Forgiveness

[gladstone]

I know as Christians we forgive others, and sometimes it's hard to do, but it's what Jesus did.

If someone hurts you, and leaves, and wants to come back into your life, and you forgive them and give them a second chance, but they do the same again, is it alright to forgive them another time, but not let them back in your life?

Otherwise it would be constant pattern of erring on their side and forgivness on yours.

Are we able to say enough is enough, you're forgiven but I can't keep doing this?

 

[DeaconBob3]

Of course we are to fogive others. It is commanded by Christ that we forgive so that we ourselves are forgiven.

However, letting someone back into our life after we forgive them is dependant more upon our trusting them than our forgiving them. Forgiveness and trust are two very different things. If someone steals from me I must forgive them, but that does not mean that I must also trust them to handle money for me until they have demonstrated that they are trustworthy.

In like manner, letting someone "back into my life" requires that I trust them to not repeat the offense. If someone shows that they cannot be trusted to not repeat the offense, then by all means forgive them, but do not continue to trust them. They have already demonstrated that they are not trustworthy.

So the direct answer to your question is forgiveness yes, but enough is enough when repeat offenses demonstrate they are not worthy of trust.

Christ told Peter that he should forgive 7 times 70 times, but He did not command us to trust each time.

 

[InHisGrip]

Well said DeaconBob :shade:

 

[rizen1]

Jesus Saves

Being the trustworthy person I am, I've been burnt pretty badly

Finally I had to say, enough is enough I forgive you but our relationship can and will no longer be the same.

People get power over us in these situation, your decision on forgiveness must be based on you, not making them feel better about themselves.

If you think about your relationship with God and your happiness, you'll know if to still allow this person in your life. Would it be a benefit or baggage.

You can be there for them in prayer, don't feel guilty if your choice is to let go.

We must forgive because God forgave us.
And also we judge the outside and God alone knows the other person's heart. We all make mistakes,so take this to God in pray.

Pray for that person.

 

[ladylovesJesus]

If someone hurts you, and leaves, and wants to come back into your life, and you forgive them and give them a second chance, but they do the same again, is it alright to forgive them another time, but not let them back in your life?

Otherwise it would be constant pattern of erring on their side and forgivness on yours.

Are we able to say enough is enough, you're forgiven but I can't keep doing this?

John17

4And even if he sins against you seven times in a day, and turns to you seven times and says, I repent [I am sorry], you must forgive him (give up resentment and consider the offense as recalled and annulled).

Matthew 18.

21Then Peter came up to Him and said, Lord, how many times may my brother sin against me and I forgive him and [h]let it go? [As many as] up to seven times?

22Jesus answered him, I tell you, not up to seven times, but seventy times seven!(C)

Fogiveness is not a feeling it is an act of the will. We choose to forgive someone and therefore set ourselves free and are not tied to them. God will then forgive us when we sin and confess it.

Bearing in mind that we do not have a relationship with an unbeliever as that will cause problems. If they cannot live as Jesus wants us to live and do unto others what we want done to us then they are not welcome. You cannot keep taking someone back if they carry on as before as you will be the one who is hurt.

God bless

LLJ :rainbow: :rose: