Address me respectively to the conditions.
I was a believing, baptised, born again, spirit filled Christian like any other. I came with conditions like all of you, but I learned to humble myself and walk the best walk I could.
I read the bible, prayed, attended church and listened to my teacher's. But it was all for naught, they don't listen in return (Well most) and I got sick of waiting and hoping on Jesus to correct abnormalities that were detrimental to my character.
So I left and worked on myself, and I had far more success than some vague belief system had.
It's not perfect, but at least things went forward after 14 years of wishful thinking.