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I'm depressed. Been having a very bad day, but I won’t allow the devil to destroy my will to please God. I understand the spiritual battle going in my life now.


I was listening to this and it was helping me. I know God will guide me, but I'm so worried about my boyfriend. Some of the things he said to me lately are heartbreaking. I may have a mental breakdown, If this continues the way it is now. We may just break up very soon.

Lord Jesus Christ, you understand my struggle. Temptation always catch me by surprise, and it hurts me to sin against you. My old fleshly nature is tempting me. I confess that you are my Savior and the creator of my sexuality. I present myself to you to be made holy in every way, including in my sexuality. I ask You to forgive me. I repent for living a life of fornication that violates your Word and my body. I surrender to You. Help me lord to break these chains of temptation. I ask your forgiveness for every act of sexual sin. Cleanse my heart and mind. Cleanse my sexuality. I renounce those sins in your name. I now forsake and flee from all sexual sins I’m involved in. Lord, use me to open my boyfriend’s eyes and turn him from darkness to light. I ask you to draw him to you that he may know You and spend eternity with You. Forgive us for our sexual wrongdoing. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
 
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I'm depressed. Been having a very bad day, but I won’t allow the devil to destroy my will to please God. I understand the spiritual battle going in my life now.


I was listening to this and it was helping me. I know God will guide me, but I'm so worried about my boyfriend. Some of the things he said to me lately are heartbreaking. I may have a mental breakdown, If this continues the way it is now. We may just break up very soon.

Lord Jesus Christ, you understand my struggle. Temptation always catch me by surprise, and it hurts me to sin against you. My old fleshly nature is tempting me. I confess that you are my Savior and the creator of my sexuality. I present myself to you to be made holy in every way, including in my sexuality. I ask You to forgive me. I repent for living a life of fornication that violates your Word and my body. I surrender to You. Help me lord to break these chains of temptation. I ask your forgiveness for every act of sexual sin. Cleanse my heart and mind. Cleanse my sexuality. I renounce those sins in your name. I now forsake and flee from all sexual sins I’m involved in. Lord, use me to open my boyfriend’s eyes and turn him from darkness to light. I ask you to draw him to you that he may know You and spend eternity with You. Forgive us for our sexual wrongdoing. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
" And I will hold your hand , as we flee, together, for greater is He that is in you. Than He that is in the world"
" For he will order his angels to protect you wherever you go. They will hold you up with their hands so you won't even hurt your foot on a stone".
"The Lord says, I will rescue those who love me. I will protect those who trust in my name"
"When they call on me, I will answer!

Now if he rescued "Lot" from Sodom, don't you know, He will rescue you". Trust Him!
 
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I'm depressed. Been having a very bad day, but I won’t allow the devil to destroy my will to please God. I understand the spiritual battle going in my life now.


I was listening to this and it was helping me. I know God will guide me, but I'm so worried about my boyfriend. Some of the things he said to me lately are heartbreaking. I may have a mental breakdown, If this continues the way it is now. We may just break up very soon.

Lord Jesus Christ, you understand my struggle. Temptation always catch me by surprise, and it hurts me to sin against you. My old fleshly nature is tempting me. I confess that you are my Savior and the creator of my sexuality. I present myself to you to be made holy in every way, including in my sexuality. I ask You to forgive me. I repent for living a life of fornication that violates your Word and my body. I surrender to You. Help me lord to break these chains of temptation. I ask your forgiveness for every act of sexual sin. Cleanse my heart and mind. Cleanse my sexuality. I renounce those sins in your name. I now forsake and flee from all sexual sins I’m involved in. Lord, use me to open my boyfriend’s eyes and turn him from darkness to light. I ask you to draw him to you that he may know You and spend eternity with You. Forgive us for our sexual wrongdoing. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
Amen in agreement with you in prayer
God Bless you kitty
 
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I'm depressed. Been having a very bad day, but I won’t allow the devil to destroy my will to please God. I understand the spiritual battle going in my life now.


I was listening to this and it was helping me. I know God will guide me, but I'm so worried about my boyfriend. Some of the things he said to me lately are heartbreaking. I may have a mental breakdown, If this continues the way it is now. We may just break up very soon.

