Having a fear of death?

[Broncos1982]

21 Not everyone who says to Me, "Lord, Lord," shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven.
22 Many will say to Me in that day, "Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?"
23 And then I will declare to them, "I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness."


Anyway, I was sleeping the other night and I grew extremely afraid of dying for some reason. I am afraid of my judgement, mainly because I don't know if I'm one of these people or not.



Side note

Anyone know how God heals the brokenhearted. I still think about my ex-wife all the time and she is with someone else she loves. I pray everynight and I'm still crushed in Spirit and it's been a year already.

 

[Brother Mike]

Judgement.......

This should be posted in the counseling thread if you want the best advice. Many just monitor the threads they are interested in or have a background to help in. You also may get a "Softer Response."

Anyway, I was sleeping the other night and I grew extremely afraid of dying for some reason. I am afraid of my judgement, mainly because I don't know if I'm one of these people or not.

your lack of understanding of what was done on the Cross is part of your issue here. I would strongly suggest you get in a study about the righteousness of God, and how that is a free gift. Also if those things you allow go against your conscience, then this is normal to feel this way. In other words..... don't do those things, and get enough of the Word in you and be filled with the Spirit to resist them.

Anyone know how God heals the brokenhearted. I still think about my ex-wife all the time and she is with someone else she loves. I pray everynight and I'm still crushed in Spirit and it's been a year already.

Broken marriage is not easy............ Where you both saved and following the Lord before marriage?? We are told not to be unequally yoked, and breaking this is a way to these types of outcomes.

Taking responsibility is the first step. If things go wrong, then could we have acted different or responded different.. Where we really ready to be married and be a strong man in the Lord, confident and full of God's Grace and power?? Where we a leader, kind and gentle? Did we cherish our wife, and treat her as Gold?? Did we Treat the Wife as Christ Loves the Church??

If the answer is no to this, then once again........... just a outcome of not Knowing and following what the Word says. If your wife left and you did these things, then let the unbelieving depart, there was nothing to hold onto anyway...

My wife left, and I was very miserable for a year.. most my prayers centered around "Getting her back." This was due to guilt because I was not in obedience to the Word during our marriage...
being centered on the wife, is not centered on God. It took me a year to see this, but I realized that God wanted the best for me for the future despite the things I messed up in the past. My faith started to grow in God, and a better future... I also learned when bitterness came on me because of the "Man" she was with, I would start to pray for them both though it was not easy at first.. (God bless them), and just told the Lord I release them, and look forward to the new and awesome things you have for me... God does heal, and will if you do what the Word says do..

Jesus Is Lord.

 

[Broncos1982]

This should be posted in the counseling thread if you want the best advice. Many just monitor the threads they are interested in or have a background to help in. You also may get a "Softer Response."



your lack of understanding of what was done on the Cross is part of your issue here. I would strongly suggest you get in a study about the righteousness of God, and how that is a free gift. Also if those things you allow go against your conscience, then this is normal to feel this way. In other words..... don't do those things, and get enough of the Word in you and be filled with the Spirit to resist them.




Broken marriage is not easy............ Where you both saved and following the Lord before marriage?? We are told not to be unequally yoked, and breaking this is a way to these types of outcomes.

Taking responsibility is the first step. If things go wrong, then could we have acted different or responded different.. Where we really ready to be married and be a strong man in the Lord, confident and full of God's Grace and power?? Where we a leader, kind and gentle? Did we cherish our wife, and treat her as Gold?? Did we Treat the Wife as Christ Loves the Church??

If the answer is no to this, then once again........... just a outcome of not Knowing and following what the Word says. If your wife left and you did these things, then let the unbelieving depart, there was nothing to hold onto anyway...

My wife left, and I was very miserable for a year.. most my prayers centered around "Getting her back." This was due to guilt because I was not in obedience to the Word during our marriage...
being centered on the wife, is not centered on God. It took me a year to see this, but I realized that God wanted the best for me for the future despite the things I messed up in the past. My faith started to grow in God, and a better future... I also learned when bitterness came on me because of the "Man" she was with, I would start to pray for them both though it was not easy at first.. (God bless them), and just told the Lord I release them, and look forward to the new and awesome things you have for me... God does heal, and will if you do what the Word says do..

Jesus Is Lord.

Hey thanks for the reply, I appreciate it. Actually, I just have a fear of death for some reason, I think I should just study the Word more.

As far as my marriage, I did everything for my wife, we got into arguements because she would go drinking with her friends and post the pictures on facebook while she was a christian youth sponsor. And now she is with this new guy she has all these photos of her drinking and going to parties, things she never did before. I tried everything to save my marriage. Not sure why God would allow me to be crushed like this.

 

[Brother Mike]

It's not about you.......

Not sure why God would allow me to be crushed like this.

Your crushed???
God was suppose to do what?? Just make your wife not do dumb things??
How does God feel?? He had a daughter, that allowed things to enter in her life.. Things I know very well she knew to be wrong, but did them anyway... She got to a place where her conscience was seared to the place these things she did no longer bothered her...

Is it God allowed these things, or God lost a daughter??

you know the World is full of these examples.... ?? We go to Church, we try to serve God, we try to help youth and other areas of ministry, and the power of God, and his Word is never real to us... not real enough to keep from the pull of the World....

