You will keep [him] in perfect peace, [Whose] mind [is] stayed [on You], Because he trusts in You. Isaiah 26:3 As the spiritual leader of your family, the buck stops with you. While you’re wise to discuss issues with your wife and seek the counsel of mature, experienced Christians, in the end, you’re responsible for the big decisions. In those situations, how can you have peace? When Jesus told His disciples, “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you” (John 14:27), His peace was an actual thing, not an absence of something like conflict or confusion. Isaiah tied peace to trust, deliberately turning your thoughts toward God instead of your problems. Paul described peace as a shield “which transcends all understanding (and) will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:7). Furthermore, Paul detailed the types of thoughts you should be turning toward God—things that are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous, and praiseworthy (Philippians 4:8). When you figure all of those into your decisions—thinking about what the cost might be or what it means to follow God in your circumstances—He will give you His peace. And it won’t be the peace the world gives, the sort that leaves you doubting, second-guessing, and feeling more alone than ever. Once you grasp God’s peace, you’ll make the best decision possible, entrusting your cares to Him.