Lord Jesus Christ, you understand my struggle. Temptation always catch me by surprise, and it hurts me to sin against you. My old fleshly nature is tempting me. I confess that you are my Savior and the creator of my sexuality. I present myself to you to be made holy in every way, including in my sexuality. I ask You to forgive me. I repent for living a life of fornication that violates your Word and my body. I surrender to You. Help me lord to break these chains of temptation. I ask your forgiveness for every act of sexual sin. Cleanse my heart and mind. Cleanse my sexuality. I renounce those sins in your name. I now forsake and flee from all sexual sins I’m involved in. Lord, use me to open my boyfriend’s eyes and turn him from darkness to light. I ask you to draw him to you that he may know You and spend eternity with You. Forgive us for our sexual wrongdoing. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
It is good that you are paying attention to the movement of God in your life.

Temptations Only come from the Devil when you are doing something right. The more that you choose to follow the will of the Lord The More The Temptations will come because the devil does not want you to walk in the Light of Christ but in the Darkness..

I know it always sounds so simple , yet the struggle is real.

I will keep you in my prayers
 
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I'm depressed. Been having a very bad day, but I won’t allow the devil to destroy my will to please God. I understand the spiritual battle going in my life now.


I was listening to this and it was helping me. I know God will guide me, but I'm so worried about my boyfriend. Some of the things he said to me lately are heartbreaking. I may have a mental breakdown, If this continues the way it is now. We may just break up very soon.

Lord Jesus Christ, you understand my struggle. Temptation always catch me by surprise, and it hurts me to sin against you. My old fleshly nature is tempting me. I confess that you are my Savior and the creator of my sexuality. I present myself to you to be made holy in every way, including in my sexuality. I ask You to forgive me. I repent for living a life of fornication that violates your Word and my body. I surrender to You. Help me lord to break these chains of temptation. I ask your forgiveness for every act of sexual sin. Cleanse my heart and mind. Cleanse my sexuality. I renounce those sins in your name. I now forsake and flee from all sexual sins I’m involved in. Lord, use me to open my boyfriend’s eyes and turn him from darkness to light. I ask you to draw him to you that he may know You and spend eternity with You. Forgive us for our sexual wrongdoing. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
The heart can so easily be torn, causing us pain that makes us wonder whats the worth of living. Yet God has had His heart torn so often over us, that He if a normal human, would have curled up in a ball and been comatose or worse. He is Spirit, and so much stonger in Spirit to be able to overcome the pain, but it only makes Him more determined to help us through our pain and to solve the cause of most of the pain we feel. He did the biggest part of that solution in Jesus, and everything else is just satan trying to hurt us (whom God loves) due to his being angry over his dominion soon to come to and end. Time makes the pain lessen, but as long as we are in this world, there are going to be those who will break our hearts, all we can do is do our best to forgive those who hurt us and pray for them, and yet draw closer to the One who truly loves us and will NEVER stop loving us, God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. Trust in Them alone, and do your best to love God and your fellow humans, for this makes you more like Jesus, the Groom, us the Bride.
 
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I hate this temptation. I’m concerned about falling in sin. I do not want that to happen.

My boyfriend made his mind, “I’m not going to be your gay boyfriend. We stay together or we break up. Pick one.”

I love him, but I also want to honor God. I made it clear to him that I won’t have the sex ever again. He said he can’t force me to do something against my religion, but I’m still worried. We share the same bed, and if we are sleeping together, this act may lead me right back into sin again. I told him I’m his girlfriend and the mother of his child, but I'm not his wife, and if he wants a family, then he should really consider making one because I can’t promise I’ll stay like this.

Then we had this huge fight. he told me how I ruined a lot of things when I got arrested and how my parents blamed him for everything...etc.. the only good that came of it is that he did promise to bring me a ring soon, but he said a lot of things the other day about my family and my Christian faith and how he does not want to be bothered by our “religious nonsense.” As he called it and told me I'm foolish for believing in it.

I want to make peace of this so I'll consider it his proposal when he brings the ring. I'll take baby steps with him when it comes to God and my faith. I know I should not compromise on my faith but I do not intend to leave him. At the same time, I want to live a holy life so this is the only way.

Thank you for keeping me in your prayers.
 
