband were a Christian it would be so much easier
he would understand my heart, but he doesn't.

I think I will ring my cousin in Canada, nothing to do with this
she's on my Mum's side of family.
Shes a good Christian woman, and has much wisdom, she will
know, she will help me.

I know my heart is getting more and more turned toward not
doing it, I think if I'm honest with me, I don't want to.
It's hurting, and what do I gain, money? is that what I want to
fight for?
it's truly not my God.

 

[Laudite]

Sister, may the Peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, be with you in a troubled time. I may have some insight into at least several biblical writings on this concept, and I hope they come in time to offer some help.

First, let us examine Paul's letter to the Corinthians. It does, at least in general, ask us not to take our fellows to court. Personally, I think that in context this does not apply to you. However, this is a judgement on the context of the writings, and therefore that choice is up to you. But let's look closely. First, Paul is writing to a single church- it would be as though you sought to sue a person that you saw every sunday. In such a circumstance, it would be unreasonably querulous of you (and indeed, that does describe the church at Corinth) to take a dispute to the law courts when you have preists and deacons in whatever form whom you share in high esteem. Furthermore, Paul wishes the Corinthians to seek, in the spirit of Christ's forgiveness, for the parties to forgive one another and resolve their problems amicably (this is indeed the main message of Corinthians, as well as many of his other epistles, most notably that to Philemon)

It seems to me that this is not applicable to your case. Truly, if you are family, it seems that whatever good faith attempts to resolve the issue between yourselves have failed. Christ does require us to do this with hearts full of forgiveness- and be mindful that on your ability to forgive your persecutor you will be judged. If, as seems the case, there is no fruit to this, it seems that you can turn to a higher power to resolve the case.

Secondly, you do not seem to share a church community with your plaintiffs, and therefore no shared church authority might adjudicate (In the US we would call this binding arbitration)

Thirdly, your departed uncle wrote his will trusting in the law of the land and the courts thereof to protect and enact his final wishes. There is clearly no paralell here to the Corinthians, and to fail to defend your uncles wishes in the forum he chose to place them seems to neglect your duty to carry out his final wishes.

Finally, it is worth noting that the Corinthians went to a wholely heathen court and that todays judicial system is enacted at the very least on the principles of Christianity (even if you reject the notion that the King is God's defender of the realm, and therefore the King's Courts are the Christian means of adjudication)

You may see things differently, but

 

[Maureen]

Laudite
Thank you for your time and trouble to give a response to
my dilemma.

As you agree with me, and see this is not a 'church' matter,
defiantly not, it is about giving a cousin whom my Uncle didn't
even choose to name in his will for a £100 gift as he did for 8 others
well it's now giving to her half of his full estate, I assume around
£70,000 to which my Uncle if he knew would go absoluty of his head
with, when you said I will have neglected to look after his wishes
he wanted carried out
seems to neglect your duty to carry out his final wishes
I know you say this without any malice to me, your just stating a very
true fact, and I wholeheartedly agree, I just never saw it as that
way until now.

In saying that and it being now brought to my attention, there is
literally nothing I can do to re-arrange the matter, it was left in
the hands of the solicitor, but firstly it was placed in more
tender hands, that of our Lord Jesus Christ.

If I didnt have his directiion on this matter, I don't know were I'd be
locked up probably.

I have been reading from one of my brothers or sisters on here to
seek Godly council on the matter, that's why I said I'm going to
phone my cousin in Canada, she is so wise, and a good person and
loves Jesus with all her heart.

I was praying and thinking too, and my heart is melting as to sueing
this solicitor, taking him to court, I know he made the big mistake
he admitted it, but what I am going to gain, HIS money, is that what I
want, I can say without question of doubt, it isn't.

I thank the Lord again, money is not MY God, can be my husbands if
so, still not mine, and he knows it.

I know it's totally wrong for this cousin to be getting what SHE wants
from my Uncle as it was not his will for her to have anything, but my
hands are tied, I wrote her a letter as it's what I do best, and was
not cheeky, I just stated that it wasn't Uncle Sydneys will to name
her on it, and what she is doing is against his will.
I said a bit more, pleading his case, as best I could, in the hope her
conscience would spill over, but I very much doubt that,
anyone who wants money, and can find a loophole, is going to do
just that, and I cannot do anything about that.

I tried with words on paper that is my effort on my Uncles behalf.
I have left a note for my husband, I couldn't bring myself to say
that I don't believe I can or want to sue this solicitor.

So now, the Lord has to move, it is Him who will open and close the
doors as He is able, I quoted scripture, to the one who is
a Christian who started all this in the first place by informing my cousin
about it, Jim =
Jermiah 8 v 10
Therefore will I give their wives unto others, and their fields to them that shall inherit them:
for every one from the least even unto the greatest is given to covetousness, from the prophet
even unto the priest every one dealeth falsely.
Job 4 v8‘Even as I have seen, they that plow iniquity, and sow wickedness, reap the same‘

He will understand, this man even takes 'church' he's a deacon,
or something to that position.
You expect better from people like this.
How can you say you walk with Jesus and do this to a fellow brother.
Now we dont attend church together, we live on opposite ends of
town, and he is the husband of my late Aunt who was my Uncle's
wife, so distantly related to my Uncle.

You ended with 'but' did you mean to, or did you not finish Laudite?
Thank you again and to all others who have wrote to help me.

Really I am not worried, when you write and say about 'this problem'
you know something, it's a problem to Jesus, He took it from the
start, that's how I say I couldn't manage without Him.
Praise His Holy and Beautiful Name.
Our God is Great.

