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What Does the Bible Say About.....Pornography?

By Betty Miller

Song of Solomon 2:15 says, "Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes." Foxes sometime in search of food would enter into the grape orchards and devour the grapes and spoil the crop. However, the little foxes were too small to reach the grape bunches so they would chew on the vines and it would kill the whole vine. Instead of the farmer just losing his crop, he would lose his vine which was more disastrous. Spiritually some things we do or allow that we might think are little or insignificant can also be disastrous for us.

One of the most devastating problems that has ensnared many good people is the sin of pornography. Many of these same people will testify that they were ensnared with just a "peek." This one "little fox" led to their downfall. Many, out of curiosity, just went to a site to see what was there. This is one of the devil's tricks to get people ensnared. Satan, is the power behind this attraction to forbidden sexual images. People that are trapped today can tell you there is an evil "drawing" that compels them to return again and again. Many are desiring to be free, but seem hopelessly gripped by this evil desire. We want to share the good news -- there is a way out through Jesus Christ.

In the U.S.A., as well as many other nations of the world, our societies have become the most sexually saturated societies in human history. Sodom and Gomorrah might be the only exceptions. America's pornography industry is not only pervasive, but powerful as well. It generates more than $12 billion in revenue annually. In 1997, more than 665 million pornographic videos were sold. On the Internet, there are more than 72,000 pornographic sites. Sexually explicit "900 number" phone calls are a $2.4 billion-a-year industry. ¹

From the Internet to video stores to magazines and "900 numbers," pornography can be easily accessed nearly anywhere in America. This involvement is not limited to world at large, as surveys reveal the Christian community is highly involved in this evil snare of perversion too. How did this happen? What can be done to help people get free from this bondage? What does the Bible offer as hope to those ensnared in sin?

God has called the church to be the answer to the problems facing those addicted to pornography. God hates this sin, but He loves the sinner and wants to set them free. Many marriages are being destroyed by this evil, as after the addiction of pornography has set in, then the normal marital relationship with their spouses is no longer satisfying. Many husbands then want their wives to partake in bizarre sexual behavior with them or use sexual toys as stimulants. Some couples even watch erotic videos together to arouse each other before they engage in sex. These abnormal approaches to what God intended to be a wonderful relationship, defiles them. Instead of finding satisfaction... guilt, shame, and dissatisfaction set in. True love and intimate sharing is replaced with raw lust. What God meant to be the most beautiful experience between two people becomes a hellish depravity. God can, and will restore this relationship if they will call on Him. There is absolutely nothing that is outside of God's ability to forgive, deliver, heal and restore.

How Did This Happen?

How did our world arrive at a time in history that has so much emphasis on sexual perversions? This did not happen overnight. When the church failed to maintain a holy standard and example to the world, the world's evil influence gained momentum and now has saturated our society. Little by little, the church lowered her standards. Instead of the church influencing the world, the opposite happened, the world influenced the church. The church began to watch movies that each year became a little more dirty, a little more violent, a little more immoral, a little more deviant, a little more crazy and a little more erotic. Now today, there are unspeakable things on film that come directly from hell. They were inspired by the devil himself. These "little foxes" are now raging wolves. Sin and evil are progressive. Several layers of gray have now become black.

An example of how this happened in the area of women's dress, would be to observe the progression of women's styles. Women's hem lines have gone up while the necklines have gone down. It didn't start by going from ankle length to above the knees overnight. It took years for the ladies in the church to gradually adopt this revealing attire that others were wearing. Most Christian women on stage look no different than those in Hollywood. I am not saying that we should wear our hair in buns with no make-up. However we don't have to look like the women of the world. We can be stylish and attractive without being immodest and lustful in our dress. Today young girls come to prayer meetings in shorts and crop tops and never think any thing about it. Before you call me prudish ( I will admit I am old fashioned, yet in my school days we didn't experience the sexual violence that is happening today), let me share where I am going with this.