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I hate this temptation. I’m concerned about falling in sin. I do not want that to happen.

My boyfriend made his mind, “I’m not going to be your gay boyfriend. We stay together or we break up. Pick one.”

I love him, but I also want to honor God. I made it clear to him that I won’t have the sex ever again. He said he can’t force me to do something against my religion, but I’m still worried. We share the same bed, and if we are sleeping together, this act may lead me right back into sin again. I told him I’m his girlfriend and the mother of his child, but I'm not his wife, and if he wants a family, then he should really consider making one because I can’t promise I’ll stay like this.

Then we had this huge fight. he told me how I ruined a lot of things when I got arrested and how my parents blamed him for everything...etc.. the only good that came of it is that he did promise to bring me a ring soon, but he said a lot of things the other day about my family and my Christian faith and how he does not want to be bothered by our “religious nonsense.” As he called it and told me I'm foolish for believing in it.

I want to make peace of this so I'll consider it his proposal when he brings the ring. I'll take baby steps with him when it comes to God and my faith. I know I should not compromise on my faith but I do not intend to leave him. At the same time, I want to live a holy life so this is the only way.

Thank you for keeping me in your prayers.
I know that some people here will think I'm a little bit whacked on this response . Well the be quite honest a lot of people probably think I'm a little bit off my rocker in the first place .

You know it's really amazing the blessings that come from God and how strange the way in which they come to us . Temptations are a really good example of this .

Now I know the Temptations are something that comes from the darkness or the devil however God uses these Temptations to help us to grow deeper in the Lord.

The fact that you already know that they are Temptations is a really huge step. So when you receive the Temptations you give it up to Lord say Lord please take this from me.

So The Temptations become an exercise of reaching out to the Lord and seeking His help. What then transpires is that now that you have these little Temptations dealt with when bigger Temptations come along you will already have the foundation of how to deal with the bigger Temptations
 
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I hate this temptation. I’m concerned about falling in sin. I do not want that to happen.

My boyfriend made his mind, “I’m not going to be your gay boyfriend. We stay together or we break up. Pick one.”

I love him, but I also want to honor God. I made it clear to him that I won’t have the sex ever again. He said he can’t force me to do something against my religion, but I’m still worried. We share the same bed, and if we are sleeping together, this act may lead me right back into sin again. I told him I’m his girlfriend and the mother of his child, but I'm not his wife, and if he wants a family, then he should really consider making one because I can’t promise I’ll stay like this.

Then we had this huge fight. he told me how I ruined a lot of things when I got arrested and how my parents blamed him for everything...etc.. the only good that came of it is that he did promise to bring me a ring soon, but he said a lot of things the other day about my family and my Christian faith and how he does not want to be bothered by our “religious nonsense.” As he called it and told me I'm foolish for believing in it.

I want to make peace of this so I'll consider it his proposal when he brings the ring. I'll take baby steps with him when it comes to God and my faith. I know I should not compromise on my faith but I do not intend to leave him. At the same time, I want to live a holy life so this is the only way.

Thank you for keeping me in your prayers.
Kittylittle: Go, do what you want to do, because "if you are a "Child of God", yes I said, "if"! Because a child of God knows his voice and they will not follow another's voice! It is getting to late in the day, everybody is saying they know Jesus, and has a personal relationship, with him but they have no idea, what is sin and what pleases God! Everybody has the "Holy Spirit" but when they sin, the "Holy Spirit" does not reprove them, neither is the "Holy Spirit" grieve! But everybody knows God, and Jesus and the Holy Spirit!. And they still do not know what pleases The Lord God Almighty! And mostly everyone who says they knows God are constantly trying to please theirselvesi and trying to please their sinner friends, Heck! You have Not, made. it in yet!!!! You better start worrying about making it in yourself!!!!! "We better start working out our own salvation". All of us are still in the field of ignorance concerning our own salvation! We live in a state of "Hope"! Our goal every hour every minute is to please The Lord God our Father, and enjoy His presence and forever more!

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You cannot be my disciple, unless you love me more than you love your father and mother, your wife and children, and your brothers and sisters. You cannot follow me unless you love me more than you love your own life.

