please can someone tell me why this is happening. My husband told me he couldn't lie to me anymore. He has been living with the ex girlfriend again for over a month. Nieve me thought it was because of my parents house. he said he was sleeping on the couch. Wanted to believe so much that this was true. Now he says he loves the both of us but he is in love with me. He has been going to church with the exgirlfrnd for a while now. He just joined her church Sunday. Said the holy spirit told him to join. Does God destroy a marriage to build another one? Does he destroy relationships between father & son to build another one? Am I not getting something? i gave up my apartment, living with my mom & dad to save money, which doesn't seem to happen. I am in debt, My husband lives with the exgirlfrnd. My son (15 yr old) talks about killing himself because he feels his father doesn't love him. He tells him to bond with his older step brother (23 yr old) the son he really loves. This situation has broken our family. I love my husband unconditionally but I feel so betrayed. Him ,Sleeping with her is heartbreaking enough, but what hurts the most is his lieing to me. My husband is my best friend.
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Boanerges
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I am sorry to say this but your husband is no ones best friend but his own. You have been praying about this for months but he is as hard hearted and deceptive as ever. He is no good and no good for you and your family and living a lie will never produce good fruit.
Also that is certainly not the Holy Spirit he is communing with. The Holy Spirit never leads us into sin and would be convicting him not encouraging him to go deeper into this situation.
Sadly unless he honestly wants to change he will do nothing but harm you and your family. If it were me in this situation this is the point I would walk away from that rat.
Also that is certainly not the Holy Spirit he is communing with. The Holy Spirit never leads us into sin and would be convicting him not encouraging him to go deeper into this situation.
Sadly unless he honestly wants to change he will do nothing but harm you and your family. If it were me in this situation this is the point I would walk away from that rat.
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First of all why is he living with his ex-girlfriend and not with you?
I know how strest you must be & the heartache you must be going through.
My heart is with you & your family. May GOD show HIS mercy on you and your family with great sympathy. How lost you must be feeling, right now.
I too, said a prayer for you and your family. But you must try to remain strong, for GOD is there for all you. And if for some reason things don't go as you hoped, know GOD is still watching.
We as humans do not always understand why things happen as they may. But you and I know that GOD loves you and HE knows the hearts of those who love HIM too.
So be patient, and let GOD take charge for HE will do what HE sees is best.
Remember in Jesus' words;
"Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
"For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.' (Matthew 11:29) For GOD is LOVE
Remember too, you married him for better or for worse. And it is written; "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives"; {-- King James > 1 Peter 3:1}. By your good conduct.
But then again, only you know what is happening in your life and if you feel your husband is keeping you from GOD. If it's everything you say it is then Boanerges could also be right.
For it is also writen in Mark 6:11
"And whoever will not receive you nor hear you, when you depart from there, shake off the dust under your feet as a testimony against them. Assuredly, I say to you, it will be more tolerable for Sodom and Gomorrah in the day of judgment than for that city!''
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I know how strest you must be & the heartache you must be going through.
My heart is with you & your family. May GOD show HIS mercy on you and your family with great sympathy. How lost you must be feeling, right now.
I too, said a prayer for you and your family. But you must try to remain strong, for GOD is there for all you. And if for some reason things don't go as you hoped, know GOD is still watching.
We as humans do not always understand why things happen as they may. But you and I know that GOD loves you and HE knows the hearts of those who love HIM too.
So be patient, and let GOD take charge for HE will do what HE sees is best.
Remember in Jesus' words;
"Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.
"For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.' (Matthew 11:29) For GOD is LOVE
Remember too, you married him for better or for worse. And it is written; "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives"; {-- King James > 1 Peter 3:1}. By your good conduct.
But then again, only you know what is happening in your life and if you feel your husband is keeping you from GOD. If it's everything you say it is then Boanerges could also be right.
For it is also writen in Mark 6:11
"And whoever will not receive you nor hear you, when you depart from there, shake off the dust under your feet as a testimony against them. Assuredly, I say to you, it will be more tolerable for Sodom and Gomorrah in the day of judgment than for that city!''
