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Questions about Preachers and Pastors.

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I have a question to put out to many of you to ask. I go to a small church of around 30-40, we all know everybody and get along with every one. But the past 2 pastors we have had have done some really strange stuff. Like my father-in-law is a deacon we found out he has a very curable cancer. The pastor has never once picked up the phone called to check on him. It is very hurtful to my family about this cause the last preacher(one before this one) we had my mother had brain cancer but never once did he contact me but he called my father-in-law everyday to check on her. It hurt me at the time and I understand he probably didn't want to bother me. But what is the deal with pastors doing this. I have never known our pastor to go out visiting except when he first moved down here and he came and visited my boys at home cause one got put in the hospital. What am i missing, or is the devil trying to get us to quit the church that we are in or is God trying to move us somewhere more productive in the church? Just wondering if anyone else has had this problem at all.
 
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I cannot say what is going on in the mind of someone else. I can say that I will pray for you and your family. As far as your Pastors, I guess you could always ask them about this.
Do not base any decisions off of the actions of another, instead seek the Lord and find out where He would have you; we do not always find ourselves somewhere because of ourselves, but may be placed there to help others.
 
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Sounds like while these guys may have a clergy vocation, they're lacking the spiritual maturity required for the pastoral ministry to manifest.
 
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Well maybe You should see if the Elders there would go to those peoples houses who need healed ! and pray and anoint them ! Maybe you would shame the pastor into having a little LOVe for others1 also Pray can deals with them and helps them to see the needs in your area !
Still you can do lots ! Fasting is a Good start 1 then you will Hear the LORD WELl and ask Him what you should do ?
One person can change a whole area or city ! i know You know God started with 12 guys who almost conquerored the entire whole for JESUS CHRIST ! And GOD already declared YOU more than a Conquerors is Boirn again ! We have the Same power Within Each of us those great men have GOD HAVE! We just might lack a little knowledge ? God is No respecter of persons ! I love that scripture ! It makes us all equal in Him !
NONE GREATER NONE LESS
 
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judge not least you be judged .! Ask youre pastor about this ..there may be a valid reason for this that you are not aware of ..such as how the Lord as delt with him concerning the need.. also if you put youre hope in man you will be disapointed but to put youre hope in Christ he will never let you down..pray for the pastor ,lift him up in youre time of need and see what putting others first does to get Gods attention...ive been a pastor before and i can assure you God is the only one that dosent need sleep..pastors tend to get pulled in 20 differant directions at once its no excuse but it does play into the whole of the matter..somtimes we lose sight of the vocation...pray for Him ,Go to Him,maybe God can use you to make him a better shepard to the flock .......Blessings and prayers to you and youre Family in this time.....Rev
 
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How many of the 30-40 in your church have done what you expect this pastor to have done? I think that is the true test of the maturity of a church, not what the pastor does or doesn't do.

Don't let yourself be bitter or resent towards the pastor or the church. This pastor may not have the spiritual gift of shepherding but another gift like prophecy or teaching. This is one issue with the one or two pastoral style system of church, rather than each member functioning to use their spiritual gifts...so the one or two pastor are expected to do much or all, instead of every member in the body functioning. At the end of the day God wants us to turn to Him alone for help in time of need or trouble.. and pastors are there to help shepherd and nourish us towards God in times of need. If you want pastor to visit, then ask them to visit, and I am sure they will.
 
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Sam, may I encourage you to focus on ministry...that is your ministering to others...instead of allowing your self to become preoccupied with who is or is not ministering to you. The surest way to conquer self, (our number one enemy) is to forget about self. Pray God ministers to you as you minister to others who are hurting....(and He will!)...if He uses the 'Pastor' to minister to you...good...but you may find you are too concerned with the work the Lord has given you to do, to notice much...shrug it off by saying...not today flesh...aint got time for a big ole pity party for self, I must be about my Fathers business...:dirol:

Blessings
 
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How many of the 30-40 in your church have done what you expect this pastor to have done? I think that is the true test of the maturity of a church, not what the pastor does or doesn't do.

Don't let yourself be bitter or resent towards the pastor or the church. This pastor may not have the spiritual gift of shepherding but another gift like prophecy or teaching. This is one issue with the one or two pastoral style system of church, rather than each member functioning to use their spiritual gifts...so the one or two pastor are expected to do much or all, instead of every member in the body functioning. At the end of the day God wants us to turn to Him alone for help in time of need or trouble.. and pastors are there to help shepherd and nourish us towards God in times of need. If you want pastor to visit, then ask them to visit, and I am sure they will.
A very wonderful response! When my Grandfather passed away, my pastor came to visit, and then left after being there only 10 minutes. On his way out he said, "I have to attend the golf fundraiser going on in an hour." I felt brushed off and unimportant. But the next day, I had requests from all sorts of people that attended the church, even some from people I didn't know to visit or bring groceries or help do yard work around the house while I transitioned into a new life. A very nice young couple even brought my sister and I a huge turkey already prepared with homemade mac and cheese and stuffing so that we didn't have to cook all that week. (That meal was enormous!) I agree completely with your statement.
 
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Sam, may I encourage you to focus on ministry...that is your ministering to others...instead of allowing your self to become preoccupied with who is or is not ministering to you. The surest way to conquer self, (our number one enemy) is to forget about self. Pray God ministers to you as you minister to others who are hurting....(and He will!)...if He uses the 'Pastor' to minister to you...good...but you may find you are too concerned with the work the Lord has given you to do, to notice much...shrug it off by saying...not today flesh...aint got time for a big ole pity party for self, I must be about my Fathers business...:dirol:



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Amen x 10. People will always let us down, that is the nature of human beings, let us not let that make us stumble, and let us press forth in Love.
 
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