Do you really know what that word "disciple" means in "biblical terminology" means. The truths that "Jesus will give you unto His Word"! In other words, Jesus will not, give, the truth, [hidden tresures] to you, as you are reading his Word". "You cannot be. "MY" Disciple"! You can be Rev. Jones disciple, you can be "Pastor Givemore" disciple", you can be "Bro. Watch more" at Hillsboro Missionary Baptist Church, and "Sister Joyce Fit-more disciple but "You cannot be, MY disciple" and the word "cannot" means; you do not have the "Ability". Like a man who wants to fly when he jumps out a 1000 feet high window, no matter how much faith or how hard and fast he flaps his arms, he will not fly, why, because he has not the "Ability" he cannot fly! So you choose, This day! The God, whom you will serve! You do not need any prayer, you need to choose! A "benevolent grace in reading the Bible, will not satisfy or feed a true Child of GOD". That Child needs the "Hidden Treasures" That only Jesus Christ can give! Hallelujah!!!!! And I will declare it from the Top of My voice and not be ashamed, no matter where a go!
 
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I hate this temptation. I’m concerned about falling in sin. I do not want that to happen.

My boyfriend made his mind, “I’m not going to be your gay boyfriend. We stay together or we break up. Pick one.”

I love him, but I also want to honor God. I made it clear to him that I won’t have the sex ever again. He said he can’t force me to do something against my religion, but I’m still worried. We share the same bed, and if we are sleeping together, this act may lead me right back into sin again. I told him I’m his girlfriend and the mother of his child, but I'm not his wife, and if he wants a family, then he should really consider making one because I can’t promise I’ll stay like this.

Then we had this huge fight. he told me how I ruined a lot of things when I got arrested and how my parents blamed him for everything...etc.. the only good that came of it is that he did promise to bring me a ring soon, but he said a lot of things the other day about my family and my Christian faith and how he does not want to be bothered by our “religious nonsense.” As he called it and told me I'm foolish for believing in it.

I want to make peace of this so I'll consider it his proposal when he brings the ring. I'll take baby steps with him when it comes to God and my faith. I know I should not compromise on my faith but I do not intend to leave him. At the same time, I want to live a holy life so this is the only way.

Thank you for keeping me in your prayers.

Oh dear Kitty,

When you were born again, did you not give your life, your everything, to God through Jesus?

When you were born again, did you not repent and submit your life to Jesus?

When you were born again, did you not say it aloud, with your lips and from your heart?

When you were born again, did you not tell the Lord you will take up your cross daily and follow Him?

Do you not Believe and Trust in God, with all your heart, all your soul and all your mind?

If you did you can rejoice and give thanks...

1 John 4:4-6 (NKJV)
4 You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.
5 They are of the world. Therefore they speak as of the world, and the world hears them.
6 We are of God. He who knows God hears us; he who is not of God does not hear us. By this we know the spirit of truth and the spirit of error.

Sexual sin Kitty should be seen for what it is, not watered down words...

Colossians 3:5
Put to death therefore what is earthly in you:
sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry

Sexual immorality Kitty is in the same category as porn!!!

The Greek word which is used here – and over 20 more times throughout the New Testament – for immorality is the word πορνεία (porneia). Our English word pornography derives from porneia.

A born again person, who has the Spirit of Christ in them, the Temple of the Living God in them, who commits sexual immorality, is attempting to drag the Lord into the gutter! It is that serious.

Ephesians 5:3
But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints.

Temptation to be involved in any form of sexual immorality is, Lusting of the flesh, as Col 3:5 above confirms they are in the same category as Idolatry!

Lusting, Coveting, SIN, SIN, SIN.

1 Corinthians 3:16-17 (NKJV)
Do you not know that you are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you?
If anyone defiles the temple of God, God will destroy him. For the temple of God is holy, which temple you are.

Romans 12:2 (NKJV)
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

Proverbs 3:5-8 (NKJV)
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.
Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the LORD and depart from evil...

Fear not sister, give everything to God in prayer, through Jesus and in Jesus Name. Stand in faith, remain in His grip,

Isaiah 41:13 (NKJV)
For I, the LORD your God, will hold your right hand, Saying to you, 'Fear not, I will help you.'

Don't forget those who have not accepted the Lord...

