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married to a non-christian

hello everyone. i have quite a long story so bare with me please. i'm 25 and recently married. my husband and i have been together for about 2 1/2 years. my mother is from israel and i was raised as a jew. although i was jewish, i was not religious and did not believe in God. i've had quite a difficult life, which i suppose made it easier for me to find God and Jesus. for the past three years or so, i've been connected to God, but it wasn't until about half a year ago that i accepted Jesus. my husband comes from a family that used to be christian and was very serious about it. he always rejected his family's beliefs even as a young child. he's a very intellectual person and needs to feel like he's the only one in control of his life. my husband is 24, and has had a very good life. his family is amazing and he has been well loved. but he is struggling in finding himself, as am i. however, since accepting jesus into my life, i've made incredible progress. whereas, my husband remains static. as a result, our marriage is suffering. i've made suggestions to him several times, to try praying and ask God to show him a sign as to whether he exists or not. i've suggested books for him to read. but he fights it tooth and nail. we'll have many discussions, after heated arguments, and it'll seem as though he understands, but then nothing will happen. he'll go back to being consumed with his computer, interent, etc. i'm at a loss. i feel trapped and held down.
Hi Talia,
I understand what you are saying about being stuck. I am confused as to the issue being either him stuck to his computer and the like or the Christian faith. Is the conflict with his faith or lack their of or his computer? You two approaches to look at 1. being telling him how much you love him and why you fell in love with him and then be an example to show him Christ's love for him. There is only so much one can say about how God wants us to live and the Bible calls for us to show our Salvation to those that don't know him. 2. is sit down and have talk with him about how to resolve a conflict. There are 10 steps my husband and I use to help us navigate this marriage thing.

1. Set a time and place for a discussion.
2. Define the problem or issue of disagreement.
3. How do you each contribute to the problem?
4. List past attempts to resolve the issue that were not successful.
5. Brainstorm. List all possible solutions.
6. Discuss and evaluate the possible solutions.
7. Agree on one solution to try.
8. Agree on how each individual will work towards this solution.
9. Set up another meeting. Discuss your progress.
10. Reward each other as you each contribute towards the solution.

These are from the Prepare/Enrich Program.
We were told to face each other and hold hands when going through this.

Continue reaching out to your husband out of love for him, Christ is faithful.

Hello Talia, I know exactly what it's like to live with a non-believing husband. I pray daily for the Lord to come into his heart. Read 1 Corinthians 7:14, it talks of a believing wife sanctifying an unbelieving husband. Also, in1 Peter
3:1-2 it talks of a wife by not saying anything and by the way she lives her life in front of her husband, she may win him to the Lord. The best thing you can do is try strive to walk righteously and pray often for the salvation of your husband. May God bless and keep you.