God has given me wisdom on why men choose ******* and vice versa

[Enxu]

This is a thread to wake up Christian men and women about why men are choosing bad women and bad women are choosing bad men.

We live in a hedonistic culture where people are all about love and relationships but few if any know what real love is. Flirting and PUAs are becoming the norm and both genders are getting more frivolous about commitment and loyalty. Why are so many men and women getting hurt? Because it’s all about enjoying the sensual pleasures rather than being serious about building a family.

Flirting and PUAs are in fact behaviours done by prostitutes and uncommitted men in ancient times but now its being advertised as “techniques” to get the guy or girl you want. Any surprise then that cheating and divorce are on the rise?

If you claim yourself to be a Christian man, yet you pay attention to women who flirt with you and act like prostitutes from past generations then you are setting yourself up to choose bad women. The Bible is FILLED with warnings against evil women who set love traps for men through their flirtatious behaviours and who ultimately ruin those men who succumb to their love bombs. Yet how many Christian men pay attention to these warnings and stay away from women who flirt like professionals? I am right therefore that you men are to be blamed for choosing the wrong women when you should know as a Christian to avoid women who flirt. Stop giving yourself excuses and expect sympathy when you should be repenting for not using biblical principles to choose women.

If you claim yourself to be a Christian women, yet you don’t exercise self discipline, decide to flirt with men and act like prostitutes, don’t be surprised when you attract men who are equally frivolous about relationships. Don’t forget that the only men who will PUAs are ungodly men and you ought to be running away from them rather than towards them. Repent for following the acts of prostitutes and hoping to find godly men when you aren’t even acting like godly women.

Wake up to the reality of how messed up the world is and repent, you men and women who claim to know God but fail to follow His principles and warnings.

 

[Enxu]

Typo correction: why men are choosing bad women and why women are choosing bad men.

Men and women need to stop chasing after sensual pleasures, stop basing your mate selection on how good they are at flirting with/chasing you, and start looking at consistent behaviours of the opposite gender that reveal the character of a person.

For men:

1) Avoid women who are overtly outgoing and who seem to get along and flirt with every man around them. (ie. women with lots of guy friends) These women are attention and pleasure seekers and don’t have the emotional depth or willingness to stay committed to one man. They like the attention and benefits given to them by multiple men and know nothing about godly love.
2) Avoid women who act in any way ungodly in a consistent manner and stop giving them excuses for or endlessly tolerate/forgive their bad behavior simply because they make you feel good as a man. They make you feel good because they know the psychology of men and they use that knowledge to manipulate and get what they want. It’s all selfish and manipulative and is nothing representative of a godly woman.
3) Avoid women who don’t seem to have any solid relationships with other women. Women who have guy friends but can’t get along with women are ungodly, and are jealous of and treat other women like enemies.

For women:
1) Avoid men who show overt passion in chasing you when they don’t even know who you are. Such men are good with women not because they’re godly but because they’re PUAs and they can’t or won’t commit to one woman. They are the male version of attention and pleasure seekers who seek ego boosts from the amount of women they can have.
2) Avoid men who act in any way ungodly in a consistent manner no matter how well they treat you. Don’t fool yourselves into thinking that they will always treat you well. Ungodly men will only treat you well in order to get you hooked and once you’re theirs they will act according to their true nature.

I don’t care how offended people get over this, it is a FACT that there is no such thing as platonic friendships between men and women and the Bible is clear on this. One way or another there will be temptations in male-female interactions and if you as a Christian are not running away from temptations (what godly men like Job would do because godly men would not even look at a woman who tempts him), then you are no Christian.

 

[Nicola Jane]

Typo correction: why men are choosing bad women and why women are choosing bad men.

Men and women need to stop chasing after sensual pleasures, stop basing your mate selection on how good they are at flirting with/chasing you, and start looking at consistent behaviours of the opposite gender that reveal the character of a person.