*genesis
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Blblair
Im very sorry for your heart aches and trouble;but lets look at the problem, your in a possition to play it forward, my wife just asked me what i meant by"play it forward," I`m sure you are too and i will get to that.Lets look at the things you say he`s doing. They all combine under one topic that the Bible tells us about, SIN! James 1:14-15; But each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed,V-15; Then, after desire has concevied, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.( We as christians, knowing what we know we`re called to pray for this man);on the Bible study forum I`ve just posted on this topic in more detail.Now to you playing it forward, again to James 1:2-3 My brethren,count it all joy when ye fall intodivers temptations;V 3;knowing this(very important word "THIS")that the trying of your faith worketh patience.Your joy is around the corner, its coming, this assurance is given to you through this scripture. Now how do I get through this? Great question, V5 Ask him for wisdom, myself I look towards the Psalms 23, its just hard to come out of that and not have a up lifting. I know times are hard for you and its hard to see the fairness in this, but the Lord even gives us understanding for this,Romans 8:28 And we know(yes we know)that all (all) things( even the things your going through) work together for the good (for the what? THE GOOD) to them ( TO WHO? THEM, THAT INCLUDES YOU)that love God. Now do you love God, sure you do. Pray for that man of yours,pray for wisdom and let sweet Jesus work that magic and like Emeril Bam he`ll show up and show out.We`ll pray for sister .:singing::hands::clapping::tongue-animated:
Im very sorry for your heart aches and trouble;but lets look at the problem, your in a possition to play it forward, my wife just asked me what i meant by"play it forward," I`m sure you are too and i will get to that.Lets look at the things you say he`s doing. They all combine under one topic that the Bible tells us about, SIN! James 1:14-15; But each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed,V-15; Then, after desire has concevied, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.( We as christians, knowing what we know we`re called to pray for this man);on the Bible study forum I`ve just posted on this topic in more detail.Now to you playing it forward, again to James 1:2-3 My brethren,count it all joy when ye fall intodivers temptations;V 3;knowing this(very important word "THIS")that the trying of your faith worketh patience.Your joy is around the corner, its coming, this assurance is given to you through this scripture. Now how do I get through this? Great question, V5 Ask him for wisdom, myself I look towards the Psalms 23, its just hard to come out of that and not have a up lifting. I know times are hard for you and its hard to see the fairness in this, but the Lord even gives us understanding for this,Romans 8:28 And we know(yes we know)that all (all) things( even the things your going through) work together for the good (for the what? THE GOOD) to them ( TO WHO? THEM, THAT INCLUDES YOU)that love God. Now do you love God, sure you do. Pray for that man of yours,pray for wisdom and let sweet Jesus work that magic and like Emeril Bam he`ll show up and show out.We`ll pray for sister .:singing::hands::clapping::tongue-animated:
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been praying for you.
truth hurts, but when truth is revealed it also sets us free. the things that are now being revealed to you are actually what's happening and now causing you pain.
keep holding on to the Lord Biblair. the Lord cannot deny those who are faithful to Him. When it comes to faithfulness, I'm always awed with these three... Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego (story in Daniel 3:12-26)... We might not have the faith as they have, but we can ask God to give us faith to be able to come out of our fiery furnaces, and to move our mountains in the sea.
perhaps my answer to your question why this is happening... can we consider it as a testing to your faith and your relationship with the Lord???
James 1:2-3 "Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance."
but a great promise is given to us if we were able to stood the test.
James 1:12 - Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.. Amen
I'm praying that the Lord will keep you and your son. The Lord bless you and your family.
with love and prayers,
Sister Reymielin
truth hurts, but when truth is revealed it also sets us free. the things that are now being revealed to you are actually what's happening and now causing you pain.
keep holding on to the Lord Biblair. the Lord cannot deny those who are faithful to Him. When it comes to faithfulness, I'm always awed with these three... Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego (story in Daniel 3:12-26)... We might not have the faith as they have, but we can ask God to give us faith to be able to come out of our fiery furnaces, and to move our mountains in the sea.
perhaps my answer to your question why this is happening... can we consider it as a testing to your faith and your relationship with the Lord???
James 1:2-3 "Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance."
but a great promise is given to us if we were able to stood the test.
James 1:12 - Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.. Amen
I'm praying that the Lord will keep you and your son. The Lord bless you and your family.
with love and prayers,
Sister Reymielin
