How can I forgive myself?

[xspinningisfun]

I have dated many times in the past. I've had several boyfriends, all of them were not Christians, I wasn't as strong in my faith in God at the time either. I did things with these guys, and even as I'm typing it out, I feel so dirty. I didn't have sex with them, but c'mon, anything impure is pretty much sex to God.

I did things with guys so they'll accept me. I've been physically abused from my own dad for seven years. He finally stopped 2 years ago. And I've also been sexually abused. So I reached out to guys so I can feel better about myself.

In 2008, I finally gave myself to God. I am waiting for Him to provide me a husband, a man that loves God and who will put Him before me all the time. But I still feel so guilty of the past. I can't seem to let go of it. I feel guilty and so disgusting. Does this mean God hasn't forgiven me because I haven't forgiven myself?

I need prayers on this. I want to let this go. I know that God cannot provide me anyone unless I'm fully ready. And obviously I'm not, since I'm still holding onto the past. Prayers would be appreciated.

 

[Wolfman]

I have dated many times in the past. I've had several boyfriends, all of them were not Christians, I wasn't as strong in my faith in God at the time either. I did things with these guys, and even as I'm typing it out, I feel so dirty. I didn't have sex with them, but c'mon, anything impure is pretty much sex to God.

I did things with guys so they'll accept me. I've been physically abused from my own dad for seven years. He finally stopped 2 years ago. And I've also been sexually abused. So I reached out to guys so I can feel better about myself.

In 2008, I finally gave myself to God. I am waiting for Him to provide me a husband, a man that loves God and who will put Him before me all the time. But I still feel so guilty of the past. I can't seem to let go of it. I feel guilty and so disgusting. Does this mean God hasn't forgiven me because I haven't forgiven myself?

I need prayers on this. I want to let this go. I know that God cannot provide me anyone unless I'm fully ready. And obviously I'm not, since I'm still holding onto the past. Prayers would be appreciated.

I will be praying for you, Praying that God eases your heart and your mind, That he floods you with his everlasting love. None of us deserve his forgiveness but regardless of what you have done He has forgiven you AND He has forgotten. God remembers NO MORE. Once you ask God for forgiveness He releases you from any guilt and He no longer remembers what you did. The devil wants to keep you in bondage with guilt but don't allow him to. Forgive yourself and give it all to God.
God bless you and I will be praying for you..

 

[Veracity]

I have come from a past where making the choice to remain pure, was never an option. I know how you feel.

Forgiving yourself for even little things becomes difficult when you carry the shame of someone else's sin too. I can't tell you you have to "let the past be the past", especially when you come up in it as a child, so much of who we are is mixed up in all that!! None of that part of your past will be held against you. Perhaps "guilt" after having been subjected to this type of abuse is set before us as a stumbling block by Satan, shaping future decisions and choices, thank God you have the Lord to place your hope in!

By the time I was 14 years old, I felt like "skin", nothing more, nothing else. Just a tool used by someone else, so what did it matter what I did with my own body?? It was all used and dirty anyway.

God however has a deep understanding for you, us, you have a great opportunity to let the Lord lead you in your future. Don't marry unless you are absolutely sure they are living for God with a true heart. Just let the Lord be your man and husband for now, depend on Him for everything, seek His face in every moment. For right now, look to the Lord for companionship until you are able to forgive yourself, I speak from experience.

We become our own worst enemy when we can't forgive ourselves. Call not unclean the thing the Lord has cleansed, so to speak. The past is what you went through, not who you are. Those feelings will crop up now and then, when they do, take them to the Lord, and thank Him for every opportunity to come to Him. I came to the point where I thanked Him for my painful childhood, every little detail of it. He will work things to the good, eventually. The bible says to give thanks in all things.

Praying for you.

 

[xspinningisfun]

I will be praying for you, Praying that God eases your heart and your mind, That he floods you with his everlasting love. None of us deserve his forgiveness but regardless of what you have done He has forgiven you AND He has forgotten. God remembers NO MORE. Once you ask God for forgiveness He releases you from any guilt and He no longer remembers what you did. The devil wants to keep you in bondage with guilt but don't allow him to. Forgive yourself and give it all to God.
God bless you and I will be praying for you..

I think I'm ready to do just that. I've nevero nce asked God to finally deal with it. I've tried to deal with my past on my own. I learned that I was alone in my family at a very young age, and I guess that I just used that method with God as well. And now I"m done. I just sent up a prayer, and I have a peace about it. Thank you so much for your reply.

Veracity , thank you so much for opening my eyes on that. Your prayers are very much appreciated

 

[Jonah2005bt]

First of all you're being way to hard on yourself. Second, GOD has already foregiven you, the day you excepted HIM.

If you are no longer living that sinful life you once lived - then GOD is mighty pleased with you.

Most people have some kind of dark worldly past that continues to taunt us, I know I have my share of times that I

would love to take back or just plain forget it. But, unfortunately it comes back from time to time.

Do not let this eat you up inside yourself. Instead recognize this much, if you didn't love GOD so much, then your

past would not come back to taunt you.

And instead of letting it bother you, tell yourself, you are no longer that person, you love GOD & HE loves you.

Remember GOD knows your heart better than you do.