For men:

1) Avoid women who are overtly outgoing and who seem to get along and flirt with every man around them. (ie. women with lots of guy friends) These women are attention and pleasure seekers and don’t have the emotional depth or willingness to stay committed to one man. They like the attention and benefits given to them by multiple men and know nothing about godly love.
2) Avoid women who act in any way ungodly in a consistent manner and stop giving them excuses for or endlessly tolerate/forgive their bad behavior simply because they make you feel good as a man. They make you feel good because they know the psychology of men and they use that knowledge to manipulate and get what they want. It’s all selfish and manipulative and is nothing representative of a godly woman.
3) Avoid women who don’t seem to have any solid relationships with other women. Women who have guy friends but can’t get along with women are ungodly, and are jealous of and treat other women like enemies.

For women:
1) Avoid men who show overt passion in chasing you when they don’t even know who you are. Such men are good with women not because they’re godly but because they’re PUAs and they can’t or won’t commit to one woman. They are the male version of attention and pleasure seekers who seek ego boosts from the amount of women they can have.
2) Avoid men who act in any way ungodly in a consistent manner no matter how well they treat you. Don’t fool yourselves into thinking that they will always treat you well. Ungodly men will only treat you well in order to get you hooked and once you’re theirs they will act according to their true nature.

I don’t care how offended people get over this, it is a FACT that there is no such thing as platonic friendships between men and women and the Bible is clear on this. One way or another there will be temptations in male-female interactions and if you as a Christian are not running away from temptations (what godly men like Job would do because godly men would not even look at a woman who tempts him), then you are no Christian.

Hello enxu
all of above really good advise

we all as a people long to find a special bond with someone who will become our life partner in marriage
and we rush out find the wrong folk in the wrong place and is all goes very wrong
why because we started wrong

Jesus is to be our first Love above and before all

i learnt this late and suffered wrong relationships
i should of knew this first and let God lead me to my husband i
nstead i did it my own way and we learn the hard way

can deffo understand paul saying be single if possible devoted to God alone

having a wife or husband is a gift but comes with much strife if not carefull and prayfull from the start

i know exnu you have had a bad experience with men as you said in other post dont let this harden you or make you bitter and angry be the exnu God created you to be a wonderfull beautiful hearted woman of God who has learnt wisdom from the pain of bad releationships
deffo with you sister in this

God Bless you

thats just my bit with much Love x

 

[Enxu]

Hello enxu
all of above really good advise

we all as a people long to find a special bond with someone who will become our life partner in marriage
and we rush out find the wrong folk in the wrong place and is all goes very wrong
why because we started wrong

Jesus is to be our first Love above and before all

i learnt this late and suffered wrong relationships
i should of knew this first and let God lead me to my husband i
nstead i did it my own way and we learn the hard way

can deffo understand paul saying be single if possible devoted to God alone

having a wife or husband is a gift but comes with much strife if not carefull and prayfull from the start

i know exnu you have had a bad experience with men as you said in other post dont let this harden you or make you bitter and angry be the exnu God created you to be a wonderfull beautiful hearted woman of God who has learnt wisdom from the pain of bad releationships
deffo with you sister in this

God Bless you

thats just my bit with much Love x

Jane,

Just like Lot who was tormented in his soul about the ungodly manners in Sodom and Gomorrah, I am tormented as well about the ugly state of love relationships.

satan has ruined many relationships, destroyed many souls and robbed many godly men and women (including myself) of loving unions because people are wilfully ignorant, even those who call themselves Christians. I myself was susceptible to wrong relationships, but because of God and my own cautious approach to relationships, I’ve not dated anyone and remained single even today.

Yet, I feel robbed because of how ignorant men are about choosing godly women. I am scared that satan is sending evil women to take my future husband away from me. If he is ignorant, he will only end up ruined and wounded. What then is left for me?

 

[Nicola Jane]

Jane,

Just like Lot who was tormented in his soul about the ungodly manners in Sodom and Gomorrah, I am tormented as well about the ugly state of love relationships.

Satan has ruined many relationships, destroyed many souls and robbed many godly men and women (including myself) of loving unions because people are wilfully ignorant, even those who call themselves Christians. I myself was susceptible to wrong relationships, but because of God and my own cautious approach to relationships, I’ve not dated anyone and remained single even today.

