Well J4JH,
Strictly speaking it was.
elope
–verb (used without object), e·loped, e·lop·ing.
1. to run off secretly to be married,
usually without the consent or knowledge of one's parents.
2. to run away with a lover.
3. to leave without permission or notification; escape.
Notice I have underlined usually but I think definition number two would apply to us best. We were not going to tell anyone before we went but I felt it right to tell very close family, it was a secret for a long time though as we booked and paid for it all months beforehand.
I did not seek permission and my parents weren't exactly thrilled about the idea to begin with. I was a little nervous about telling my parents as I didn't know what their reaction would be. My family were unable to attend and you can't runaway much further than Mexico from where we live! So although I went without permission, everyone agreed afterwards it was probably for the best that things were organised the way they were.
I don't think my Dad's heart could take two weddings to deal with in the space of two months anyway just think of the speaches!
My sister's wedding was lovely the best man was my late partner's brother, my daughter was bridesmaid and flower girl! My Dad got to give away a daughter and my family got to give my sister the best possible send off. The only difference was I was matron of honour instead of cheif bridesmaid!
God Bless
Eve