A Sister in Christ Jesus, *genesis

PS, I have prayed for you.

John 8:3-12
3. Then the scribes and Pharisees brought to Him a woman caught in adultery. And when they had set her in the midst,

4. they said to Him, "Teacher, this woman was caught in adultery, in the very act.

5. "Now Moses, in the law, commanded us that such should be stoned. But what do You say?''

6. This they said, to test Jesus, that they might have something of which to accuse Him. But Jesus stooped down and wrote on the ground with His finger, as though He did not hear.

7. So when they continued asking Him, He raised Himself up and said to them, "He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.''

8. And again He stooped down and wrote on the ground.

9. Then those who heard it, being convicted by their conscience, went out one by one, beginning with the oldest even to the last. And Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst.

10. When Jesus had raised Himself up and saw no one but the woman, He said to her, "Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?''

11. She said, "No one, Lord.'' And Jesus said to her, "Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more.''

12. Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, "I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life.''

Luke 7:47 " Therefore I say to you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven, for she loved much. But to whom little is forgiven, the same loves little.''

Luke 7:37-38,48 & 50
37. And behold, a woman in the city who was a sinner, when she knew that Jesus sat at the table in the Pharisee's house, brought an alabaster flask of fragrant oil,

38. and stood at His feet behind Him weeping; and she began to wash His feet with her tears, and wiped them with the hair of her head; and she kissed His feet and anointed them with the fragrant oil.

48. And He said to her, " Your sins are forgiven.''

50. Then He said to the woman, " Your faith has saved you. Go in peace.

Also read Luke 6:20-49

 

[SpiritLedEd]

I need prayers on this. I want to let this go. I know that God cannot provide me anyone unless I'm fully ready. And obviously I'm not, since I'm still holding onto the past. Prayers would be appreciated.

Try to not let your emotions take control. Study Php 4:4-10 and put Paul's suggestions there into daily practice.The emotions you feel are not condemnation from God. They are natural responses that the enemy likes to play up hoping to discourage you. Also, there is a Womens forum on this site (we guys don't get to view it, just as you gals can't view the "Mens" forum). I suggest you use that forum to get good input from Christian women who've been through similar experiences. And finally, please don't fall into the trap of believing that you are the only one with such issues. Remember: "If you were the only one who ever did it, there wouldn't be words to describe it."

SLE

 

[eddieb]

try to imagine in your mind you grasping the hurt in your heart and laying it at Gods feet(i always imaging what i think his feet look like)then ask him to deal with it for you. in you. tell him you need healing and that the only way it will come is thru Him. when the hurt comes back remind yourself its laid at his feet and its his problem. then keep praying he would heal your hurt.
will be praying for you also.

 

[Boanerges]

2Co 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.


This is all good advice. A friend once told me that she was a born again virgin who is now (in her new life) pure.


Rom 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

 

[Mouse]

I have dated many times in the past. I've had several boyfriends, all of them were not Christians, I wasn't as strong in my faith in God at the time either. I did things with these guys, and even as I'm typing it out, I feel so dirty. I didn't have sex with them, but c'mon, anything impure is pretty much sex to God.

I did things with guys so they'll accept me. I've been physically abused from my own dad for seven years. He finally stopped 2 years ago. And I've also been sexually abused. So I reached out to guys so I can feel better about myself.

In 2008, I finally gave myself to God. I am waiting for Him to provide me a husband, a man that loves God and who will put Him before me all the time. But I still feel so guilty of the past. I can't seem to let go of it. I feel guilty and so disgusting. Does this mean God hasn't forgiven me because I haven't forgiven myself?

I need prayers on this. I want to let this go. I know that God cannot provide me anyone unless I'm fully ready. And obviously I'm not, since I'm still holding onto the past. Prayers would be appreciated.

I pray that your past sins no longer condemn or harrass you. Through the blood of Jesus Christ they are cleansed away forever.

Some verses about forgiveness,
Psalm 103:12 "As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us."

1 John 1:9 "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

Hebrews 10: 17-18 "And their sins and iniquities will I remember no more. Now where remission of these is, there is no more offering for sin."

Matthew 6:12 "And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors." It is important to forgive others who have sinned against you.

 

[Chicky]

You are forgiven by his grace with his love he has forgiven u now it is time to forgive yourself cause that sin is no longer there it has been given to God


God bless you

 

[Red]

I am glad that nothing can separate us God's love~even the way I feel feel about myself. His love for me remains consistant. I wanted to let you know I have lifted you and your feelings up before the Lord and I wish you well. I don't know if you are still feeling the same, but I can relate to not being able to forgive oneself and the struggle to accept The Lord's forgiveness, lovingkindness, mercy and grace. I know God understands how you feel and is very present to help you. God bless you.

 

[HisFollower]

Christ tells us that repentance for the remission of sins should be preached in His Name among all nations. For other´s to say that your sins are already forgiven without repentance is deception, and blindness. When we confess Jesus as our Lord, we must first listen to Him, and not consult with other´s; and the first thing He tells us to do is repent. This is when we are in Christ, and not some automatic formula invented by the "do nothing" doctrines out there. Only if we continue in His Word shall we know the Truth, and not in any one elses.