Yet, I feel robbed because of how ignorant men are about choosing godly women. I am scared that Satan is sending evil women to take my future husband away from me. If he is ignorant, he will only end up ruined and wounded. What then is left for me?

Exnu
i know your annoyed
but no one can block Gods will if he sends you a hubby he will arrive in Gods perfect timing
you do well to remain single and keep praying about Gods will concerning mr just right for you

but even when your married its not an easy path either
so pray and pray some more and just serve God and everything else will come as God wills for you x

God bless you x

 

[PloughBoy]

I think Christians do not realizes, if God do send you a spouse, It will not be a "Holy one, it will definitely be "Sinner" whether you know it or not!

PS. And if they say they are not! They have started to lie already! Then when you find out they are a "Sinner" you get mad! Then you want Revenge! You must remember a Christians, is a "Sinner" saved by grace, and God might have put a whip across their back to Make them walk a straight line!

 

[Nicola Jane]

I think Christians do not realizes, if God do send you a spouse, It will not be a "Holy one, it will definitely be "Sinner" whether you know it or not!

PS. And if they say they are not! They have started to lie already! Then when you find out they are a "Sinner" you get mad! Then you want Revenge! You must remember a Christians, is a "Sinner" saved by grace, and God might have put a whip across their back to Make them walk a straight line!

I think Christians do not realizes, if God do send you a spouse, It will not be a "Holy one, it will definitely be "Sinner" whether you know it or not!

PS. And if they say they are not! They have started to lie already! Then when you find out they are a "Sinner" you get mad! Then you want Revenge! You must remember a Christians, is a "Sinner" saved by grace, and God might have put a whip across their back to Make them walk a straight line!

Yes PB agree we christians are all sinners saved by grace
but where marriage is concerned for Exnu
she needs a born again forgiven sinner
God honoring hubby
or be single
both ways have there own difficulties
pray and be still
i think best way and let God guide as wrong relationships can be deadly

 

[Enxu]

I think Christians do not realizes, if God do send you a spouse, It will not be a "Holy one, it will definitely be "Sinner" whether you know it or not!

PS. And if they say they are not! They have started to lie already! Then when you find out they are a "Sinner" you get mad! Then you want Revenge! You must remember a Christians, is a "Sinner" saved by grace, and God might have put a whip across their back to Make them walk a straight line!

I don’t mean a person needs to be perfect, but I don’t want a man who is so damaged by bad relationship choices he can no longer love.

A habitual sinner cannot be a Christian anyway. Getting married to an unrepentant habitual sinner is being unequally yoked.

 

[PloughBoy]

How could a true Christian fall into a unequally yoke marriage unless that Christian is sinning just by even getting close to the sinner! The unequally yoke is referring to contact not marriage. I do not understand why Christians always use that quote out of context! It has nothing to do with marriages! You are in violation of the command of God for getting close to a person to even thinking about a relationship with a non or nominal Christian. When you take the word of God out of its context, it cease to become the word of God.

(2 Corinthians 6).
Contemporary English Version
1We work together with God, and we beg you to make good use of God's gift of undeserved grace. 2 In the Scriptures God says,

“When the time came
I listened to you,
and when you needed help,
I came to save you.”

That time has come. This is the day for you to be saved.
3We don't want anyone to find fault with our work, and so we try hard not to cause problems. 4But in everything and in every way we show we truly are God's servants. We have always been patient, though we have had a lot of trouble, suffering, and hard times. 5 We have been beaten, put in jail, and hurt in riots. We have worked hard and have gone without sleep or food. 6But we have kept ourselves pure and have been understanding, patient, and kind. The Holy Spirit has been with us, and our love has been real. 7We have spoken the truth, and God's power has worked in us. In all our struggles we have said and done only what is right.
8Whether we were honored or dishonored or praised or cursed, we always told the truth about ourselves. But some people said we did not. 9We are unknown to others, but well known to you. We seem to be dying, and yet we are still alive. We have been punished, but never killed, 10and we are always happy, even in times of suffering. Although we are poor, we have made many people rich. And though we own nothing, everything is ours.
11Friends in Corinth, we are telling the truth when we say there is room in our hearts for you. 12We are not holding back on our love for you, but you are holding back on your love for us. 13I speak to you as I would speak to my own children. Please make room in your hearts for us.