My husband and I, while pastoring the church, prayed with many young and not-so-young men, who were deeply disturbed as they were having problems keeping their minds on the Lord. The distraction ---- pretty young girls who would attend services in shorts, ultra tight jeans, short skirts, or low cut dresses. The men did not want these lustful feelings and were sincerely fighting to keep their thoughts pure. Most of the young girls were totally oblivious to the fact that they could be contributing to a man's temptation toward lust. I remember an incident when several people were gathered around a man to pray for him for healing. One of the young girls who wore a sleeveless and low cut top kneeled down at his feet while others stood in a circle around him to pray. I happened to be standing over her and looking down as we started to bow our heads and pray I could see her breasts above her low cut bra. The thought came to me how these young men must struggle to pray when they could see the same view as I saw.

What Can Women Do To Help Men Get Free From This Bondage?

Most of the indulgence in porno is done by men, although some women come under its power too. However, since this affects everyone in the family, it is a family problem. It must be addressed as a family issue. One of the things that I believe women are doing today, that is adding to this problem, is the way in which they dress. The goal of many young girls today is not dressing to be well groomed and attractive, but rather to be sexy. Sex crimes and rapes have soared in numbers and women's dress habits have contributed to this problem. I believe because we have not taught our daughters to dress modestly it has contributed to these crimes. We must teach our sons and daughters morality and return to Bible standards if we are to see this problem reversed.

Men no longer have to go to houses of prostitution to see women's unclad bodies. They can go to any beach or public swimming pool in the world or just watch the ads on T.V. It is really a disgrace to the church when our young daughters are allowed to wear bikini swimsuits and many of the mothers wear them too. I am not excusing men and their porno habits but we women must also change if we expect the men to get free from their sin. The Bible speaks about how women should be attired:

Proverbs 11:22, "As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion."

1 Peter 3:1-5, "Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands."

How To Be Free From Pornography

(1.) You need to first of all repent of your sin and ask Jesus to come into your heart and cleanse you and deliver you from this evil. No sin is too black or wicked that the blood of Jesus cannot cleanse you from it. The Bible says in:

1 John 1:9-10, 2:1-2: "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us. My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous: And he is the propitiation (the atoning sacrifice) for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for the sins of the whole world."

(2.) Because pornography is a spiritual problem you will need spiritual help in getting free from it. By partaking of this evil you have opened yourself up to demonic control. You may need someone who has the gift of the Holy Spirit to pray deliverance over you. You should seek out a Bible believing church that believes in deliverance and knows how to deal with demons. The Lord will lead you in this matter if you ask Him. Do not allow pride to prevent you from getting help and getting free if you need it.

James 4:7-8, "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded."

(3.) As you commit your life to Christ and obey Him you can get the victory because you are not fighting this battle alone, but you have access to the power of Christ and what He did for you.

Romans 6:12-18:

12 Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof.
13 Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God.
14 For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace.
15 What then? shall we sin, because we are not under the law, but under grace? God forbid.
16 Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?
17 But God be thanked, that ye were the servants of sin, but ye have obeyed from the heart that form of doctrine which was delivered you.
18 Being then made free from sin, ye became the servants of righteousness.


(4.) Today men and women must war in this culture to maintain their sexual purity. This battle is a battle in the mind. You must cast down imaginations that do not agree with the Bible and quote the Word of God over your body and mind.

2 Corinthians 10:3-5 "For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ."


(5.) You must stay away from the area of temptation and destroy all videos, games, magazines, etc. that are pornographic. If you must use the computer in your work environment, you should employ a filter service for your ISP or software that filters out those evil invitations so they do not enter your e-mail and cannot be accessed by your browser.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20: "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's."

(6.) Should you stumble or fall, do not stay down. Just ask the Lord to forgive you and start again in your walk with Him. Ask Him to empower you to overcome. You cannot do it in your strength. Just remember that in Him you can do all things.

Philippians 4:13: "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me."

(7.) If you need prayer we will stand with you for your victory. You can post in the prayer closet forum. Remember, the LORD loves you and so do many others including myself!

(8.) If your life or marriage has been devastated by sexual addiction we highly recommend a book that has been helpful to many called An Affair of the Mind by Laurie Hall. This amazing book is published by Focus On The Family and written from the first-hand perspective of a wife whose husband was addicted to pornography for over 20 years. This powerful book delves deep into many facets of sexual addiction. The principles in this book, if applied, can save many marriages and restore even those who are most bound to sexual addiction.
 
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I think that one of the key quotes in all of Scripture relating to pornography and the other forms of sin is the serpent's question posed to Eve: "Did God REALLY say.......?"

