Marriage & Relationships. Cursed or free?

[Faithful Son]

Good day to all my friends here at Talk Jesus. I hope and pray all of you are blessed and well.

First off. This is not a sermon. Neither is it a revelation, but I do believe it to be a blessing in my life and my lady's life, from the Word of God.

Let me start by saying I am 25 years young and my love of my life and God willing future wife is 22.

We had decided to move in together after 6 months of getting to know each other. I met her late 2008 and March 2009 God gave us a small home where which we could share.

September 2009 we visited family and found a larger home situated near our workplace for slightly more per month, but with added space.

As relationships tend to go we have had our fare share of ups and downs. God thankful, more ups.

I have an extremely short temper and I have been very harsh in the past towards my lady and family. Slow to anger has not been a trait of mine.

My lady is a new Believer and subsequently this has caused me to start digging deeper within myself in order to be there for her in questions and fears.

Jealousy, distrust and all manner of hate has passed through my being at certain times of our walk together. This stems from my lady's past as well as my own.

Unknown to me. I have lived as a cursed man and she has lived as a cursed woman. But God opened our eyes and showed us the following:
Gen 3:16-19 and Col 3:18-25

Genesis gives account that God had cursed Eve. Firstly in pregnancy and child birth and that she would want to control her husband.

Adam was cursed with the fact that all his labour would be hard and fruitless. Adam would also want to rule over Eve as a King or Dictator.

But Lord Jesus paid the price, did He not? You bet He did!

Collosians says that because Lord Jesus Christ died for us. We are set free.

There is no curse for me or my lady. If we choose not to be cursed.

My lady and future wife is called to submit to me her man, as is fitting in God's eyes. She does not need to control me. Even her pregnancy, should it be one day, need not be painful or bad. If she trusts in God.

As a man. I do not need to rule as a King and Dictator. I need not be angry and harsh towards my wife. I am able to love my wife and be gentle as Jesus.

I also do not need to work for nothing. With sweat on my brow. No. I can choose to do my work as if working for God.

God is great! 3 weeks ago Criminals broke into our home while we were sleeping. They put us to sleep with something through our bedroom window and stole our computer and media player. All that was lost can be replaced. But we can't.

God protected us. And as above. He teaches us. Love you all! God bless

 

[SpiritLedEd]

Hi Jako, Its good to hear from you. You two will mature together as time passes. You'll both be blessed.

SLE

 

[Faithful Son]

Thank you my dear brother. Good to see you too.

Just an update on this thread. My lady and I have not reached the perfect point as required above, but we have had many steps in the right direction.

God looked into us and gave us the stolen goods back in the form of a brand new computer and huge Wide Screen monitor. Perfect working order.

My lady also has a bad infection in her body, throat and ears. I was quite afraid that it could be meningitis that I was faced with the reality by God that I may lose my wife.

I raised the concern with God and I asked Him to restore my lady to health. We went to a doctor this morning and subsequently found out that it was just an infection and not the worse we feared.

I looked to God however and asked Him to give me my wifes pain and sorrow, frustration, guilt, debt, her physical and emotional pain. I literally pleaded for it and I know that if God chooses to He will do as I ask, or restore her to full health.

As she always says: Babe, the answer to every question is Jesus. There is no other answer.

I am sad as I type this, but it is a sadness I have from my core, a sadness of love. The fact that I know I would do anything on God's earth for my wife. Anything. She is everything to me. She is not God, but she is my wife and companion.

I pray to the Lord to please ease her pain. Make her well and give all the bad for me to carry. I can't bare to lose her and I will lay my life down for her this very second.

To God be the Glory,
God bless you all,
Amen.