What would happen if the Word was real, and mighty in bringing down strongholds?? What if we could as Jesus said lay hands on someone filled with cancer, and in His name they where healed... What if we understood and knew that God?? I tell you the truth, your wife would have never left, if she knew...

That does not mean you however you can't know, and be fully healed of these things...

The root of all sin is the fear of death. Fear of missing out in life, fear of not getting our needs met, fear of what people will think of our standards, fear of the World not accepting us.. It all comes back to the fear of death..

Let's keep this simple..............God sent his Word to heal us, and deliver us from our destruction. (Psalm 107:20) There is power in the Word spoken by God. If he said it, then it never returns void... never.... but we have to take God's side... we do have a part.

You have a fear of dying??

Where does those thoughts come from?? You said they cause fear... Fear is Torment......... It's not good, and it's not God. (1 John 4:18)

Rom 8:15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.

You have a belief system that tells you that your going to die, and to be afraid of it. We need to change that belief system, and it is caused by continually thinking on the wrong thing. It's time to fix that.
The Word has the power to change our thinking.... Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.... TRANSFORMED!!! God's word does not return void. Remember that. (Isa 55:11)

The Truth:

If Satan actually had the ability to kill you, then he would have done it long ago.... The only tools he has is to introduce enough thoughts to where we get in agreement with him. This is what happened to the wife. She allowed these thoughts.

Read this scripture...

Jas 3:17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.

If anything crosses your mind that is not Pure, peaceable, gentle, full of mercy, then it's not God. If it leaves fear, and uncertainty, then it's not God. This is a good check on hearing What is God and what is not God. If it's not God, then we have nothing to do with it.

How to fight this thing?

You can't fight thoughts with thoughts... You need to fight thoughts with speaking... with Words... by speaking we cut off the thought. Just count backwards from 1-10 in your mind, then say your name... what happened to the counting?? God designed us this way.

Every time you have thoughts of death, or the wife... I want you to speak this out... Loud and every-time.....

God has for me a great life, a focused life In him. He has planed for me to have a blessed end..and great plans. (Jer 29:11) I will not have a spirit of fear, but of peace, power and a sound mind.

I do not accept thoughts of death, but only thoughts of peace and the life I have in Christ. I love God with all my heart, mind and strength, and God loves me with all his heart, mind and strength. God is making a way to heal the pain of this broken marriage, he did not design me to be alone, but to have a help meet, that is strong in the Lord. The Lord will bring into my path the right one for me.

Satan!!! You can't kill me!!! If you could, you already would have. Your a liar, and with long life will God satisfy me... In the name of Jesus I have the victory that overcomes this World, I have great peace, and I am strong in the Lord and in the power of his might. God has great plans for me, and I as I get more filled with the Word, Great victory comes my way.

Father, I trust in you, you cause me to go through the good places, and I know your fully working on me, and any situation around me, for I have confidence that you will make perfect those things that concern me.. (Psalm 138:8) I have victory in the name of Jesus, I thank you Lord...

Keep me posted..

Jesus Is Lord.

 

[Brighthouse]

Brother Broncos, I cannot understand how it feels to lose someone you loved,as I myself have never been married.But perhaps I can encourage you,in some matters. On the narrow road we are now on,many still look at the road they are traveling on.Yes even a narrow road has places to stumble and fall onto.

In death,there is no longer any fear,there are no concerns either. Please read 1 cor15:20-34 verse 33!! Bad company corrupts good morals! The company I used to keep before salvation,I had to leave.It is not that I was any better then they!! But rather because there words did not help me on my road now in Jesus. (mark 4:24)

If we always look to self,and our eyes,we miss that which is unseen to them.( 2 cor 4:7-18) I hope you see the point I am looking to make with you Bro. If our eyes are focused on Jesus,then what is in our way,will be moved away from us. This of course my brother,does not happen overnight,it does take time,and yes,much hard work in this.

I think what every person wants the most from another,is to be trusted,because with trust,we have no more fear,we know we cannot overcome this alone,which you and I have looked to do. If we trust Jesus,then we look to him,no matter what is being put in our way, to stop this trust.

Words from others can cause this,feeling can cause this as well. But what brings us through to trust Jesus is his very Word!( deut 31:6 and hebrews 13:5-6) Jesus wants you brother to do something that he himself knows is so hard for you to do!! Trust him! As you know,words have little meaning without action to them.Action shows us and Jesus that we do trust!

This is why so few find the narrow road,or can stay on it.Our lack, jesus knows! We make mistakes,but not in our trust! We love him brother because we trust him!! and because he dared to trust us!! Jesus trusted us by doing what is so hard for any normal person!!( 1 john 4:7-19) love meant so much to Jesus,because he knows how much it means to us! That is why in verse 19 he says WE LOVE!! because!! HE first loved us!

Love is to trust,do this,and you will live,do it not,and one is already dead before the very throne of God. Christ knows us,get to know him,we do this by making Jesus first even before self! By doing this, all grace and mercy is established for us,because his Blood cleanses us!

And no better person then peter understands this when he said in 1 peter 4:8!! Keep fervent in YOUR love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins!! A man who denyed Jesus 3 times!! may every blessing, and grace and mercy be established unto you,do this for others as well,and dare to trust the Man who created you for his Glory! Blessing to you bro.