When we contemplate any sinful act, that little phrase floats around in the back of our mind as the enemy kindles the flame of temptation.
And our meditating on those words for however short a time, gives the enemy time to blow on the fire and heat up the flames.

I've found that when such a temptation looms before me, if I give God permission to intercept the enemy's message before it can burrow into my mind, the flames of temptation are extinguished before any damage can be done.

SLE
 
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Naked Truth!

These scriptures totally condemn the
porn business and 'all' of it's devilish
ramifications!

Satan the 'porno' king parades his fleshly
wares, turning the hearts of men to lie
with 'animals' as the church complacently
stares!

From the Song: 'Let the Church Rise'
[and move the gates of hell] Artist- Jeff
Beonward.
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Book of Leviticus:

Le:18:6: None of you shall approach to any that is near of kin to him, to uncover their nakedness: I am the LORD.
Le:18:7: The nakedness of thy father, or the nakedness of thy mother, shalt thou not uncover: she is thy mother; thou shalt not uncover her nakedness.
Le:18:8: The nakedness of thy father's wife shalt thou not uncover: it is thy father's nakedness.
Le:18:9: The nakedness of thy sister, the daughter of thy father, or daughter of thy mother, whether she be born at home, or born abroad, even their nakedness thou shalt not uncover.
Le:18:10: The nakedness of thy son's daughter, or of thy daughter's daughter, even their nakedness thou shalt not uncover: for theirs is thine own nakedness.
Le:18:11: The nakedness of thy father's wife's daughter, begotten of thy father, she is thy sister, thou shalt not uncover her nakedness.
Le:18:12: Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy father's sister: she is thy father's near kinswoman.
Le:18:13: Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy mother's sister: for she is thy mother's near kinswoman.
Le:18:14: Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy father's brother, thou shalt not approach to his wife: she is thine aunt.
Le:18:15: Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy daughter in law: she is thy son's wife; thou shalt not uncover her nakedness.
Le:18:16: Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy brother's wife: it is thy brother's nakedness.
Le:18:17: Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of a woman and her daughter, neither shalt thou take her son's daughter, or her daughter's daughter, to uncover her nakedness; for they are her near kinswomen: it is wickedness.
Le:18:18: Neither shalt thou take a wife to her sister, to vex her, to uncover her nakedness, beside the other in her life time.
Le:18:19: Also thou shalt not approach unto a woman to uncover her nakedness, as long as she is put apart for her uncleanness.
Le:18:20: Moreover thou shalt not lie carnally with thy neighbour's wife, to defile thyself with her.
Le:18:21: And thou shalt not let any of thy seed pass through the fire to Molech, neither shalt thou profane the name of thy God: I am the LORD.
Le:18:22: Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.
Le:18:23: Neither shalt thou lie with any beast to defile thyself therewith: neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto: it is confusion.
Le:18:24: Defile not ye yourselves in any of these things: for in all these the nations are defiled which I cast out before you:
Le:18:25: And the land is defiled: therefore I do visit the iniquity thereof upon it, and the land itself vomiteth out her inhabitants.


Rom. 13:14: But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof.

Gal.5:24: And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.

God Bless!

Your brother in Christ,

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Porns are so nasty. Yet so tempting, we can't defeat it with our own powerful. Betty Miller is so right in saying that we must lay down our pride and ask for help. Help is not far away, just close your eyes and he's right there to catch us all when we're falling and committing sins.
 
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Why is pornography such a huge business in this day and age? If God didnt want us to see it, why would this industry blossom like it has?
 
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Pornography,cjl1108, is huge business because Satan is artful and has entrapped many many people. It is incidious and has pervaded the whole of society. little by little, over the recent years, small indiscressions have become acceptable until eventually almost anything goes.
 
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Why is pornography such a huge business in this day and age? If God didnt want us to see it, why would this industry blossom like it has?
Let's put it this way, simply: man is given freedom to choose right or wrong. This freedom comes from GOD. You obey or you disobey Him. The size of a sinful industry such as porn simply means there are that much porn loving sinners who support such a beast. In the end, it boils down to each man's freedom to choose right or wrong.

