Friendships with the opposite sex

[rizen1]

Concerning people who suffer with temptation ( Lust, masturbation, porn ), should friendships with the oppsite sex be minimal, or it doesnt matter ?

What do you think?

 

[Faithful Son]

I think tempation as a whole, is something which can occur in both sexes, if a person is tempted with the opposite sex, they might also become tempted with the same sex, which is just as bad.

It may sound nasty wording it like that, but I've been through both.

 

[faithwalker]

It really depends on the situation.
The real question you should ask yourself is, Can you handle the temptation with the person or do you break the relationship?
Just dont let the temptation control you.

 

[rizen1]

My youth leaders have always stressed about how we relate with the opposite sex.
They would advise us to not counsel the other sex, that if we do to have someone with us that would be accountable.

I've seen alot of my friends doing this and end up in sin, So my question is would there have been a difference if they kept freindships with the opposite sex to a minimal.

Nothing is wrong with having friends, but knowing that they have a problem, shouldn't they fix it ( get victory ), so they wont have to worry about falling into lust.


Thanks for your repsonses guys

 

[Faithful Son]

They should sister, the Bible doesn't say according to my knowledge that you can't be friends with someone because you are tempted, Paul does say however, if you can't stand the urge much longer, you should marry.

I guess your viewpoint is that they should be friends in order to receive victory, and by not being friends, they won't. But I also believe with enough prayer and patience, God will give the person the means to have victory

 

[rizen1]

Thanks Faithful Son.

= Faithful Son
But I also believe with enough prayer and patience, God will give the person the means to have victory

=faithwalker
The real question you should ask yourself is, Can you handle the temptation with the person or do you break the relationship?

Yes that is a question one should ask.

God bless my brothers of FAITH.

 

[lettheredeemed]

I believe it is wise to keep close friendships to members of the same sex. Scripture doesn't only teach us not to lust ect. It teaches us to avoid all appearance of evil.

 

[rizen1]

It teaches us to avoid all appearance of evil

That's a good way of looking at it.

Thank you for taking the time out, and replying.

 

[lettheredeemed]

You are most welcome

 

[abigya]

Generally there is nothing wrong to have opposite sex friends, but every one has its own level of strength to handle situations and temptations.
Being opposite friends doesn’t mean you have to cross the line where you will be easily fall in to sin. We can draw a line between our selves at the same time we can be opposite sex best friends. There was time when I totally avoided having opposite sex friends, that’s because I new what my capacity of handling this things was.

I believe as we are Christ body, God has in stored different gifts, wisdom and talents in all of us so gender should not be a barrier for us to fellowship and share the blessings.

At present I have a lot of male best friends in many places…….I am so much blessed by them, some of them are married which I don’t have to worry much ( i just have to to be carefull that our friendship dose not affect thier family) , some of them are not but I make it clear on what our friendship is based on.



“All friendships should be Christ centered”
Blessings
abigya

 

[lettheredeemed]

I believe that if one chooses to be close friends with those of the opposite sex extreme caution should be exercised. Pastors must continually be on guard when dealing with the opposite sex.
Remember it is not just about us the world is watching. They don't understand the things of God about fellowship and the love of the brethren I believe that is why God warned us to show no appearance of evil.

 

[rizen1]

I agree with you sister.

I understand nothing is wrong with having these relationships ( when you are mature in Christ ), but for those who suffer with Lust bondaries should be made.

Because we dont want to give ground for temptation, the enemy is always looking for open doors in our lives to plant a seed.

 

[lettheredeemed]

Amen

David probably didn't think he would fall either.

 

[trulyblezzed]

It really depends on the situation.
The real question you should ask yourself is, Can you handle the temptation with the person or do you break the relationship?
Just dont let the temptation control you.

Sorry to disagree with you Brother, but the Bible says run away from temptation, not stick around to see if you can handle it!

It's like going to dunkin donuts when you're on a diet. Why bother? You'll probably end up eating the donut and in the end you feel guilty. Same goes for temptation. The enemy waits for you to fall into temptation and then makes you feel guilty afterwards.

My youth ministry is really strict with relationships. No dating until you're at least 18 because before that age, you're definitely not thinking about marriage. No being alone with anyone from the opposite sex. The devil can hit you anywhere so have a chaperon with you at all times.

**We as Christians don't date to date. We date to mate.

Only you know your intentions of having a friendship with the opposite sex... are you looking to date that person or just remain friends? If you are SINGLE and just want to remain friends, then I say it's ok. If you are MARRIED, it's a different story. Unless the person is someone that both you and your husband know and approve of, close that door... fast!!!

 

[lettheredeemed]

"**We as Christians don't date to date. We date to mate."



Amen, Christians date with marriage in mind.

 

[rizen1]

= trulyblezzed
My youth ministry is really strict with relationships. No dating until you're at least 18 because before that age, you're definitely not thinking about marriage. No being alone with anyone from the opposite sex. The devil can hit you anywhere so have a chaperon with you at all times.

**We as Christians don't date to date. We date to mate.

Praise God,
now thats what I'm talking about, can I get an Amen. Now that's a church who is building a new generation.

 

[lettheredeemed]

"**We as Christians don't date to date. We date to mate."

Amen, Christians date with marriage in mind.