"Making marriage last - what is the key?"

[blessed07]

The Apostle Paul says that the wife is “bound” to her husband as long as he lives (Romans 7:2). The principle here is that either the husband or wife has to die before the marriage bond is broken. This is God's command, but in our modern society marriage ends in divorce over 51 percent of the time. That means that over half of the couples who make the vow “Till death do us part” break that vow.

:teddybear2::teddybear2:

 

[Furious_Love]

If I could give one key to a good marriage to make it stronger it is persevering through the hard times. When you come through the other side it just makes your marriage stronger and the bond of Love that much more. I think that when some marriages go through tough times if they had just hung on that bit longer things may have been different.

 

[stephen]

The Apostle Paul says that the wife is “bound” to her husband as long as he lives (Romans 7:2). The principle here is that either the husband or wife has to die before the marriage bond is broken. This is God's command, but in our modern society marriage ends in divorce over 51 percent of the time. That means that over half of the couples who make the vow “Till death do us part” break that vow.

:teddybear2::teddybear2:

What you say is correct and is the result of 'politicians' certainly in England, passing laws to satisfy the demands of the 'people' minority vociforous groups, rather than uphold the principles of our fathers.

We will have been married 46 years August this year. The last 15 years have been the best. I would say because we have accepted things, situatioins, circumstanses, heartache, which we cannot change, rather than debate.
We have accepted each other much more rather than the situations, circumstances, heartache's and all such junk which comes into our lives, and can get between couples.

 

[Davy]

It seams to me, the key is loving God more than you love your spouse. Remember loving God means loving His commandments. (1 John 5:3)

God's word contains principles that can resolve almost every marriage conflict. If your love for God and His standards comes first, you will love and cherish your spouse and always show then dignity and respect. And above all, you will honor the sanctity of the marriage union, which is one of God's standards, and not fool around with someone else by committing adultery.

I heard that PMS is the cause of a vast majority of divorces: PMS stands for Power, Money and Sex, these three subject come at the top of the list for reasons of a divorce.

Power struggles or headship problems can be resolved by putting love for God and His standards first. Although not easy, that nevertheless is God's standard, that the male has loving headship over the house and should apply God's standards administrating that headship.

Money problems are so diverse, especially now with the economy in shreds, but love for God and His standards would cause you to place the welfare of the family above any personal desires that are not as important as feeding and clothing the family.

Sex, sexual incompatibility is quite common, but love for God and His standards of compassion and selflessness would make you more sensitive to your spouses needs, instead of just demanding your own way.

I am quite sure that love for God and His standards can sort out almost any marriage problem! The question should be really, how much do you love God to make your marriage work.

 

[Hekuran]

Pray together
Pray together, pray together, pray together
Pray together
Pray together


Pray together
Pray together Pray together

PRAY together

pray TOGETHER
Pray together
Pray pray pray together

Pray together

 

[sweetlygrowing]

To make marriage last you have to realize that God made the perfect institute when he made marriage.
But we have two imperfect people who need God in their lives and marriage.
God 's pattern for \marriage will always work.
We just need to read the Manuel(the word of God) on marriage.

 

[jiggyfly]

In my opinion this is the best book on relationships that I know.
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

 

[David777]

Good answers.

Good read, thanks for the posts.
Not married, cannot comment.
Baa, baaa.

 

[sharen]

In matthew, Jesus gives sexual immorality (of any valid description) as a clause breaker. If your spouse is guilty, you can go. Read it.


And as for how to make a marriage last. You can't because it takes two. Who both have free will.

The operative word obviously being make here.


One thing I have heard that can be very helpful is praying together. (As already mentioned.) I read a statistic somewhere once that stated that couples who pray together at least 2-3 times a week are statistically 653 times (or some ridiculous figure like that, pretty sure it was in the 600's) less likely to break up.

It makes sense to me. If you're spirit filled and you pray together like that, I imagine it would be a lot harder, if not impossible, to hide big/important things from each other or pull the wool over each others eyes. If one trys to dominate it should become obvious.

That kind of honesty (with Gods help) should keep you on the straight and narrow and enable you to work through things.

And if one trys to use it to play God in the relationship, then that should become obvious too, I would think. Or more obvious.

 

[Thiscrosshurts]

I have been married for 29 years and I have to agree with Sharen.
You can't make it work.
But I can tell you a really good sense of humor helps.
Neither of us were Christian and we exchanged no vows so we didn't expect anything from each other.We also married very young.

It sounds like the recipe for disaster.I don't recommend it but I just wanted to point out that well crafted marriages can fail and a poorly crafted one can succeed(although in this case prayer is a factor).
I don't consider it successful yet because neither of us is dead.

When I have good news she is the first person I want to tell.
When I have bad news she is the last person I want to tell.

 

[DanielO]

I have found this to be helpful.
Eph 4:26

 

[Sheep]

Keep doing the little things you did when you met each other. Make a list and ask him to make a list and concentrate on those things, keep on working on them.

And, a family that prays together stays togeter. Keep your eyes on Jesus. Cry out to Him, He will answer...

He says in Psalms that He is close to the broken hearted and in John that He will not leave us comfortless. Those are big prommises and He always keeps His word.

oh yes, and the last but most important thing, be humble towards your husband, let him know he is the head of the house - always! The Bible says you must treat your husband like you treat Jesus.

Hope this helped