All will be judged in the end:

Joel 1:15
Alas for the day! For the day of [the judgment of] the Lord is at hand, and as a destructive tempest from the Almighty will it come.

Jeremiah 51:52
Therefore behold, the days are coming, says the Lord, when I will execute judgment upon [Babylon's] idols and images, and throughout all her land the wounded will groan.
 
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Now that I am finding God again there are so many things in my life that are going to have to change, a lot of which I am finding hard to understand. This might sound crazy, but I dont see anything wrong with porn. I dont watch anything unatural, I dont have an addiction to it, I just find it entertaining sometimes. There are things in this world that are deemed unholy, and it is so crazy to me because I consider them simply a part of life. I dont cosider porn a big deal, I dont know how else to cut it. If something isnt a big deal then is it still bad?

Would you cosider a sex tape between a man and his wife pornography? If they were the only 2 people who would ever watch it?

(bear with me... some of my posts are going to sound off the wall, I havent been to church in probably 20 years, other than weddings or funerals.)
 
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Jesus said...

Matthew 5:28
But I say to you that everyone who so much as looks at a woman with evil desire for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Matthew 15:19
For out of the heart come evil thoughts (reasonings and disputings and designs) such as murder, adultery, sexual vice, theft, false witnessing, slander, and irreverent speech.

Now, regarding your own views....

Proverbs 3:5
Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.
 
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Oh boy

Am I not allowed my own insight and understanding? God gave me this amzingly powerful body and brain, am I not to use it?

Do I have to clean up everything in my life the second I realise it might be wrong? I think I might have a list a mile long. I am a really good, kind hearted person, it just seems like there are so many things in this world that are deemed bad, things that I would have never ever considered wrong until now.

( I feel like I might need my own thread, I have so many questions and thoughts, I dont want to be selfish and hijack other peoples threads )
 
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Oh boy

Am I not allowed my own insight and understanding? God gave me this amzingly powerful body and brain, am I not to use it?


Do I have to clean up everything in my life the second I realise it might be wrong? I think I might have a list a mile long. I am a really good, kind hearted person, it just seems like there are so many things in this world that are deemed bad, things that I would have never ever considered wrong until now.

( I feel like I might need my own thread, I have so many questions and thoughts, I dont want to be selfish and hijack other peoples threads )
I gave you Scripture. Use that instead of your own understanding just as Scripture says. Do you seek wisdom? Do you seek GOD? Your asking questions, I gave you answers as did others. Why ask these questions if your going to be apparently offended about not using your own inisght? We should not lean on our own understanding as GOD made clear.
 
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Can one MB for purely health related reasons? MB with no impure thoughts, surely must be ok? Doctors are saying it is darn near necessity now days. I really am at a point in my life where I want to give myself to God, but at the same time I dont want prostate cancer either.
 
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What health reasons do these fine doctors claim? Let me ask you this. How does one "mb" without lusting, dwelling on some kind of impure thoughts? I honestly never heard of this possiblity.

I think its better to listen to GOD and ask Him to guide you instead of these human imperfect doctors.
 
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I dont think its just a claim it seems to be widely excepted fact that ejeculating is essential for good prostate health. To prevent things such as prostate cancer, prostatitis, and problems urinating.

To answer your second question, I am sure it is possible. I really dont want to get graphic, even though I am sure we are all mature. For arguments sake, lets say one could clear their mind and do it, would that still be bad? What if one envisions ones spouse?

On a personal note, do you yourself ever go to the doctors?
 
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You can't 'mb' without thinking about and hence adulterising with someone. If you lust with your eyes and indeed thoughts, you have comitted adultary. Unless it's with your wife.
 
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You can't 'mb' without thinking about and hence adulterising with someone. If you lust with your eyes and indeed thoughts, you have comitted adultary. Unless it's with your wife.
In agreement. With your own wife, its not lust. Its pure. Anyone else, its adultery, impure.
 
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I still don't think we should MB because when we do that it allow satan to get into our life. In my opinion of MB about your wife is still lust and it's unhealthy. Sex should be between a man and a woman. Not a man imagining a woman and pleasing himself. I realize it very tough to stay away from lust and MB. I struggle with lust for the most part of my life, but it's a battle we all must face with God help we will defeated it. Don't make up excuse to make it seem ok to MB, because it just gonna bring you down spiritually. Keep fighting back the Satan will flee. God Bless brother.
 