1 Corinthians 1:18 (NKJV)
For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.

1 Peter 5:6-11 (NKJV)
6 Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time,
7 casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.
8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.
9 Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world.
10 But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.
11 To Him be the glory and the dominion forever and ever. Amen.

In Jesus Name Amen

Jesus Loves you, we do too.

You may find this helpful Kitty, it follows what has been discussed recently in Married - when does God consider a man and woman married.


Bless you, we are praying for you and your boy friend.
 
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Does not the Bible says: "Flee". Who said: Flee.
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Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

Now what is the definition for the word "flee". "To run, to take flight, in danger" warning, warning, warning, danger, danger. Who is warning in the text of Holy Scripture, The Lord God Almighty! And why is He warning? Because. HE loves you! And He knows what is going to happen to you. "Be not deceived God is not Mocked"!
 
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We share the same bed, and if we are sleeping together, this act may lead me right back into sin again. I told him I’m his girlfriend and the mother of his child, but I'm not his wife, and if he wants a family, then he should really consider making one because I can’t promise I’ll stay like this.
Greetings @KittyLinda

You have had all sorts of tone of responses here....gentle, hard. concerned all done in love

Please get out of this shared bed straight away.
If this man is not a Christian then he shouldn't be your husband.
You need to separate.
Dont let the devil deceive you into thinking it is all okay.

KittyLinda my heart hurts for you.
Without going into detail, I have been in your situation, even as a Christian when in a backslidden state.

O how it must grieve the Lord to see the lost and His children treading the wrong path.

But praise the Lord......He is speaking to your heart KittyLinda
Heed what He is saying
Know that you will be so richly blessed if You follow Him
He will open doors and lead you in His perfect way.

KittyLinda, the Lord has been so good to me, I dont deserve any of His mercy for the mess my life got into.
Whilst He is pleading with your heart take Him on His word......dont leave it too late.

The harvest is past, the summer is ended, and we are not saved
Jeremiah 8:20

Hark, sinner, while God from on high doth entreat thee,
And warnings with accents of mercy doth blend;
Give ear to His voice, lest in judgement He meet thee;
The harvest is passing, the summer will end.

How oft of thy danger and guilt He hath told thee!
How oft still the message of mercy doth send!
Haste, haste, while He waits in His arms to enfold thee:
The harvest is passing, the summer will end.*


Look on the fields; for they are white already to harvest.
John 4:35


* From Hymn "The harvest is passing" John P Hague 1842
 
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Awwww ....Kitty, I have a horrible feeling that Grace might be right. I know that this guy has supported and been there for you through thick and thin, mental health issues and family trauma, that he is the father of your child and that he seems to accept that you don't want to be over intimate with him before you're married, there's a lot going for him, I actually like him but, and it's a big BUT, he's not sympathetic or understanding towards your faith and indeed denigrates your God. That's no foundation for a marriage.

Pray for guidance, but I think we both know what the answer is going to be. Pray for strength and resolve and for help for the future. Our God always provides and is everything that you need, just believe.
 
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Bill, I’m just getting back on my feet after walking away from God. It is difficult changing this behavior, after doing it for years. I have to guard my heart continually. The word of God says everything we do flows from the heart. I also remember the word of God in James 1:12. “Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him.”

PloughBoy. I know it is not OK for me to sleep with him, even without the sex as it is now. I know it is never OK to put ourselves in these tempting circumstances, which is why I was desperately trying to live separately, but he is not in agreement about this. I do not even know how am I’m going to explain this to my daughter in the future, if we break up. She does not have to suffer for these bad choices I made. He is going to be in my life anyway. I know this. He is not the kind of a person who will just walk away and leave his daughter behind. He told me this many many times.

Yes, I’m a child of God but It is OK. I’m having a hard time proving it to my parents after backsliding this far, but God knows my heart and I want to obey him. I’m not happy about this, but sin has consequences. I was crying hysterically the other day, and he is reaching his limit. I can tell. He told me he does not want to feel like any of us is trapped in this relationship. I know taking this further means we are ending it, and then I’d be forced into battling him legally. It is terrifying. I have this fear they may take my daughter away from me. I’m not a stable person. I do not understand anything about legal matters, but this fear is there. It will drain my soul. Even without this mess, I doubt any Christian would date someone with all these mental problems, not to mention I’m struggling with Self-identity and my attraction towards ‘both genders’ comes as a warning and big No-No for most people in the Christian community. My parents are tired of me and I’m afraid they will give up on me soon. I can’t imagine being alone. This is not something I can handle and I would be at huge mental risks. So sorry but that is how I feel. I think bad things will happen.

