people that are hard to love

[wishIwasMary]

alright i've been struggling like crazy with this one person. He's in my youth group and he's a very knowledgable christian. the problem is the way he treats me. we get in fights at the drop of a hat and he acts as if i'm completely dumb and what i say doens't even mean a thing. at one point he told me "it's as if you're ignorant to being ignorant." i could go on but it'd be pointless.. the main problem is that i can't find a way to just get along with him. i'm sure i'm holding this major grudge because of everything and i don't want to be! i've been praying about it a lot. but it just seems it's always a roller coaster and no matter how much i think we're growing out of it, it always comes back. we just recently had a huge fight and it seems both of us were being extremly prideful but i'm scared to talk about it because i highly doubt he'll admit anything he did was wrong at all and i think we were both wrong. and when that happens is when i usually get mad all over again! i just don't know what to do! now it seems i only see him as a prideful jerk with a hidden agenda to always appear right about everything. should i just apologize for my wrong doings forgive him for anything he did even if he doesn't admit it and then just try to steer clear of him? that'd be easy if we both weren't so involved in everything in church. no matter what he's always there. he's just in my circle of friends so what i do with my friends he's there to! i just don't know what to do!

 

[nightowl76]

I can understand how your feel. How do your friends feel about this person?? I guess the only advice I can give you is to try to forgive this person and to try to be civil to him and to ignore what he says. He may be knowlegeable but his attitude is anything but Christian. If he was really that knowlegable he would know that.

 

[Bobinfaith]

alright i've been struggling like crazy with this one person. He's in my youth group and he's a very knowledgable christian. the problem is the way he treats me. we get in fights at the drop of a hat and he acts as if i'm completely dumb and what i say doens't even mean a thing. at one point he told me "it's as if you're ignorant to being ignorant." i could go on but it'd be pointless.. the main problem is that i can't find a way to just get along with him. i'm sure i'm holding this major grudge because of everything and i don't want to be! i've been praying about it a lot. but it just seems it's always a roller coaster and no matter how much i think we're growing out of it, it always comes back. we just recently had a huge fight and it seems both of us were being extremly prideful but i'm scared to talk about it because i highly doubt he'll admit anything he did was wrong at all and i think we were both wrong. and when that happens is when i usually get mad all over again! i just don't know what to do! now it seems i only see him as a prideful jerk with a hidden agenda to always appear right about everything. should i just apologize for my wrong doings forgive him for anything he did even if he doesn't admit it and then just try to steer clear of him? that'd be easy if we both weren't so involved in everything in church. no matter what he's always there. he's just in my circle of friends so what i do with my friends he's there to! i just don't know what to do!

Dear WishIWasMary,

It seems that when you and this brother bump heads you both are at church? Please read the thread When We Enter Talk Jesus under the forum Suggestions. There are two scriptures that pertains to exactly what you both are going through.

Please read and meditate on Ecclesiastes 5:1-7 "Guard your steps when you go to the house of God. Go near to listen"

And Proverbs 10:9-14 "The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life"

When we enter His house we need to keep our conduct Christ centered and remember there are younger youths that may see this. I hope you and our brother can work this out because it sounds like you both have so much to offer to others, WishIWasMary.

Your brother in Christ Jesus!

 

[wishIwasMary]

wow thanx so much guys! i think just like getting it out there and recieving encouragement from fellow christians already makes this a lot easier! i'm going to continue praying about this so that i won't get so agitated in the future. thank you very much for the replies!

 

[mymakersdaughter]

You know, sometimes it is hard to get along with everybody and I think that is okay. But again we have to be civil with each other and just say "well, we will just have to disagree with that then." and then leave it alone. There are just some individuals who think they know more than anybody, but we have to keep ourselves in check and be humble. That doesn't mean you give in for a the sake of an arguement but stand down as it won't go anywhere. Remeber you have nothing to prove and just be yourself, be accepting. Keep us posted.

 

[gawad]

Hi Wishiwasmary,
I think you should just ignore him and don't bother yourself much with what he says, ignoring him will make you feel more better and makes him (may be) feel that he did something wrong