 

[Maureen]

okay, here's latest.
I was taking my friend home tonight, she lives quite a distance from me.
So on way home, Jesus had other plans than me going straight home,
I ended up in the area of the cousin who's contesting my Uncles will.

Okay I thought, you've brought me this way for a reason, if I have to
knock her door, then help me to find the street, after getting told
WRONG directions didnt I end up right outside her house, I took right
when the guy told me left, that was the Lord, he knew it was right and
not left.

Her daughter refused to let me in at first, said it was because of the
solicitor, I said so me being family doesn't count for anything?
she then lead me in without another word.

Forgot to say, I prayed in car before I knocked her door, as my
stomach was in nerves, so the Lord undertook and they went, I was so
calm I could have went to sleep (joking)

I will cut this short as much was said, but I just asked the daughter
to leave me and her Mum alone, the daughter is an alcoholic, and
she was very proud of it when telling me, I told her Jesus could help
her too as he helped me 5 years ago, when my marriage was breaking
up, he fulfilled the 3 things I prayed to him for, she said oh i've sat and
talked to myself too, I said I was talking to Jesus because he answered
them and they all happened, and I wouldn't go back to that life for
anything at all, she really listened, there was me actully witnessing
and giving a brief testimoney which I hadn't expected to be doing.
That's why the Lord lead me there tonight.

She had asked me why I went all religious, I did smile, but said, I'm not
religious at all, I have a relationship with Jesus and I love it, and that
I could tell her about him till I was blue in the face, but until you try
it for yourself, you just won't believe me, I know as I've done it too,
but now I know.

You know God really was glorified, as I'd prayed for also.
The shame of it all is Margaret my cousin, has Alzhimers so she really
couldn't comprehend what I was on about, I didn't know this, so it's
her daughter and son who is forcing her to do this, as she denied all
knowledge of contesting it, even going to a solictor, it was her
daughter again told her that her grand daughter took her, then she
agreed.
Margaret said she wouldn't do this to Uncle Sydneys wishes, she
doesn't want any money from him, she has enough of her own, and
would not be the cause of destroying what he wanted to do.
but as I've said it's not her fault, it's her family.
I left it with her to think about what she wants to do, either squash it
or go ahead, as she really didnt' know what I was giiving her my phone
number for, I had to tell her again, but it's no use, as I've said she is
not able to do this on her own bat.
Her daughter wants share for her adiction, alcohol, and she is more to
be pitied also, she said she was following in her father's footsteps as he
too was one, I told her her Mum had enough to contend with with him
when he was alive without her adding to it.

I was so calm and the words were so spontanious, it was incredible,
but then isn't Jesus just incredible anyway, I just opened my mouth
and He filled it with what He wanted spoke. oh thank you Lord.

I know the Lord Jesus was pleased, I have tried to carry out being the
executor and trustee of my Uncles will to the best of my ability, with
the help of Jesus, I now rest it with him, to open and close the doors
of justice that he would have opened and shut.

His will be done now, and His name be glorified.

 

[Shutterbug]

Good morning Maureen;

Sometimes knowing what to do can be very difficult. It seems that you have a patient attitude and are willing to work with whomever to sort it out. Yeah, even the best of people make mistakes. When it comes to money, I haven't met any honest men.

While I wish you all the best in resolving your dilemna, don't lose your sense of humour if walking away is necessary, . Phil 4:8.

Cheers,
John

 

[Maureen]

Thank you John
your reply is much welcomed.

I would in no way care or loose my sense of humour if I was to
walk away, but you try telling that to an unsaved man, my husband.

He is the one adament in this to score points, he didn't want me going
into my cousins at all, but I obeyed God, not man.
I guess he was worried for my safety to give him credit, as the
daughter is a bit wild on drink, but she was like a little lamb in front
of a servant of the Lord Jesus.

My husband doesn't understand Godly matters, it's only the other day
I told him I don't share my revelations from the Lord with him as he's
only think I'm foolish as they would be to him.

He asked me to share some, I did, share one, the latest one, he did
believe and didn't think I'd some screws missing.

So I take this as a great step forward in sharing my faith with him now.
Last night was another one of those great and true revelations,
and I shared it with him, told him just how Jesus lead me there,
and undertook for me.

I will go easy, with him, and not divludge too much, but then these
don't happen that often, more's the pity.

He reads my notes I take at my church services, I've always taken
notes, I don't know why, and he asked me once why I did, now I
know, tis to let him read what he's missed.
I only write down the pointers that hit me, and sometimes add something
that I think is relative to it.
it always has a meaning for him, the unsaved, I'm delighted he wants
to read them, as he asked me once why I hadn't left out my notes for
him the night before, he reads them before he leaves for work, I'm
still in bed, that's the hard bit for me to do, haha.

so, the Lord Jesus is working away at all of this, I don't always see
Him doing so, then it appears, and another obsticle is crossed.

thank you again John, really appreciate your time consuming reading
all my writing on this thread, I know I tend to go on some, but
believe me I can write more than I talk. I know that's my gift.

 

[Faith4Bride]

hi maureen, this maybe a bit late but i think the main point has been completely missed here

the point is not should a christian sue or who is right or wrong or what the person wanted with their will. i personally as a christian on my own would never sue, i would trust God for His purpose to be accomplished.

However, that is not your actual situation for one reason.

Your husband told you want he wanted you to do- and you should do what your husband wants you do to because that is what christian wives are called to do. We are not called to tell our husbands well, if God wants i will do this or that. God wants us to obey our husbands and submit to them- even if they obey not the word-.

So as soon as your husband said what to do, that should be what you did, in faith and confiedence.