Brother-Paul. I thank Jesus. I trust him with my life. A lot of these negative thoughts come to my mind and it is hard to stop them. I have no control over them. I came to realize that I have a personality disorder which is something I was not aware of at any point in my life until I was moved to a psychiatric hospital. I was very happy to know my thinking is not right and knowing there is a problem gave me hope, but this fear of abandonment nearly ended my life once and now it makes sense because it is a disorder and I can tell people I am not this horrible person. I have a mental condition. But as you can see, I’m in this situation and this fear is very very real now. Sometimes, I want to obey God with all my heart and soul no matter what, but this fear strikes back and I just think bad things will happen all day. I thank God these meds help a bit. There were days I did not go to work, stayed in bed all day, because I just feel emptiness like there is no purpose for my life.

Fragrant Grace. I understand we need to separate. I have been telling him this for a while now even promised I’d keep dating him, but he does not want that and now I’m in a very difficult situation. This is my place, so If I do not want this temptation, I probably can tell him to leave my place? I can’t stomach doing this to him. It is just cruel and sounds very wrong. This man needs Jesus. I’m the only person who can help him find God. I do not want to disobey God, but all I can think about is the effect of this break up and its consequences on me, on my daughter, and my own family. We have our friends who are going to be divided among us, and even we got pets. I’m not even sure my family will give me any support. As far as I know they are so tired of my problems. I know I need to talk to my therapist about it but it is so hard to trust anyone. I’m hesitant because I’m thinking what if they take my daughter away from me or lock me up again. It gets so dark sometimes and all I can think of is self-harm or bad things. It is so hard. I finally have pieces of stability in my life and I wonder if I have to deal with another crisis. It is heartbreaking.

Andyindauk. He is no stranger to Christian teachings but yeah, I can’t say he is very friendly person to talk to about God. I can’t blame him. He comes from a catholic household. As far as I know only his grandmother practices it now. He identifies himself agnostic. He said he stopped believing in God after witnessing his mother being abused by his father and then later him being abused. He said he was about 8 years old and prayed many times, but it got worse until it resulted in a divorced. His father was very religious and was still beating a child with a belt. My boyfriend needs some wounds healed 'spiritually' more than anything else. It is not easy experiencing this brutality from the closest person in your life.

Thank you everyone for sharing your concerns and keeping me in your prayers. Love you all. God bless you. I'm so sorry if I disappointed any of you. I hope I do not disappoint the lord as I'm still can't see how God in all His divine love and mercy does not want me to unit all of us into ONE happy family. I have a hard time with this.
 
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Praying for you KittyLinda, you are stronger than you know, because your attachment to Jesus, can make your extremely powerful, keep that strong!
 
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This is my place, so If I do not want this temptation, I probably can tell him to leave my place? I can’t stomach doing this to him. It is just cruel and sounds very wrong. This man needs Jesus. I’m the only person who can help him find God. I do not want to disobey God, but all I can think about is the effect of this break up and its consequences on me, on my daughter, and my own family

Greetings again @KittyLinda

Im sorry to say this but you are making excuses.

By continuing in sin you are not helping your boyfriend.

You are not the only one who can lead him to Jesus.

Dont strive against the Lord and what He is convicting you of......I did that for 9 years and it nearly cost me my life. He whispered to me in love in so many ways, so many signs calling me back to Him but I just ignored those pleas.

Step out for the Lord.
Put Him first
Then you will see everything fall into perfect place.
You will be blessed.

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.

For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.

And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.
1 John 2:15-17
 
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This is my place, so If I do not want this temptation, I probably can tell him to leave my place? I can’t stomach doing this to him. It is just cruel and sounds very wrong. This man needs Jesus. I’m the only person who can help him find God. I do not want to disobey God, but all I can think about is the effect of this break up and its consequences on me, on my daughter, and my own family

Greetings again @KittyLinda

Im sorry to say this but you are making excuses.

