Confused

[Scornedwoman25]

Hi everyone I am looking for some advice. My husband and I have been married 3 months and already "separated". We have been together for 6 years. I don't consider us separated we still live together, sleep together, cuddle and everything normal married couples do. Let me give a little back story. This man is 13 years older then me. He has pulled me out of a life not suitable for anyone. He has accepted my 3 children as if they aren't his own. All in all I believe God brought him in my life because he is the 1. Over 6 years we have had 4 fights over the same thing. Jealousy. He is such a kind man and tries to help everyone. I just don't like the fact it's always women. Usually when I've expressed my feelings he would respect them, this is until recently. He has developed a friendship with a female and they work together. He gives her a ride to and from work. I was OK with this until she would call or text and he would go over there. This is how he used to do me. When I expressed my concerns he would get angry. I stopped talking to him about it. Then he would start going to her house at night and come back a couple hours later. I had finally had enough and blew up. He response.. we are to different we can't be together. He said I'll still be here for u and the kids but u and me we just can't be together. Its been a month now and I ask him every week how he feels. He says the same. He still sees her too. Im trying to be patient and do as God tells me, but emotionally I am drained..

 

[Travis]

This is a one sided story. Not saying your lying, just that we all don't have anything to go off of other than what you are saying. Which is ok, I just don't wanna say something presumptuous.

Based on what you said alone though, it sounds like he is doing much wrong to you. You certainly have the right to be upset.

Is your husband a sincere believer in Christ Jesus, a born again Christian? Do you consider yourself one?

Sounds like a tough situation, hang in there. God is capable of dealing with the toughest of situations. He took on flesh and experienced all these types of disappointments and such we go through, and thus he understands our weaknesses.

Be blessed,

Travis

 

[Scornedwoman25]

I am a born again Christian. He believes in God but not the Bible. I know that I have overreacted with my jealously and acted out of anger, but I don't understand how this could push him over the edge. I've been told not to give up hope because he still says he loves me. Doesn't want a divorce and hasn't left.

 

[Travis]

God makes it pretty clear in the scriptures that he expects us to be one woman men, and one man women. Anything short of this is sin, Pretty big deal. You can commit emotional adultery and not physically commit adultery. I don't think one is better or worse than the other. I think it should definitely bother you though if he is being unfaithful.

If he is doesn't believe in the scriptures, he isn't a believer, in that if you reject that which bears witness to the Truth (Jesus) it's really hard to say you accept Jesus.

If he desires to remain with you the scriptures do say that it would be good to remain with him. You shouldn't have to put up with unfaithfulness though, that's definitely not good.

Will pray for you,

Blessings,

Travis

 

[Chad]

He believes in God but not the Bible.

Hello sister. This is a problem here. Quite bluntly, it's foolishness. How does one believe in God but not the Bible? It's contradictory. So basically, he's not a believer at all. It's either all in or not. One cannot choose a middle ground of belief, it simply doesn't exist. You believe in GOD and His Word as infallible, divine, Jesus as Risen Son of GOD, or not. Based on what you said, he's not a believer. Also, what you've shared with us, he's absolutely crossing the line. Once married, the spouse should not be alone with another person of the opposite sex. Boundaries in marriage are not the same as those for an unmarried person. He's not honoring you as his wife.

You need to surrender this to GOD in prayer. Do your part as a wife, live out the Proverbs 31 woman GOD desires. The husband has a huge responsibility and what you've shared with us, he's not fulfilling it. His first problem is not believing in GOD and His Word. Pray for his salvation.

I'll lift you both up in prayer as well.

 

[Scornedwoman25]

Thank u both for Ur advice. I will remain strong and be patient.