Questions: Masturbation

[Rickeo]

Hello,

Hope this thread doesn't offend anyone.

Looking at some Sermons and a Christian minister claimed it was ok for a married Christian to masturbate but with limitations in place these were you could only think about your partner and masturbation with your partner is allowed to be enjoyed with your partner as apart of your sex life once your married

Is this true???

Also once your married are there any sexual limitations things you are not supposed to do in the bedroom.

Please move this if it is in the wrong area as I do understand it is a little bit of a heated topic but well there is no one else I can ask really and I do believe it's not a BAD question as I don't mean any harm by it

Thanks

Rick

 

[ImmanuelWithUs]

Got this from gotquestions website:

Question: "Masturbation - is it a sin according to the Bible?"

Answer: The Bible never specifically mentions masturbation or states whether masturbation is a sin. There is no question, however, as to whether the actions that lead to masturbation are sinful. Masturbation is the end result of lustful thoughts, sexual stimulation, and/or pornographic images. It is these problems that need to be dealt with. If the sins of lust and pornography are forsaken and overcome - the problem of masturbation will become a non-issue.

The Bible tells us to avoid even the appearance of sexual immorality (Ephesians 5:3). I do not see how masturbating can pass that particular test. Sometimes a good test for whether something is a sin or not is whether you would be proud to tell others what you had just done. If it is something you would be embarrassed or ashamed about if others found out, it is very likely that it is a sin. Another good test is to determine whether we can honestly, in good conscience, ask God to bless and use the particular activity for His own good purposes. I do not think masturbation qualifies as something we can be "proud" of or can genuinely thank God for.

The Bible teaches us, "Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God" (1 Corinthians 10:31). If there is room for doubt as to whether it pleases God, then it is best to give it up. There is definitely room for doubt in regards to masturbation. "For whatsoever is not of faith is sin" (Romans 14:23). I do not see how, according to the Bible, masturbation could be considered glorifying to God. Further, we need to remember that our bodies, as well as our souls, have been redeemed and belong to God. "What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price; therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's" (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). This great truth should have a real bearing on what we do and where we go with our bodies. So, in light of these principles, I would definitely have to say that masturbation is a sin according to the Bible. I do not believe that masturbation is pleasing to God, avoids the appearance of immorality, or passes the test of God having ownership over our bodies.

Recommended Resource: Men - Every Young Man's Battle : Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation by Stephen Arterburn.

Women - Every Young Woman's Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World by Shannon Ethridge.

Hope that helps you. I'd say that if someone is married and in need of sex, they should have sex with their spouse, not with themselves. I have no idea about the sexual limitations part of your questions. Again, I'd try gotquestions.

 

[Rickeo]

Thanks for that I understand where you are coming from and that is a useful article BUT what if a man/woman works away from home can be gone days at a time etc masturbation thinking about them would take away the sins of masturbation as your married to that person?? So surly it would be ok or within marriage it's a sexual act right??

Also again a little heated but what about the question of sexual limitations within marriage I mean is oral sex etc ok, I don't want to get this to heated as I don't want to be in any trouble but if it stop future sin from lack of knowledge then it will be worth while

Rick

 

[By His Grace]

Thank you Rickeo for the post....Sometime back Chad wrote an article on Masturbation here, i would advice you to read on that thread, you'll get your answers there. Be blessed.