By continuing in sin you are not helping your boyfriend.

You are not the only one who can lead him to Jesus.

Dont strive against the Lord and what He is convicting you of......I did that for 9 years and it nearly cost me my life. He whispered to me in love in so many ways, so many signs calling me back to Him but I just ignored those pleas.

Step out for the Lord.
Put Him first
Then you will see everything fall into perfect place.
You will be blessed.

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.

For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.

And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.
1 John 2:15-17
 
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Sex is so addictive, have you noticed in this world, all the things that look, taste and feel good, are not good for us at all.

Sex however is the most powerful because it is our flesh, so we MUST pray for protection through the blood of Christ, we must put on the whole armour of God. Every day sister.

Ephesians 6:10-20 (NKJV)
10 my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might.
11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.
13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness,
15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace;
16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one.
17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God;
18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints--
19 and for me, that utterance may be given to me, that I may open my mouth boldly to make known the mystery of the gospel,
20 for which I am an ambassador in chains; that in it I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak.

I was addicted to sex, big time, though not for the opposite sex, I was a heartless rabbit, when I came to Christ I used to still think of women as sex machines. It is an addiction, an old mind set, when we come to Christ, our sins are washed away, not remembered, God's Spirit is in us, but there is still this urge to satisfy the flesh, rather than please God. I started to think of different things when I had the urge, to sing hymns or songs, Shine Jesus Shine and more. Tell the devil he has no power over me, rebuke him, we belong to Christ not sin, the world and the devil.

Romans 12:2 (NKJV)
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

We have to start looking at things from God's point of view not the worlds, not our lusts, it takes time.

James 4:1-7 (NKJV)
1 Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members?
2 You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war. Yet you do not have because you do not ask.
3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss, that you may spend it on your pleasures.
4 Adulterers and adulteresses! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.
5 Or do you think that the Scripture says in vain, "The Spirit who dwells in us yearns jealously"?
6 But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: "God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble."
7 Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.

Now regarding your Boy friend, you have feelings for him, you are the mother of his child, he has said some things which appear caring, but also he has said bitter things against your faith. If he is bitter about your faith now do you honestly think that will change?

When the winds of life blow hard, can you walk, when the tides rage can you swim against them, will you drown, will you be saved from drowning, will you be overcome by powers greater than you that will continue to drag you down and deeper, or will you give in to God and let him calm the storms and waves, who has more chance of succeeding against the forces you or God? You know the answer Kitty don't you.

To marry a none believer is putting yourself in the lions cage with the lions. The devil is always prowling like a hungry lion, he will hack and hack at your boyfriend (or husband if you marry) until you cave in, your mental health will no doubt become darker, I share with you sister, I have been in that hole, it gets blacker, it gets deeper, the light goes out. I share in love, my heart is deeply concerned.

2 Corinthians 6:14-18 (NKJV)
14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness?
And what communion has light with darkness?
15 And what accord has Christ with Belial?
Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?
16 And what agreement has the temple of God with idols?
For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people."
17 Therefore "Come out from among them And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you."
18 "I will be a Father to you, And you shall be My sons and daughters, Says the LORD Almighty."

When a person is born again, the Holy Spirit abides in our heart, 'you are the Temple of the Living God'

Does righteousness and sin mix?
Would you drink pure water with a drop of filthy blood in it? Sin turns everything sour.

If the devil attempted to tempt Jesus to sin, how much easier is it for him to attack you and me?

Look to Jesus, keep your eyes on Jesus, Trust in the Lord with all your heart, He will guide your paths Kitty

We are praying for you.

Think very carefully about your relationship with your boyfriend, don't rush and make decisions you will regret. His fruits will continue to show, and if they show before you marry, will they really change afterwards. You can say, but brother paul I pray for his salvation, nothing is impossible for God. I agree Kitty, but hearts have to change, I have prayed for 30 years for my wife's salvation and I know many more like this. The spiritual battles can be hell, mental torture.

Jesus loves you kitty, we do too.
 
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Bill, I’m just getting back on my feet after walking away from God. It is difficult changing this behavior, after doing it for years. I have to guard my heart continually. The word of God says everything we do flows from the heart. I also remember the word of God in James 1:12. “Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him.”

