My wife

[MRoe]

I ask for prayer for my wife. She was raised Cathloic, and never really went to church much. When we met, I had fallen away from Christ, and chosen a sinful life style. Almost dsytroyed my marriage. Some close freiends, I use to fellowship with from another state, I beleive were sent by God to give me a swift kick in the pants to get my life back in order. Now that I've done that. Am going to a great church and bible study group. My life and clear clean mind are just fantastic. Life is great. I know my wife sees a change in me, and she knows why. But we're "not on the same page" when it comes to Jesus and salvation. I ask her every Sunday if she wants to go to church with me. But never does. Last Sunday her responce was, "How about you just go for awile." I know partly she may think I'm just going through a phase. I pray Christ's light and love shine though me, that she me see it's real.

 

[Thiscrosshurts]

Some close friends, I use to fellowship with from another state, I believe were sent by God to give me a swift kick in the pants to get my life back in order.

But we're "not on the same page" when it comes to Jesus and salvation.

Do you see any similarities?
Although I don't recommend a swift kick in the pants she sees the difference and she may even test to see if it's the real thing.

When praying for the lost we can rid ourselves of our own opinions about someones standing with God and try to see things from his point of view by remembering a few key points.

Romans 11:32 For God has bound all men over to disobedience so that he may have mercy on them all.

Proverbs 21:30 There is no wisdom, no insight, no plan that can succeed against the LORD.


Proverbs 21:1 The king’s heart is in the hand of the LORD; he directs it like a watercourse wherever he pleases.


Proverbs 16:9 In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps.


Proverbs 20:24 A man’s steps are directed by the LORD. How then can anyone understand his own way?

Some of these verses lend the idea that our concept of freewill may be somewhat flawed at the very least.
If I thought anyone had any real say in their lives I don't think I would bother to pray for them at all,well maybe just a short prayer to fulfill my obligations. Not with any kind of belief my prayer will be answered because it would be more up to the person than God.

I wonder if your friends prayed before reviving you.
I wonder if they considered failure as an option.

Mark 11:24 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.

 

[Trisha]

I am glad to hear that you are "back." You married outside the faith. Hopefully things will turn around where your wife is concerned. It is a decision she will have to make for her own eternal destiny and out of a desire to follow Christ. Just going to church with you will not do it..I know that because my now exhusband came to church with me and he was never born again but, as far as I could tell, faked it. You don't want that. I pray also that she sees the new you for yours and for her own sake. The marriage will be stronger and you can grow together and never look back. Marrying outside the faith is risky business. God did not put you together, not necessarily anyway, but He hates divorce so He may become the glue that holds the marriage together. Hope so. Keep praying for her and never mind asking her to attend church. Talk to her about Jesus or read something in the bible to her that excites you if you feel led to. Talking about church won't do any good. This is just my advice because of my past experience with it.

 

[amadeus2]

I am praying for your wife and your situation!

 

[Daniel Symmons]

My wife also chooses not to come to church and I wish she would. I've tried persuading her in many ways but have come to realise that the best approach is just to pray ernestly and constantly for her and be the best christian husband God can help me to be. I think it is often true that how we are is far more persuasive than what we say. If she sees a change in you, that's great! Also be patient. A friend helped me to remember how patient God has been to me and how slow I've been to respond and yet we want our loved ones to jump at our request. My wife's salvation is in Jesus' hands and timing not mine.
I pray for you both and and ask for your prayers for us for His will to be done in His way and His time. God bless!!

 

[Brad Huber]

Saying a prayer for your wife and yourself!! Be strong in the Lord, He will guide you if you listen to His voice.

