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What do I do if I have a mother who does not care about God anymore and it shows by her attitude toward me?
Who do I look to for what a mother could only provide? I think only she can fulfill a mother but im sad because the casino is taking her attention, affection and attitude in a route I don't want to think of.
Please help if you can.
 
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Sometimes word pictures can help you communicate your hurts to the person.

Have you ever told her, "Hey, that hurts me?"

Have you asked her to do something with you instead?

Have you asked for a hug?

Have you told her you love her?

Have you told her you are disappointed in some of the things she does?

Not condemning. Just giving you options.
 
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I told my father he wasn't being a father. I told him what he should do instead. He said he never heard it before.

His children fought and he believed in being a politician which means the kids were allowed to fight and my dad would never tell them they were wrong. The kids believed they could become the parents and do what they wanted.
 
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Sometimes word pictures can help you communicate your hurts to the person.

Have you ever told her, "Hey, that hurts me?"

Have you asked her to do something with you instead?

Have you asked for a hug?

Have you told her you love her?

Have you told her you are disappointed in some of the things she does?

Not condemning. Just giving you options.
Shes my mom I cant tell her what to do. I just want her to choose to love when she sees I love her because she loved me and God loves her and he loved first.
I just want to have family as it used to and it seems like money is the main focus of this house but I know the Lord is long suffering for us so I hope things go well. But it might have been Jesus sword that divided the family and if it was for my own good than I am thankful for it. But I hope the family will change one day soon.
 
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Ask her to think about you and to choose better for you.

Relationships are all reciprocal or complimentary.

Tell her your dreams, your wants and desires.

Ask her to do things with you.
 
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The reality is, adults feel like they might not make enough or be able to find another job so they feel locked into their current jobs.

Employers create a lot of pressures. Employers feel like if they are not taking advantage of employees, they are losing out somehow.
 
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Ask her to think about you and to choose better for you.

Relationships are all reciprocal or complimentary.

Tell her your dreams, your wants and desires.

Ask her to do things with you.
Im living in her house beyond 18 so Im grateful that shes been a good mother in alot of ways but in recent years Ive been diagnosed with scitzophrenia and I had autism since I was a kid although for the most part it didnt hinder my ability to work it has caused some what I call jerk people to be jealous and they dont want me succeeding in the workplace and it hurts because I mind my own when Im in my zone--working hard.
I just have been read as a short attention span or if someone passes by to try to talk to me its almost blatant sabotage because I have a weakness that is targeted my fellow workers and they want the "wows" and praises that I know I get so they distract me. I take responsibility when I fail but I know that my strengths are -working hard, fast pace, I'm stronger when its about endurance, I have a more care about the customer, and I give respect where its earned. So without doubt I was the best.
But Because I couldn't hold those jobs because of who I am as well as my preexisting diagnosis of autism aspergers which makes it difficult in the first place my Mom didnt tell me to give up on workforce altogether but I think she wanted by telling me to apply for social security disability to collect because I obviously need to because I cant cope with the people who persecute me on work heres a list of the mistakes of the workplace.
Matthrew the immediate supervisor at walmart on the cap 2 he shook me like a rag doll from the waist with his arms wrapped around my arms. in front of the higher up Crystal who called me dumb in the sight of money grubbing little worms that do anything for a paycheck including turning the blind eye to meaningless meanness directed at me.
Then Gabriel the jerk who threw a can at me while he was drunk on the job. He got away with it and I quit the next day over the phone and the walmart mains in charge they made it look like I was abandoning my position when I was resigning because of the chaotic workers they hired. Then at Smiths I had to deal with a jerk bully named Luis who liked bumping into people when there's room to walk. And William the evil godless supervisor of the nightcrew at my first real job, after proving myself overworking for 1 and a half years they gave me a new position as nightcrew from courtesy clerk which only paid minimum wage.
And by law I was supposed to receive a raise but when I was promoted in july 2014 they kept telling me youll get your raise in october then they said in october it would happen in January and they conspired a plot to force me out the job in a spiteful way which came to be in November and I had autism which for us that know means short circuit for abuse. And I retaliated when he called me a hurtful name I called him one back and he hit me and I hit him back and he took me down like a police officer takes down some criminal. And I quit on the spot and when I tried to report to the union who is supposed to protect my job she said that they said the cameras were off in the store and lied about the happenings that night. Its a screwed up thing what happened.
So my mom helped me realize that I need disability as a backup and I had been denying I need those up to that point when she said I need to apply and I began that process at around December 2018.
Now it seems her patience is wearing thin and my schizophrenia is increasing every year. And my mom doesn't feel it so she probably thinks of it as a dog barking or something but its more than that its what feels like cars, planes, sometimes the fan in my room and the clock talking to me. Its weird. But my mom is there sometimes but they let this serpect the second born of the children of my dad and mom, they let the serpent like sister(who doesn't confess the Lord Jesus before us) have legs and it tramples on the niceness and kindness of my parents.
Its a messy house. Its only clean for as long as the meanie is out of the house.
My mom cant handle all this she smoked for nearly 40 years and quit in 2017 and she is on oxygen and goes to work and apparently her immediate supervisor is evil to the point that she forbids my mom from going to the restroom when my mom says she needs to go.
GODBLESS my mother! And me.
 

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