PloughBoy. I know it is not OK for me to sleep with him, even without the sex as it is now. I know it is never OK to put ourselves in these tempting circumstances, which is why I was desperately trying to live separately, but he is not in agreement about this. I do not even know how am I’m going to explain this to my daughter in the future, if we break up. She does not have to suffer for these bad choices I made. He is going to be in my life anyway. I know this. He is not the kind of a person who will just walk away and leave his daughter behind. He told me this many many times.

Yes, I’m a child of God but It is OK. I’m having a hard time proving it to my parents after backsliding this far, but God knows my heart and I want to obey him. I’m not happy about this, but sin has consequences. I was crying hysterically the other day, and he is reaching his limit. I can tell. He told me he does not want to feel like any of us is trapped in this relationship. I know taking this further means we are ending it, and then I’d be forced into battling him legally. It is terrifying. I have this fear they may take my daughter away from me. I’m not a stable person. I do not understand anything about legal matters, but this fear is there. It will drain my soul. Even without this mess, I doubt any Christian would date someone with all these mental problems, not to mention I’m struggling with Self-identity and my attraction towards ‘both genders’ comes as a warning and big No-No for most people in the Christian community. My parents are tired of me and I’m afraid they will give up on me soon. I can’t imagine being alone. This is not something I can handle and I would be at huge mental risks. So sorry but that is how I feel. I think bad things will happen.

Brother-Paul. I thank Jesus. I trust him with my life. A lot of these negative thoughts come to my mind and it is hard to stop them. I have no control over them. I came to realize that I have a personality disorder which is something I was not aware of at any point in my life until I was moved to a psychiatric hospital. I was very happy to know my thinking is not right and knowing there is a problem gave me hope, but this fear of abandonment nearly ended my life once and now it makes sense because it is a disorder and I can tell people I am not this horrible person. I have a mental condition. But as you can see, I’m in this situation and this fear is very very real now. Sometimes, I want to obey God with all my heart and soul no matter what, but this fear strikes back and I just think bad things will happen all day. I thank God these meds help a bit. There were days I did not go to work, stayed in bed all day, because I just feel emptiness like there is no purpose for my life.

Fragrant Grace. I understand we need to separate. I have been telling him this for a while now even promised I’d keep dating him, but he does not want that and now I’m in a very difficult situation. This is my place, so If I do not want this temptation, I probably can tell him to leave my place? I can’t stomach doing this to him. It is just cruel and sounds very wrong. This man needs Jesus. I’m the only person who can help him find God. I do not want to disobey God, but all I can think about is the effect of this break up and its consequences on me, on my daughter, and my own family. We have our friends who are going to be divided among us, and even we got pets. I’m not even sure my family will give me any support. As far as I know they are so tired of my problems. I know I need to talk to my therapist about it but it is so hard to trust anyone. I’m hesitant because I’m thinking what if they take my daughter away from me or lock me up again. It gets so dark sometimes and all I can think of is self-harm or bad things. It is so hard. I finally have pieces of stability in my life and I wonder if I have to deal with another crisis. It is heartbreaking.

Andyindauk. He is no stranger to Christian teachings but yeah, I can’t say he is very friendly person to talk to about God. I can’t blame him. He comes from a catholic household. As far as I know only his grandmother practices it now. He identifies himself agnostic. He said he stopped believing in God after witnessing his mother being abused by his father and then later him being abused. He said he was about 8 years old and prayed many times, but it got worse until it resulted in a divorced. His father was very religious and was still beating a child with a belt. My boyfriend needs some wounds healed 'spiritually' more than anything else. It is not easy experiencing this brutality from the closest person in your life.

Thank you everyone for sharing your concerns and keeping me in your prayers. Love you all. God bless you. I'm so sorry if I disappointed any of you. I hope I do not disappoint the lord as I'm still can't see how God in all His divine love and mercy does not want me to unit all of us into ONE happy family. I have a hard time with this.
May the Love of Jesus be with you.

Dear Sister , asking Jesus to be with you , praying and reading Scripture are you best defenses to temptations .

When you do these things daily , it builds up in you , faith
 
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