Hi Dave,
I know we often don't see things the same way, but, if you'll permit me I can show you that not only has the land not been given to them, but that it is that land that is the inheritance of both Christ and the Christian. Let me start off by saying I agree with you that there are not two plans or destinies, one for Israel and one for the Church. There is one plan.
There are a few things to keep in mind. The land in the passages you referenced above ws given to Israel under a conditional covenant. The promise to Abraham was unconditional. So, Israel going into the land doesn't fulfill the promise to Abraham.
17 And this I say, that the covenant, that was confirmed before of God in Christ, the law, which was four hundred and thirty years after, cannot disannul, that it should make the promise of none effect.
18 For if the inheritance be of the law, it is no more of promise: but God gave it to Abraham by promise.
19 Wherefore then serveth the law? It was added because of transgressions, till the seed should come to whom the promise was made; and it was ordained by angels in the hand of a mediator. (Gal. 3:17-19 KJV)
Here Paul says that the Law cannot disannul the promise. The promise is fourfold. God promised to give Abraham, the land, to make him the father of a great nation, to make him the father or many nations, and that all the nations would be blessed through him. This promise was unconditional.
10 And Abraham stretched forth his hand, and took the knife to slay his son.
11 And the angel of the LORD called unto him out of heaven, and said, Abraham, Abraham: and he said, Here am I.
12 And he said, Lay not thine hand upon the lad, neither do thou any thing unto him: for now I know that thou fearest God, seeing thou hast not withheld thy son, thine only son from me.
13 And Abraham lifted up his eyes, and looked, and behold behind him a ram caught in a thicket by his horns: and Abraham went and took the ram, and offered him up for a burnt offering in the stead of his son.
14 And Abraham called the name of that place Jehovahjireh: as it is said to this day, In the mount of the LORD it shall be seen.
15 And
the angel of the LORD called unto Abraham out of heaven the second time,
16 And said,
By myself have I sworn, saith the LORD, for because thou hast done this thing, and hast not withheld thy son, thine only son:
17 That
in blessing I will bless thee, and in multiplying I will multiply thy seed as the stars of the heaven, and as the sand which is upon the sea shore; and thy seed shall possess the gate of his enemies;
18 And in thy seed shall all the nations of the earth be blessed; because thou hast obeyed my voice. (Gen. 22:10-18 KJV)
Because Abraham obeyed God, God swore an oath to Abraham. This is the promise. It's unconditional. Paul argues that Israel later inheriting the land cannot break this promise.
We are told plainly, that Abraham was promised that land, and we are told plainly that he never inherited it.
For
all the land which thou seest, to thee will I give it, and to thy seed for ever. (Gen. 13:15 KJV)
Acts 7:2–5 (KJV 1900): Men, brethren, and fathers, hearken; The God of glory appeared unto our father Abraham, when he was in Mesopotamia, before he dwelt in Charran, 3 And said unto him, Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and come into the land which I shall shew thee. 4 Then came he out of the land of the Chaldaeans, and dwelt in Charran: and from thence, when his father was dead, he removed him into this land, wherein ye now dwell. 5 And
he gave him none inheritance in it, no, not so much as to set his foot on:
yet he promised that he would give it to him for a possession, and to his seed after him, when as yet he had no child.
This land promise was made to Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob and to their Seed, which Paul tells us in Gal 3:16 is Christ. Neither, Abraham, Isaac, nor Jacob, ever inherited that land. that means that the only way that God can fulfill this promise is through the Resurrection.
For me to go into all of this will require a lot of space here. Instead of posting multiple long posts I'm going to link to an article or small booklet I've written on this very subject. It's kind of long, but it has plenty of Scripture to document what I've said. There is also historical evidence to show this was the early Christian understanding. Here's the link,
The Kingdom of God, a Biblical Perspective. I do encourage you to read it. I believe it will answer many of your questions.