The Temple of the Living God
14Stay away from people who are not followers of the Lord! Can someone who is good get along with someone who is evil? Are light and darkness the same? 15Is Christ a friend of satan?+ Can people who follow the Lord have anything in common with those who don't? 16 Do idols belong in the temple of God? We are the temple of the living God, as God himself says,

“I will live with these people
and walk among them.
I will be their God,
and they will be
my people.”

17 The Lord also says,

“Leave them and stay away!
Don't touch anything
that isn't clean.
Then I will welcome you
18 and be your Father.
You will be my sons
and my daughters,
as surely as I am God,
the All-Powerful.”

You must also remember, there are only a few, true believers. So do not panic, God knows what He is Doing. God might not want you to have a husband, He knows what is best for us!

 

[Enxu]

Exnu
i know your annoyed
but no one can block Gods will if he sends you a hubby he will arrive in Gods perfect timing
you do well to remain single and keep praying about Gods will concerning mr just right for you

but even when your married its not an easy path either
so pray and pray some more and just serve God and everything else will come as God wills for you x

God bless you x

What annoys me the most is that when men ignorantly choose bad women over good women it makes good women want to be bad women as well. That’s what happens when good women don’t get the love they deserve while bad women steal good men away because men are stupid enough to choose them.

it’s a vicious cycle and good women get discouraged everyday when they are abandoned by ignorant men who don’t choose them.

 

[PloughBoy]

What annoys me the most is that when men ignorantly choose bad women over good women it makes good women want to be bad women as well. That’s what happens when good women don’t get the love they deserve while bad women steal good men away because men are stupid enough to choose them.

it’s a vicious cycle and good women get discouraged everyday when they are abandoned by ignorant men who don’t choose them.

What is a good woman? Jesus said: there is none good no not one! And if you claim you are good, somebody is lying! You or Jesus!

 

[PloughBoy]

“There is no one righteous, not even one;
11there is no one who understands;
there is no one who seeks God.
12All have turned away,
they have together become worthless;
there is no one who does good,
not even one.” b
13“Their throats are open graves;
their tongues practice deceit.” c
“The poison of vipers is on their lips.” d
14“Their mouths are full of cursing and bitterness.” e
15“Their feet are swift to shed blood;
16ruin and misery mark their ways,
17and the way of peace they do not know.” f
18“There is no fear of God before their eyes.” g

 

[PloughBoy]

The Rich Young Man
15And after He had placed His hands on them, He went on from there. 16Just then, a man came up to Jesus and inquired,“Teacher, what good thing must I do toobtain eternal life?” 17“Why do you ask Me about what is good?” Jesus replied. “There is only One who is good. If you want to enter life, keep the commandments.”…

 

[PloughBoy]

Enxu, the way you have been talking! I believe I have know women like you for a long time, you just want to get permission and justify your actions, To be a bad girl with a bad man, to justify your lust! Because, on and on, you are being over come by your own "lust". Instead of being "full of the Holy Spirit" so that you might silent the screaming of the flesh! Turn your effections around and set them in the Heavens! The more you feed this fleshly desire, the stronger it is going to get, and cause you a mental illness! Fast and pray! Starve this way of thinking! With all you strength. This is not a easy task, you have given place to the enemy and encountered a host! Cast off all "masturbation" and all the toys!! Give no place to the enemy, all "Porn"!!!! Flee! Flee! Flee! Run Run, Run. And this will flee from you.

 

[Fragrant Grace]

Yet, I feel robbed because of how ignorant men are about choosing godly women. I am scared that satan is sending evil women to take my future husband away from me. If he is ignorant, he will only end up ruined and wounded. What then is left for me?

Greetings @Enxu

Where has your trust in the Lord who saved you gone?
Do you not believe that He is in control and has your future in His hand.

Start rejoicing and praising the Lord for all His goodness to you.
The devil is a defeated enemy and has no power over you.

Ps I de-capitalised your references to satan.....why give him any importance.

 

[Curtis]

The Lord will give you a perfect wife/husband in your eyes by changing how "you" see them!