Hi Blackbear...
Sorry in advance for my english... if you don't understand something just ask and I will try to explain it again.
I understand what you're saying, but the question is that a man saved by Jesus does not wish to divorce HIM... that reborning that God makes in that man TURNS him into a son of God that loves God as his father and Jesus has his brother... THAT is the transformation of the reborn... without it no man can genuinely love God or Jesus.
But after that work (reborning) of God which happens the moment (not progressively) that someone hears the gospel and believes it (because God give him faith so he can believe) the will of that man CHANGES... all the old things passed and everything is new... what he thought were darkness after all is light, and where he saw light he can now see clearly see darkness after all, and all of this because now God give him eyes to see and ears to hear and he NO LONGER judges the world by flesh ways but by the spirit ways, not by appearance but by the truth... GOD made him a " little child Jesus" thats in growth until he reaches the perfect stature of man, his older brother Jesus.
This new man now starts to fear God because he now understands who HE really is, but loving HIM at the same time because GOD shows him how much HE loves him and what HE is doing ... and he starts to understand all the words of the apostles and Jesus because he now thinks the same way... he, and Jesus became one.
In this world man and woman can marry (became one) and divorce because it is a union that does symbolize Christ and the Church but it an carnal union in the flesh NOT in spirit; but the church and Christ REALLY do become one, and there's NOTHING that can divide them... the bride desires the groom and the grom desires the bride because GOD joined them and made them love one another.
Just like a natural man cannot choose to want Jesus (he does not even have the capacity to known HIM ), the reborn does not have the capacity to deny HIM... sure, each one of them can SAY they do (for whatever reason) but that does not changes his heart that is carnal or spiritual... the choice is not in the mouth nor in actions, it's in the heart.
Natural men are carnal so they desire the carnal ways (sin), reborned men are spiritual therefor they desire GOD... and no one has the power to dictates the direction of his heart, but is his heart that guides him.... and even if someone decide to hide his heart decision by changing their behavior that will not change his heart and who it belongs to... he may fool other man, but not GOD.
Just like a father or a mother does not loves his son because they choose (which would be a false love) but it happens naturally so it is in any other matter including the love for GOD.... your choice depends on your heart not the other way around...
If God has given you a new heart you love HIM, if you have the natural stone heart you cannot love HIM.
Without being reborn it is IMPOSSIBLE that anyone desire God (only a God that they created in their mind, not THE GOD as HE is, the real and only), but after that man is transformed by GOD, which is to die the old man and in it's place another one is born in the likeness of Christ (the regeneration - reborn) with a new mind, that man can only desire GOD and it is IMPOSSIBLE to desire to be apart of GOD... he cannot desire divorce.... If someone looks reborned (because of his good deeds) but desires to "divorce" from Jesus that only shows that that persons heart DOES NOT belong to God.
Of course not everyone can accept these "prison" they want freedom even from GOD... they prefer to choose even if it leads them to death than to belong to someone.
But that does not change the fact that one's a slave of GOD or of sin, and there's no middle point, no one's master of him self... natural man belongs to sin, reborned man were bought by Jesus.... never of his own so he can decide to want divorce or not.... his choices are up to his master.
I know that this is starting to go off-topic so I will stop here... I hope I have explained myself well my friend.
Matthew 5:5
Blessed are the meek,
For f they shall inherit the 1 earth.