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cjl1108, I understand where you're coming from when you say there is a mile-long list of things that would have to change and that you are a kind-hearted person.. I was in that same situation for 20 years.... I'm still 20... On New Years Eve of 2005 I gave it all to Christ because I realized how sin was affecting me, and how my sin was affecting other people. From the way I conducted my behaviors, including MB (you say you may not be addicted, at one point, i wasn't... but it can happen within a blink of an eye and i still struggle with it today. It affects me and other people so much because I feel so shameful and guilty for days after I do it that people don't get the attention from me that they may need because I'm so focused on how i messed up. After forgiveness and overcoming, the way I act towards God, myself, and others is totally different and God uses me in amazing ways), Gambling (taking advantage of someone else's weakness to benefit myself. The other people at the poker table could've had a gambling problem too and I was making it worse for them taking their money, making them angry, jealous, prideful, etc. I know it was their choice to be there too, but it's a setting where the people who are really into it are not going to encourage you to get out of it, but the exact opposite... so you keep coming back. I was addicted to playing live and online poker. Some say, that's not bad, but my time was spent chasing something that was not and would never make me happy... money, material, and confidence for playing well. I wasted time where i could've been asking God to help me with my problems, help other people with theirs, do homework, study, go home and spend time with my family who needs to become closer... the list goes on.), Drugs and alcohol (not only did the drugs and alcohol themselves wear me down physically and mentally by helping me make stupid decisions... stealing, judging, lusting, indulging in anything, dishonesty towards loved ones to hide what i was doing, they kept me in an environment with "friends" who really didn't care about my well-being, but more about my company because i shared the same habit as they did and they liked me while we were engaging in them. I've seen and experienced much betrayal within the environment, gossip, slander, fights, people taking things the wrong way, etc. There was just no good coming out of it, the "good times" with laughing and joking is really a disguise to what's going on underneath everything. Here's something sad, but i was expecting it to happen after i gave my life to Jesus: I knew i had to stop doing all of these things to be closer to Jesus and obey Him, and I knew I'd have to make new friends because the old ones weren't going to follow me and Jesus, but remain practicing every habit i was trying to flee from. I realized that they might get offended and think that i was trying to be better than them, which obviously isn't the case, i just love Jesus more than anyone including myself. SO, I asked God to lead to meet Christian friends because I knew I'd need them for spiritual support. He led me to my university's Baptist Collegiate Ministries and the relationships are building emmensely. As for my other friends I used to have... they don't really call me anymore. I call them to hang out, they don't pick up their phone. My best friend from highschool and college wants nothing to do with me anymore. He's angry at my honesty and my heart to do good, cuz he's lost and just doesn't understand the truth and how Jesus changes our whole perspective on life. So I realized, this group i was a part of, a group with people who i thought were "good-hearted" all turned their backs on me because I stopped doing the things that were keeping me from obeying God. Each one of them thinks they are good-hearted, but it's not truly good without the Holy Spirit. I thought i was good-hearted yet i still talked about other people all the time, took advantage of people, etc. I'm sharing these experiences in hopes that you'll evaluate your mile-long list of things/habits and how they affect you and other people, and most importantly, your relationship with God. Ask God to reveal truth to you. After New Years, God delivered me from drugs, alcohol, gambling, a foul mouth, deceitfulness, and has changed my heart to care about my relationship with Him and to be more selfless than ever before. He's blessed me in so many ways and I know He will do the same for you. It took a while to realize the impact my habits had on things, and I also had to dig deep down and find out why I was doing these things. I came up with this: I was looking for love and acceptance. I had a history of abuse, and a not so loving father that I longed for. These 2 factors shaped my whole outlook on life and led me down many stray paths. Jesus replaced my father and provided for me love, and He is everything. I know your history is different from mine but I encourage you to try and realize your motives in the things you do, you may find that you too are just looking for love in all the wrong places like i was. Jesus is where to find it, not the stuff on the list. There were, and still are, a lot of questions I had about myself and the bible before I was saved. In addition to prayer, a site that really helped me out was www gotquestions org. It has many answers to many burning questions that believers and non-believers have. I hope all of this helps! God bless
 

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