Can you help me understand this?

[Maureen]

I'll try to explain this the best way I know how to and with God's help.

I pray for the salvation of my husband every night, (plus family) but sometimes when I really sit down to think about how it would be if my husband were to be saved I get very concerned, pehaps its the enemy satan working overtime on me, but why otherwise would I be this way?

I get concerned about how would our 'new life' together be, 'my' prayer time would become 'our' prayer time, same with bible reading, I've got so used to doing these on my own, how would I adjust?
Instead of revelling in these things I'm doing just the opposite, I should be looking forward to sharing these times, what's wrong with me?

I know it may sound stupid to you reading this, I feel somewhat stupid writing about it, but I want to confide in someone, I know that Jesus knows how I am, and then I think is this the reason my husbands not saved yet, because I think this way? does the Lord think I'm the one who isn't ready for his salvation? is this really stupid, does anyone understand?
Is any of this possible?

 

[jari]

i must say incase this helps you any that i have exactly the same thoughts... and questions

well i think you can still pray and read alone as you have before then start praying about how to arrange praying together and reading, you just do more! wouldnt that be good

 

[stephen]

I know it may sound stupid to you reading this, I feel somewhat stupid writing about it, but I want to confide in someone, I know that Jesus knows how I am, and then I think is this the reason my husbands not saved yet, because I think this way? does the Lord think I'm the one who isn't ready for his salvation? is this really stupid, does anyone understand?
Is any of this possible?

You need not feel stupid sister....your question is quite valid.

My wife and I have been married 40years + and counting. We met as young folks at an A.o.G 'Youth Rally', in the district

We dont get to gether to pray/read often but certainly if the need is felt.

Reason being my wife retires to bed early, and rises with the lark, to read and prepare for whatever.

I am an owl. I never seem to get to my bed on the same day I arose from it. I read/study in the early hours

But I rise early also as circumstances may demand, but generally 08.30 is my breakfast time.

So we read and meditate at either end of the day....and it never has been a problem.

God Bless you sister.......and I pray your husband come to Salvation soon

 

[BeBare]

I get concerned about how would our 'new life' together be, 'my' prayer time would become 'our' prayer time, same with bible reading, I've got so used to doing these on my own, how would I adjust?
Instead of revelling in these things I'm doing just the opposite, I should be looking forward to sharing these times, what's wrong with me?

No, it's not stupid. I completely understand your concern. I also sometimes wonder how it will be when I get married and I have to share my studying time and prayer time with my husband when I have become used to doing these on my own as well. I feel that I would have to start sharing something very special and precious to me (my alone time with the Lord) and then I feel "guilty" for feeling selfish. I just trust him with these feelings knowing that he will work it out. I encourage you to do the same and just wait on the Lord. Rest well and I pray your husband receive salvation soon.

 

[Maureen]

ah, thank you very much indeed.

Stephan,
you made me laugh, when you said you never get to bed or rise on the same day, I can relate to that myself, but never thought of it like that.
Refreshing to know that you still have your 'own' time still, guess I really thought that would be no longer, so that is reassuring, and also to know that 'both' can be involved just whenever it arises, guess I was thinking of it being along the lines of having to do everything together, don't know why I thought that, but I did.
Thank you Brother.

BeBare
you gave me encouragement also.
Things sound so similar with us, I wouldn't have thought it so, as when you do get married you begin to share a whole life with someone else, we normally get that to work okay, so how much more will the Lord enable us to share our 'New Birth' together and will oversee that in line with His will.
Thank you Sister

Jari
you too? makes me rest assured now I am not my lone.
I never thought as 'doing more' that is true, we can still keep our own quiet time and be envolved in what ever way else with our spouse.
Thank you too Sister.

Thank you all for such good help and reassurance.

 

[Trishann]

Maureen when your husband get save the Lord will help you through these issues. Sometimes I know we wonder, "Lord what about this issue" and yet the Lord is Big enough to show you the way.

Your sister in Christ, Trish

 

[Maureen]

Thank you too Trishann

right now it's not the issue, I'm begining to wonder why I even thought about it.
I had hoped his diagnoses of diabetes would curtail his drinking but no it hasn't, as tonight (Sat) has proved, and to crown it out his sugar reading was normal which only tells him he can still carry on drinking now and then.

If he is never to be saved I just glory in the fact the Lord saved me, and will keep me, no matter what happens.

 

[Giggles4God]

Maureen,

You have gotten some good advice thus far. My husband and I are both Christians, but I can understand your concern. I believe husbands and wives should, if possible, read the Bible and pray together, BUT that does not mean that you cannot read the Bible and pray alone. I LOVE my alone time with God and my husband would NEVER try to take that away from me. It is important that we remember that our relationship with Jesus is FIRST!! Satan is trying to get you to feel guilt that isn't really there or is false. We SHOULD cherish our time alone with God. We SHOULD want everyone to be saved, etc. BUT that shouldn't be at the cost of our relationship with God. If we are not spending our time with God, what will get us ready for the next battle, when we will witness, give us strength, etc? Also, I am sure your husband will have questions when he becomes a Christian. Maybe that is a good time to sit down with the Bible and look together. Also, I would look at how your day is. Like someone said, are you both early risers or opposites? God knows where your heart is. I would also rebuke satan and tell him to get behind you. Speak good things to your husband...even if he isn't around. pray, pray, and pray! I hope some of this helped and I didn't blab too much

~Jen~

 

[Maureen]

Yes, thank you all I have gotten some great help from you.

I know it's off satan, as at times I quite fine about it all.

I am going to wait on the Lord, it is only Him can save.

All else is just needless waste of time.

If only somehow I could convince my husband that Jesus is the answer to life, but it's no use, he has to find that for himself, till then I will walk before him and stand up for Jesus.

Thank you all again

 

[Trishann]

Maureen sometimes when you have an unsaved spouse you do think the (what if). I can name a few what if (saved or unsaved). There was even a time I was critized because my spouse was unsaved, as if I was the blame. Yes it did crushed me to hear hurting words.

But because of all the uncertainity and harsh words, I fell right into the loving arms of Jesus that helped me through each of these concerns. What I found out, there is safety in seeking help in time of need, in the loving arms of Jesus.

Maureen oh yes rejoice in your salvation and be glad. As far as your spouse's salvation continue to pray. Don't think it is not common for one to have questions. Stay strong in the Lord Maureen as you are doing and He will see you through it.

Your sister in Christ, Trish

 

[Maureen]

Thank you Trishann
For your words of comfort.

I'm sorry to read you were held responsible for your husband state of spirituality.
We cannot force or make someone come to Jesus, it's their personal choice, but some obviously don't understand this.

I must admit I do wonder when I learn that people have been married for a very long period and one of them still is unsaved, but then I look at my own situation, I too thought I was doing something wrong at one stage or not doing things right as how I should have been.

But that bears no relevence to it.
We are each individuals, answerable seperately to God.
We are not accountable for anyone other than ourselves.
Thank you again sis.

 

[Trishann]

Thank you Maureen, I am glad that it gave you some comfort.
I know sometimes you can feel alone, as if it is a strange thing, but you are not, especially when God is on your side.

Your sister in Christ, Trish