Hey no problem sis, something the Lord taught me as well when I struggled with this question in the past.
Its actually great to be friends with each other that is the highest form of 'relationship!' Its actually a lot more honoring than being physically intimate cos lets face it that part is messy, can cause a heap of trouble, and something that you need to shield children from.
It might be that you have find yourself with few male friends for a while, esp single ones but then you dont need to be friends with every tom **** and harry wanting to use you. Or you trying to use them for selfish reasons.
a good friend while hard to find, will last, even can outlast a marriage. Abraham was called a Friend of God.
If its the case that God wants you to marry and be a mother, well be prepared but the thing is God doesnt ask everyone to be married. If you do, you still need to honor your husband and not defile the marriage bed. If you marry an unbeliever you may be in for a lifetime of sorrow or abuse, or even divorce, if they choose not to walk in His way.
Either way, if that is the case (if you mean that leaving the bed undefiled means that you go to it as a virgin), The bed is already defiled... :/
In this world theres so much of the devil wanting people to lust after the world rather than hunger for righteousness. When I talk with many people about why their marriage didnt last it actually turns put they fornicated with their spouse before marrying, instead of a foundation of friendship or likemindedness it was based on lust, it seems like the common denominator in almost all cases.
See Eve was at first attracted to the forbidden tree because the fruit LOOKED delicious And she thought it would make her wise. Well..look that got both of them banished from the garden, adam had to work for hard for a living, Eve had to contend with painful childbirth, and doing what her husband wanted all the time and their first child ended up killing his brother!
Notice in Genesis there was no actual marriage or wedding taking place between adam and eve. There was no covenant made. Maybe like many people, it happened after instead of before because they couldnt wait. After Seth was born (to replace Abel) i think thats when the Bible says they called upon the Lord. From Seths line Jesus was born, not Cains.
I think Jesus makes the perfect husband but you need that close spiritual relationship with Him first the kingdom cannot be inherited by flesh and blood. Satan really tries to deceive women especially about the opposite sex.
I encourage you to cultivate your relationship with the Lord first and then everything will be added to you.
There is a book written by a sister who had the similar issues and a great testimony for single women...if can remember it, will post it here, so you can look it up.
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Its called You are a prize to be won! Dont settle for less than God's best by Wendy Griffith.