 

[MRoe]

We live in Scottsdale Arizona, and I go to Highland Church, and have been for several Sundays now, am involved in a Men's bible study on Thursday nights, and a 60's bible study group on Tuesdays. Got my wife talked into going to the 60's group potluck monthly meeting this Saturday, and we're also going Christmas caroling. My wife works at a mortuary. A couple comes in to make arrangements, but they are all "happy". She didn't quite understand why. Then they started sharing with her, also told her that they go to Highland church. She said, "Oh, my husband goes there." They said, "And you don't?" She said, "But I'm going to the 60's monthly potluck this weekend." Then they said, "Great then we'll sit with you." Isn't it amazing how God works.

 

[Thiscrosshurts]

I guess you can't see that stupid looking smile on my face brother,but it is there.
It is so awesome to see the God's promises in action.

Now he who began a good work in us all is faithful to complete it.
That dinner is going to turn on some lights.
Godspeed brother

 

[Rev T.S.Perkins]

Brother youre on the right track ....Let the Holy Spirit work on her you concentrate on youre realationship with Christ and she will be drawn in by the sweetness not by the constsnat persistance of a Husband that means well..Love her ,pray for her but leave it in Gods hands and be wiling to step up When God tells you //// God saves we dont..! Trust in the Lord and you will be pleased with youre choice...Rev

 

[MRoe]

Before I came back to the fold, so to speak, I deeply hurt her. In attempting to have an affair. It never happened, but she was so hurt, and with all the lies I was doing at that time in my life, she can not understand this "overnight" change in me, and thinks it's temperary, as I have made promises before. In fact, just today, I am here at work, and she wrote me and let it all out, about she still thinks I'm lieing and can't see how this instant change can be real. I emailed some fellow Christains about her and asked them to pray for her, and us as a couple. I'm wondering if she got into my email. I have not said anything bad about her, but did mention she was raised Cathloic but does not go to church. In her letter, she let me have it with both barrels so to speak. Said that just because, she doesn't go to church, she's still a good person, and she is not going to become "born again" Hmmm? I never ever implied that she needed that. Just that's what happened to me. She was very bitter and un-trusting. I answered her letter in a very loving way. I told her we could talk more tonight. That I would answer any question she asked, as I was not the lieing evil person I use to be. So keep us in your prayers tonight. Thanks, Mike

 

[Rev T.S.Perkins]

Mike Brother ..my prayers are with you ..Trust is a hard thing to gain once its lost ..BUT WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE.! my experience is when people start telling you they are a good person even if they dont go to church is because they are trying to justify there actions because the Holy Spirit is speaking to them about the need for Christ in thier lives.!! Keep the Faith brother there is some shakin goin on here..May the Lord grant you grace in this and may He Speak words of Healing through you !!..My sister even after my salvation still holds me to the standerd of my old ways and She has no trust in me ..It happens.. but only God knows the Heart and its all about Him and not our reputation any way ..right.? Rev

 

[MRoe]

Last night things went very well. She proceeded to pour out all the hurt I caused her in the past, she still can't figure out the over night change in me. I was very loving and caring towards her. I confessed that I was a great liar to her, and that I was NOT that person any more. That I would be here for her as long as it would take for her to trust me again. She said that she would go with me this weekend to the 60"s church potluck and Christmas caroling. So she will be exposed to more Christian people. I 'm hoping and praying God will use them. I know God spoke through me last night. Thank you all for all your prayers.

 

[Rev T.S.Perkins]

Lord i pray that you prerpare her heart to recieve you as lord and master and that Jesus fill her heart ..I stand with my brother as we place her in youre hands for youre Glory and i pray that she be shown a repentant Heart in my brother .....Lord also i ask that you speak to those around her that they speak no evil or condemnation but that you alone would control thier tounge and allow youre love to show through..In Jesus name .Amen...Rev

 

[lyn]

I will be praying for you both.That God will encourage you and she will come to know the Lord. God Bless

 

[Daniel Symmons]

Praying for you both and giving thanks for the good things He has done already. God makes us new and gives us streanght to be constant patient and loving. This is his call to us and our message to those closest to us (and the rest of the world).

God is smiling!