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If You're a Husband
'Husbands, love your wives...' Ephesians 5:25 NKJV
'Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.' Many men wrestle with the fear of intimacy. Masculine emotions have become the 21st century version of 'Pandora's box'. We don't know all that's in it, but we have a feeling that we'd better not open it. But if we hide our true selves from our wives, they will only love what we do - not what we are!
As a husband, you don't have to be a '10'. You just have to be a man of God. He wants strong men who lead, instead of weak men who follow. No woman wants to be in submission to a man who isn't in submission to God and led by His Spirit. '...the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control...' (Galatians 5:22-23 NKJV)
A woman feels secure with a man who has these qualities, and will gladly say to him, 'Lead the way.' Men are masters at giving 'things'. Where they have big problems is when they are asked to give themselves! Jesus Christ, the greatest lover the world has ever known, gives Himself openly and unashamedly. His love is exemplified in His coming, but consummated in His dying.
The truth is, your wife doesn't need more things - she just needs you to give your love to her completely. Jesus is described in the book of Revelation as a Lion and a Lamb (Revelation 5:5-6). That's a picture of strength and tenderness, and that's what your wife needs from you.
You say, 'How long will it take me to accomplish this?' A lifetime, so get started!
written by Bob Gass
'Husbands, love your wives...' Ephesians 5:25 NKJV
'Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.' Many men wrestle with the fear of intimacy. Masculine emotions have become the 21st century version of 'Pandora's box'. We don't know all that's in it, but we have a feeling that we'd better not open it. But if we hide our true selves from our wives, they will only love what we do - not what we are!
As a husband, you don't have to be a '10'. You just have to be a man of God. He wants strong men who lead, instead of weak men who follow. No woman wants to be in submission to a man who isn't in submission to God and led by His Spirit. '...the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control...' (Galatians 5:22-23 NKJV)
A woman feels secure with a man who has these qualities, and will gladly say to him, 'Lead the way.' Men are masters at giving 'things'. Where they have big problems is when they are asked to give themselves! Jesus Christ, the greatest lover the world has ever known, gives Himself openly and unashamedly. His love is exemplified in His coming, but consummated in His dying.
The truth is, your wife doesn't need more things - she just needs you to give your love to her completely. Jesus is described in the book of Revelation as a Lion and a Lamb (Revelation 5:5-6). That's a picture of strength and tenderness, and that's what your wife needs from you.
You say, 'How long will it take me to accomplish this?' A lifetime, so get started!
written by Bob Gass
